It all started with a staged intervention last weekend at a cookout we were having at the house for family members. The wife, daughter and a group of in-laws cornered me and told me I was being selfish - I was jeopardizing their safety. The nagging and "attitude" had been going on for months prior. I once again explained my position but no amount of evidence or logic offered up was going to change any minds. My entire immediate and extended family has bought the narrative and drank the Kool-Aid utterly and completely. There's no convincing anyone otherwise. Today, the wife informs me that she wants me to move out of the house that I worked my ass off for decades to provide because I don't care enough about her to take the vax. It's a sad day but I'm not wavering. I'm packing my shit and seeking alternate living arrangements. I did inform every one of them not to call me when their health starts to go south in the near future....which was met with rolled eyes and an ambivalent shrug. They all think I've gone bananas.
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Let me just say this to OP.
Show me a woman who issues the divorce ultimatum, and I will show you a woman who has already been thinking about this for some time, and has an exit plan ready to go (whether formalized in some way or just in her head).
She has already discussed this with her family. She has already discussed this with her friends. She may already have an attorney ready to go or at least has an idea of who she will call.
Women often plan this well in advance. Years, in many cases. 80% of all divorces are initiated by women, whether the man is the "Petitioner" or the "Respondent."
The question OP needs to ask is a simple one, yet also very difficult: "Do I want to be married to this woman anymore? Even if it is possible to reconcile, is it worth it to have this woman dictate terms to me that affects my own health and well-being?"
If the answer is no, then ...
Before anything, understand that some judge somewhere, who doesn't know you and most likely doesn't care, and might even be hostile towards you, will be thinking this: If you moved out of the house because your wife was afraid that you might have a communicable disease, then your action of moving out could be construed as an acknowledgement that she was right. Remember, there is no jury in divorce court. As a man, your rights will be abused in some way. Not 50% of the time, or 90% of the time, but 100% of the time. REALITY CHECK. This is 2021, not 1821.
Step 1) Do not move out of the house. Instead, move down the hall to one of the extra bedrooms and sleep there.
Step 2) Talk to 3 or more divorce attorneys, including at least 1 that specializes in helping men, and 1 that does not. If this is a relatively small town, I would talk to ALL the divorce attorneys, because guess what? They MUST ask you the name of your wife, and if they are already working with her, they would have a conflict of interest in working with you. So, they will turn you away due that conflict. This would be an important bit of information for you to know.
Step 3) If you decide that a legal split is the way to go, make sure you or an attorney checks to see if there is already a divorce proceding filed by your wife, but you haven't been told, yet. If not, file your own.
Step 4) Talk to your kids AFTER. Don't let their emotions get in the way. Also, give them literature on why you are deciding what you are about your health and the vaxx. No matter what "side" they are on or their views of the Covid Plandemic, they should at least have the info available as to WHY you are taking the actions you are. If they are adults, the chips will then fall where they fall.
Step 5) Be careful you did not choose a vindictive woman. Be aware that some women will lie through their teeth about abuse or other imaginary harms, just to get you out of the house or in legal trouble. Do NOT underestimate this possibility, no matter what you think of your wife. She obviously behaves in irrational ways, since she is unwilling to discuss this in a rational way.
Good luck. I don't envy your situation, but there is no doubt that millions of marriages are going through something similar due to the actions of the conspirators in the Covid Plandemic. They need to be on trial ASAP for all the harm they have caused. Doctors need to be sued for medical malpractice. Government employees need to be prosecuted.
"May you live in interesting times" is actually a Chinese curse. Hmm.
I don’t know this pede, but I would bet he is speaking from experience. Good advice
This is one of the most helpful and informed posts I have read on .wins. Thank you MAG768720 for helping out this man, and others, who are in such a difficult situation.
Huh-huh-huh
Still waiting on that "footage" you claim exists...
Exactly my thought about this situation. The vax is just the justification or Casus Belli for her actions. Likely she has been looking for a reasonable plan of attack for some time and this is just the most tangible excuse she could muster. I'm sorry you have to go through this at such a fragile juncture. Surely, the coming events will cause a moment of reflection when the truth of everything is revealed. Until then, you are best served by stalling anything fiscally important and insuring that, for appearance sake, the initiation of divorce is squarely placed with her. Nothing looks worse than someone suing for divorce from a terminal partner.
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