My college recently decided that non vaccinated students would have to go into a 7 day quarantine when they arrive on campus. My dad has been pushing for me to get vaccinated for months, but I’m 18 and my mom has been on my side this whole time so he has basically been all bluster. However, now he’s gone full tilt into rage mode that I won’t do what he thinks is “best for the family.” He has moved all of my stuff from around the house into my bedroom and is telling me that “I wanted to give you the choice but you are getting vaccinated by Friday.” I’m holding firm but I just wanted to share another story about how these deranged psychos will tear everything apart for their narrative.
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My relationship with my mom is very good. I do have a brother who’s already out of the house, and he’s also refusing to get the vaccine. I haven’t noticed much stress from the old man but he’s about as likely to talk about his feelings as he is to admit Trump did something right.
Stand your ground. Dad will get over it.
Could you stay with your brother for a while until this blows over?
Possibly. I will consider such actions if things do get worse. For now, I’m waiting as seeing, since he can’t actually force me to get the vaccine, so he might finally just suck it up.
Can you live with your brother? Your father is a ticking time bomb. I think it is best for you to remove yourself from this abusive environment.
I wouldn’t go so far as to say abusive. While I definitely am worried about his behavior, he isn’t violent and I’m mature enough that his temper tantrum doesn’t do much more than make me angry at him rather than actually hurting me. My brother has a girlfriend and a small child, so I would also feel quite awkward entering into that situation. Regardless, it is something to consider if things do escalate further. Thank your for the advice!
Abuse extends beyond violence. Non-violent abuse can be more harmful.
That is true, but I don’t think it has gotten to the point where I would be comfortable with saying that. It is definitely bad parenting, and maybe this behavior over the course of a longer time or if I was younger could be abuse, but I wouldn’t say it qualifies right now. There’s a lot you could complain about with this behavior without calling it abuse yet, regardless, I will keep weighing where that line is as things go on.
Normally I would suggest moving out of the house. But if you're mom is terminal (although I don't believe anything is truly terminal) then you might consider staying until she is gone. Life is too short and you won't regret spending all the time you can with her.
Good that you have solidarity with your brother. Your dad watches too much television programming, but you already knew that.