My husband is an amazing, kind, and thoughtful person who has overcome many many disadvantages from his early life. He's still looking for a therapist he can be honest with. Conservatism is now a diagnosable condition for many therapists.
I'm sorry to hear that your MIL also suffered from narcissism. My husband is trying to figure out just how much involvement he wants his mother to have with our family. How did your Husband decide?
You really are right that personal responsibility is not popular with the liberals and atheists.
My mom was the same way with my sister. When I had my son I showed my mom real science and told her I did not hold the choices she made against her so she should accept that I was making my own choices. The best decision I made besides giving natural birth with no drugs was breastfeeding.
Had an epidural with my first two, no epidural with my third. There are pros and cons to both types of deliveries. I hate the term natural birth because the opposite is what, an unnatural birth? You can say an unmedicated birth. But we shouldn’t be shaming people who have to have emergency c sections (that save both mom and baby’s lives!!!) that they haven’t had a natural birth. Or that people who did choose to use drugs had an unnatural birth either. We’ve come so far in technology that birth has become a lot less scary. It is however, still incredibly dangerous for both mom and baby even with all the advances we have made. I believe the best birth “plan” is whatever allows both mom and baby to live through the process. Not one of my deliveries has gone according to how I thought it would be and that’s ok. I have breastfed all of my babies and I haven’t had any problems with it. My sister, however, had to stop breastfeeding her second son after her fourth time getting mastitis and was so grateful that formula was invented. I think the best thing to do to prepare for being a mom is obviously decide how you want things to go but if they don’t go according to plan? That’s ok too.
Sorry my fren, it was never my intention to shame anyone with my word choice. Far from it! I of course agree that safety is the number one priority. Congratulations on your beautiful family!
I used hypnosis to train my brain to not feel pain. Fear is what does the most to cause pain during birth. Trust that God designed your body perfectly to give birth. You can do it
Thank you sharing your experience with me my fren! I've heard good things about hypnosis, I'm going to look into it more seriously after your recommendation!
Congrats! My last came naturally even though I begged for an epidural. "Honey the baby is RIGHT there! Just a couple pushes!" I was so afraid because I hadn't prepared for a no-drug birth and baby came fast.
She didn't do it and is terrified of anyone who does breast feed because she can't stand even the implication that she might have made a mistake.
You can really tell that mothers who breast feed have a different sort of relationship with their children than those who don't.
Narcissism red flag. Can't be wrong. Ever.
100% a narcissist. With her, someone else (usually her son) is always to blame.
These are the moms that keep therapists busy. Miracle your husband is whole. My MIL is also, but was gone for the most part b4 I showed up.
These are the ppl you pity from a distance if you can. & of course shes a liberal! Personal responsibility is blasphemy to that religion.
My husband is an amazing, kind, and thoughtful person who has overcome many many disadvantages from his early life. He's still looking for a therapist he can be honest with. Conservatism is now a diagnosable condition for many therapists.
I'm sorry to hear that your MIL also suffered from narcissism. My husband is trying to figure out just how much involvement he wants his mother to have with our family. How did your Husband decide?
You really are right that personal responsibility is not popular with the liberals and atheists.
My mom was the same way with my sister. When I had my son I showed my mom real science and told her I did not hold the choices she made against her so she should accept that I was making my own choices. The best decision I made besides giving natural birth with no drugs was breastfeeding.
I want to give natural birth as well (I'm currently pregnant with my first). Glad to hear you had a good experience with it!
Had an epidural with my first two, no epidural with my third. There are pros and cons to both types of deliveries. I hate the term natural birth because the opposite is what, an unnatural birth? You can say an unmedicated birth. But we shouldn’t be shaming people who have to have emergency c sections (that save both mom and baby’s lives!!!) that they haven’t had a natural birth. Or that people who did choose to use drugs had an unnatural birth either. We’ve come so far in technology that birth has become a lot less scary. It is however, still incredibly dangerous for both mom and baby even with all the advances we have made. I believe the best birth “plan” is whatever allows both mom and baby to live through the process. Not one of my deliveries has gone according to how I thought it would be and that’s ok. I have breastfed all of my babies and I haven’t had any problems with it. My sister, however, had to stop breastfeeding her second son after her fourth time getting mastitis and was so grateful that formula was invented. I think the best thing to do to prepare for being a mom is obviously decide how you want things to go but if they don’t go according to plan? That’s ok too.
Sorry my fren, it was never my intention to shame anyone with my word choice. Far from it! I of course agree that safety is the number one priority. Congratulations on your beautiful family!
I used hypnosis to train my brain to not feel pain. Fear is what does the most to cause pain during birth. Trust that God designed your body perfectly to give birth. You can do it
Thank you sharing your experience with me my fren! I've heard good things about hypnosis, I'm going to look into it more seriously after your recommendation!
Congrats! My last came naturally even though I begged for an epidural. "Honey the baby is RIGHT there! Just a couple pushes!" I was so afraid because I hadn't prepared for a no-drug birth and baby came fast.
You can totally do it if I can do it.
What an amazing story! Hahaha! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm so glad you and your little one are safe and healthy. Congratulations!