I respect that it’s not - I am not judging anyone for their decision to work either. I would just venture to note that society’s view that women can “have it all” is a lie. Somewhere there will be sacrifices made - either at home or at work. It’s a question of values and principles. One must choose - both spouses working or one staying at home.
I would agree that the "having it all" view is a misnomer. Do I "have it all"? No. Most people's definition of having it all includes a lot of material crap that I couldn't care less about. I'm not driving a new car, I'm not being taken on vacation every year, I don't have a room for all my shoes, etc. The things that matter to me are taken care of, and that's what's important. Could we get along with just my husband's income? Probably. We'd be shitting thin, though, and neither my husband nor I want to cut it that close. Then, when something happens (water heater breaks, furnace craps out in winter, etc.), you don't have the money to fix it. We live modestly but comfortably. We have no car payments, not a lot of debt (nothing I couldn't pay off at the drop of a hat), and we live within our means. So I don't really think that fits the definition of "having it all" that most would hold in this society.
I respect that it’s not - I am not judging anyone for their decision to work either. I would just venture to note that society’s view that women can “have it all” is a lie. Somewhere there will be sacrifices made - either at home or at work. It’s a question of values and principles. One must choose - both spouses working or one staying at home.
I would agree that the "having it all" view is a misnomer. Do I "have it all"? No. Most people's definition of having it all includes a lot of material crap that I couldn't care less about. I'm not driving a new car, I'm not being taken on vacation every year, I don't have a room for all my shoes, etc. The things that matter to me are taken care of, and that's what's important. Could we get along with just my husband's income? Probably. We'd be shitting thin, though, and neither my husband nor I want to cut it that close. Then, when something happens (water heater breaks, furnace craps out in winter, etc.), you don't have the money to fix it. We live modestly but comfortably. We have no car payments, not a lot of debt (nothing I couldn't pay off at the drop of a hat), and we live within our means. So I don't really think that fits the definition of "having it all" that most would hold in this society.
Good for you guys. I think it’s all by design that it’s nearly impossible for a family to live on a father’s income alone anymore.
Mortar
Pestle
Olive oil
Garlic
Basil
Pine nuts
Grana Padano
Pecorino Romano
Salt & Pepper
…It is I who have it all frens!