You can turn that feature off (on Android at least) - it gets bright to do facial recognition to unlock your phone. it's one of the first things I turned off.
Praying that the 2 week break from everything will be helpful to your wife and she will realize that she is the one who is being manipulated. I hope that your relationship and marriage will go stronger and you both can get through this.
ChatGPT is having some major issues right now and many on Twitter reporting it is down.