An unwarranted and completely false accusation was made against my family to CPS, and now we have someone who wants to question my family. I have 5 wonderful children, and the very thought of someone threatening my ability to be around them is absolutely terrifying. We have never had any issues, and we have many friends and family that can account for how we treat our children. This whole thing has turned our lives upside down just thinking about it. I need your prayers for strength and peace and for blessed and good results to get this agency out of our lives quickly. Thank you.
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Praying for you, fren.
We had false accusations from a doctor, of all people. He had made a diagnosis we didn't agree with and recommended we follow up with a couple of specialists, which I didn't do. The next time we were in the office, he said he was going to send the referrals for the specialists again, so I let him know we had no intention of taking her to those doctors, so following our appointment, we received a letter stating that we had thirty days to follow up with those specialties or his office would be notifying CPS. On reading the letter, my husband panicked and made plans to comply, the sweet man. I just laughed and said there was no way I was going to comply under threat.
I immediately took my daughter to an independent lab for blood work which proved she didn't have what he diagnosed her with. Then we happily spoke to the friendly CPS case worker for two hours in our home with our children and adult children present. They make you listen to the allegations without comment, then they give you all the time you need to refute it. I asked if the doctor had given them any of my daughter's medical history that causes her "red flags" he reported us for--he had not given them any of that information. Be careful with this--it opens up their need to access health info. In our case, my daughter's medical history is extensive and CPS was most likely overwhelmed with data from her multiple surgeries, specialist visits, and diagnoses. We gave the case worker the lab work showing she didn't have what he claimed, then she sat with us and chatted while petting our dog.
It turned out that our case worker was familiar with the birth defect my daughter was born with (the one the doctor didn't report), and based on what we had told her, she recommended a family doctor who allows parents to advocate for their children. I scheduled a visit with that doctor for me personally before taking my daughter to see her, and we both love her for her gentle ways and for listening. She even showed us a pic of a friend's baby who was born with my daughter's condition and knew all the "red flags." We asked that she remove the diagnosis, which she did on the spot.
Having adopted four kids through foster care, we knew how things worked. Not all case workers are as amazing as the one we had, but they are legitimately there to get your side of the story. My best advice is to always remain logical while advocating for your child and your family. Keep your kids close and remain in the space together. God bless the case workers who are being distracted from real needs in the community in order to deal with false accusations.
Some very important information.
Especially about keeping together in the space. Good battle tactics.
Thanks fren.