My husband is an amazing, kind, and thoughtful person who has overcome many many disadvantages from his early life. He's still looking for a therapist he can be honest with. Conservatism is now a diagnosable condition for many therapists.
I'm sorry to hear that your MIL also suffered from narcissism. My husband is trying to figure out just how much involvement he wants his mother to have with our family. How did your Husband decide?
You really are right that personal responsibility is not popular with the liberals and atheists.
Thank you so much, my fren! Your advice is greatly appreciated!
It's interesting you recommend a male counselor, he was working with a lady therapist, who he thought was very nice but who he felt had a path in mind for him before he chose one.
Thank you VERY much for the book recommendations. He read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents but felt there was something wrong with his mother (he's scared of her, constant nightmares, etc) beyond what the book addressed. I will order those books right now!
You are welcome! When your mom's a narcissist, you're going to have mommy issues. I don't know your husband's story, nor should I -- it just seems that starting with a good Christian based male counselor, the focus will be more on understanding where his duty to his mother ends.
If she's really out there, you might read up on whether she might be a borderline. Thats especially difficult to deal with -- the victim stance raises flags -- but in the end, it comes down to gracefully & effectively communicating how much $hit you're willing to accept. (Truly an art)
Ah. So I was a therapist for 15 years. Awesome to hear abt your husband. Honestly, I cannot recommend to anyone traditional therapy atm because of its raging mental illness. But, I would suggest a Christian counselor (male) with some training in narcisstic disorders and who supports your husband's right to choose his path forward with her.
For my husband, it was gradual, a pulling away for longer and longer periods. (No drama) We met 6 yrs ago and her one shot back in...
These are the moms that keep therapists busy. Miracle your husband is whole. My MIL is also, but was gone for the most part b4 I showed up.
These are the ppl you pity from a distance if you can. & of course shes a liberal! Personal responsibility is blasphemy to that religion.
My husband is an amazing, kind, and thoughtful person who has overcome many many disadvantages from his early life. He's still looking for a therapist he can be honest with. Conservatism is now a diagnosable condition for many therapists.
I'm sorry to hear that your MIL also suffered from narcissism. My husband is trying to figure out just how much involvement he wants his mother to have with our family. How did your Husband decide?
You really are right that personal responsibility is not popular with the liberals and atheists.
I don't think my comments uploaded. Been having problems that way lately!
Will give you the meat of it here: 15 years working with ppl (therapy)
Find a male Christian counselor who has some training in narcissistic disorders and supports your right to choose
2 books: children of the self absorbed The narcissistic family
Thank you so much, my fren! Your advice is greatly appreciated!
It's interesting you recommend a male counselor, he was working with a lady therapist, who he thought was very nice but who he felt had a path in mind for him before he chose one.
Thank you VERY much for the book recommendations. He read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents but felt there was something wrong with his mother (he's scared of her, constant nightmares, etc) beyond what the book addressed. I will order those books right now!
You are welcome! When your mom's a narcissist, you're going to have mommy issues. I don't know your husband's story, nor should I -- it just seems that starting with a good Christian based male counselor, the focus will be more on understanding where his duty to his mother ends.
If she's really out there, you might read up on whether she might be a borderline. Thats especially difficult to deal with -- the victim stance raises flags -- but in the end, it comes down to gracefully & effectively communicating how much $hit you're willing to accept. (Truly an art)
Looks like that one landed!
As far as my husband goes, he was just less and less available.
Ah. So I was a therapist for 15 years. Awesome to hear abt your husband. Honestly, I cannot recommend to anyone traditional therapy atm because of its raging mental illness. But, I would suggest a Christian counselor (male) with some training in narcisstic disorders and who supports your husband's right to choose his path forward with her.
For my husband, it was gradual, a pulling away for longer and longer periods. (No drama) We met 6 yrs ago and her one shot back in...