Literally every interaction with women in my life has led me to this conclusion.

Girl teaparties, highschool girls, my mother and her sisters, workplace cliques; it's just what they do.

Women are a rib and want to find the body they came from to "complete" it.

There's nothing wrong with that drive, it's what makes women women.

What's wrong is when you take an already complete body and carve a rib out so you can replace it. Most who fit the above description of "30 something white (single?) females" do just this and make everyone's life a living hell because of it.

They'll invent chores to do; intentionally make things harder so they can put their unique strengths to use and feel useful as a result. They'll create a routine that has to be followed to the letter and if you break that routine by finding a shortcut they get upset not because you "outsmarted" them or "mansplained" a better system, but because you didn't value the system they put in place that provided an opportunity for them to exhibit their skills and talents, obsolete as they may be.

Not valuing their system enough to follow it despite having found a better system, in their minds, means you don't value their strengths.

For example: A woman will create an itinerary for a vacation trip of all the attractions she assumes the family would want to see. The rest of the family only follows the itinerary because they don't want to upset the woman.

If not for the itinerary, the family would just go to the attractions they want to the most first, probably by a vote. The itinerary, however, is organized on estimated times for the ride down to the time spent in line depending on what time of the day it is. If the itinerary was followed to the letter, all rides would have been ridden, so there would be no need for a vote system and everyone will get to ride on the ride they wanted to.

It's a noble plan, and is ideal on paper, sure, but one that sucks the fun out of the vacation. Because everything is dry and organized, the memories are flat. Some family members may change their mind on what ride they want to go on, but since it is on the itinerary, even though they don't care to ride it anymore, they must to appease the almighty itinerary. In a way, the woman created the itinerary as an idol that must be worshiped and followed, almost like a ritual. Breaking the ritual means no one is allowed to have fun anymore.

In doing so, the woman grafts her own ideal on an existing system (let's have a fun time) and is allowed to show off her strengths in organizing and planning. Unfortunately, it is at the detriment to all involved who just want to have fun and not feel like their care-free vacations is as strict as a gulag assembly line.

I'm sure you've seen this trope written in several family sitcoms. It's a trope because it does happen way too often...

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Men aren't free from this foolishness either, but it manifests itself differently.

Men have their own version of this, mind you. I'm not saying it is all on the woman. Men, instead of making a system clunkier to demonstrate their strengths will actually seek out challenges well beyond their competency in order to show off their strengths.

While women take a system which is already there and alter it to suit their ego, men will seek to create systems that they barely have the ability to master, also to suit their ego.

As a shorter example: A man seeks to assemble a desk. Instead of following the manual, they will foolishly insist on doing it with no instruction. Additionally, they will also attempt to construct the desk while using the least amount of hardware (screws, pins, etc.) included in the kit, just to demonstrate their ingenuity.

They will spend far too much time trying to figure out how something is attached than actually attaching it. Men overthink things.

I know this all too well, because I'm guilty of it. I constantly fight the urge to create tools custom tailored for a craft project using bottles, pens, and other garbage instead of just going out and buying one already made for the task.

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This is probably lengthier than you expected, but it's just another time when my man brain decided to overthink things...

Cheers!