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There are some legitimate points there. You do start to think of most things in a sexual context when you use it a lot; however, it is incredibly obvious that it is becoming a little less normal to be less sexual because at this point, almost everyone I meet is, to some extent, "enslaved" by that mindset.
However, it's a multifaceted problem. It's not just porn. We live in a world dominated by instant gratification. We grow up with it, and we become part of it.
To point at a turning point in video gaming mainstream for example, there were a lot of discussions about this when Call of Duty 4 hit its stride. Numbers everywhere, going fast and hard every direction, airstrikes, helicopters called in.
We talked a lot about how kids were growing up with this sort of instant gratification, and you can see it in the further growth of the Call of Duty franchise and the direction it took.
Additionally, mobile games with micro (and not so micro) transactions dominate a very large market, preying on kids and teenagers as well as full grown adults at this point with constant gambling.
Loot boxes. Vibrant and often silly colors. Weapon camos with pot leaves.
Television is much the same. Entertainment media.
Simpler days of a slow burning card or board game, a new JRPG named Chrono Trigger or a leisurely bicycle ride with no real goal seems to be gone in the every day world for a very large portion of entire continents.
Also, in the past there were specific ways boys and men would express their masculinity (wrestling, getting the big kill on the hunt, etc.). Many of those methods have been removed by modern life, and I believe many boys and men turn to porn, video games, alcohol, etc. as a way to express their masculinity. I say this as a dude who once was addicted to video games.
I admit, I can't wait to go back to video games (raising a strong willed puppy is basically a full time job that doesn't end on weekends or 5 o'clock as it turns out) but as I get older and see the games that are coming out, I am more appreciative of slower burn games.
I am a personal fan of the trucking sims (American Truck, Eurotruck, and to a lesser extent Snowrunner) as well as Elite Dangerous because they take time to get things done, and I don't have to rush to get them done. I can go at my own pace and relax. Other games have their place, but I find I can't do games like CoD for longer periods of time anymore because I don't even get those dopamine hits anymore, since I can see just how ridiculous it has gotten.
You are likely on to something about expressing our masculinity through porn use though. It's true that hunting is prevented in many areas, restricted in others and socially looked down upon in others still.
For other stuff, well... From the start, what makes us unique is pretty much destroyed now. This current generation is growing up / grew up with participation trophies for everything they did. They aren't encouraged to stand up and make an effort to let their unique skills / talent / work ethics shine anymore. That has to have a lasting effect on their psyche.
We are so worried about being accused of X/Y/Z that we don't say anything potentially offensive, which has a two-fold effect in that it makes people more callous towards the subject of offense, and it makes people fear saying something stupid and having a learning experience.
A lot of time gets substituted for things like porn or drug use, and then to top it all off, boys are told they can't be masculine, girls are getting a very twisted and contradicting series of expectations and privileges foisted upon them.
Socially, the world is in a really fucked up place. When you can't even tell a woman she's beautiful or pretty without someone -- often not even the one you're saying it to -- getting offended and causing problems.
I actually agree with your assessment here a lot. Porn isn't the only issue. You are correct it is a multi-faceted issue. Games including social media platforms are built to hijack our dopamine responses. They utilize our primal wiring as a means to form addictive patterns. We are constantly being conditioned everywhere.
Dopamine drips are good. But it's the constant dumps that are very damaging. Porn is one of the largest dumps a person can experience. It's like a dopamine flood.