For the same reasons, I've neither seen nor spoken with my parents and one of my sisters for 20 years. I had to eliminate another sister 11 years ago. Fortunately I have one very sweet sister who's cut from the same mold I am, who understands why I did what I did and doesn't judge me, and she and I interact several times a week.
Oh, what a horrible thing to experience and I'm so sorry for your 14-year-old self.
I was 28 when it dawned on me that as long as I engaged with my family, the unpleasant experiences I had with them would continue, but I've always been very family-oriented (it's just who I am), so it took me another 20 years and a really huge simultaneous metaphorical slap in the face from my parents and one sister for me to walk away, and it didn't even bother me to do it. The last 20 years of my life have been the happiest I've ever known.
Well done. Nothing worse than being controlled and made to feel guilty. I spent years thinking I was to blame for being abused, then realised it was a satanic lie. Forgave, prayed for my mum and step-dad and got free and happy. Got the chance to reconnect with them years later, treasure the way she said she was grateful I'd forgiven her. God is good.
For the same reasons, I've neither seen nor spoken with my parents and one of my sisters for 20 years. I had to eliminate another sister 11 years ago. Fortunately I have one very sweet sister who's cut from the same mold I am, who understands why I did what I did and doesn't judge me, and she and I interact several times a week.
Oh, what a horrible thing to experience and I'm so sorry for your 14-year-old self.
I was 28 when it dawned on me that as long as I engaged with my family, the unpleasant experiences I had with them would continue, but I've always been very family-oriented (it's just who I am), so it took me another 20 years and a really huge simultaneous metaphorical slap in the face from my parents and one sister for me to walk away, and it didn't even bother me to do it. The last 20 years of my life have been the happiest I've ever known.
Well done. Nothing worse than being controlled and made to feel guilty. I spent years thinking I was to blame for being abused, then realised it was a satanic lie. Forgave, prayed for my mum and step-dad and got free and happy. Got the chance to reconnect with them years later, treasure the way she said she was grateful I'd forgiven her. God is good.