Unfortunately, this speaks of a much deeper problem in your marriage in that your husband went behind your back instead of making such an important decision together - if a decision could even be reached if both of you have diverse attitudes and opinions over vaxxines and the plandemic. Can two walk together lest they be in agreement? We are in days now where our society is going to be divided between the vaxxed and the unvaxxed - not just for philosophical reasons, but for medical reasons and survival. Families are already torn apart over this issue that both sides see as a imminent threat to their lives and the lives of their loved ones and I do not see it getting any better for the near future short of complete exposure of the corruption underpinning the plandemic. Try to repair the breach as best you can and try to understand the reasons why your husband felt it necessary to do this without you - his actions were probably motivated by thinking he was violating your trust in exchange for the best interests of his child.
That is not encouraging. What it implies is that you have a husband who thinks the best interest of his child will be served by violating your trust. Think about that carefully. How can that be possible, in the long run? What kind of "best interest" would that be? It turns out to be jabbed with potential death or disability from an experimental therapy whose effects are, by definition, unknown---when your child is in a category that has the least to fear from this "disease."
I am not saying that the validity of the choice this husband made was a good or sound one - that is another discussion. My position here is that this husband was more than likely convinced in his own mind that he was doing what he thought what was best for his child, despite what his wife's position was on the matter. No matter how misinformed or misguided his decision may have been, he had to have been strongly motivated by his own convictions in order to do something like this behind his wife's back without her knowledge. That is my point.
What has been done, has been done. Now the problem is what this couple is going to do moving forward. If this wife can speak with her husband about why he did what he did, which was clearly a gross violation of trust, they are not going to be able to move forward together. If they are going to keep this marriage intact, for the sake of each other and their child, they are going to have to come to some kind of understanding or they will be doomed. That is my only point. The fact that this husband acted against the wishes of his wife, the mother of their child, speaks to some serious problems in the marriage that this incident has brought to the surface. The plandemic has pushed many families to the brink - just what the evil has been striving for. The family is the bedrock of our society. Destroy the family and the society is destroyed. It breaks my heart to hear of the struggles many families are having - especially at this time of year. May God grant them wisdom to navigate the difficult days ahead.
The pandemic is putting us under strain, and under strain there is less energy to sustain a false pretense. The husband showed his true colors. He already made vows to his wife when he was married. How can he now resort to vows again? This marriage is shattered by what he did. You are just trying to be hopeful when there is no hope. Hope to put the marriage back together again? Just like what it was---before he broke it? He would break it again. Who would want to go through a second experience?
Now, if he were to approach his wife in great contrition, remorse, and repentance, seeking remediation, and pleading for forgiveness, charity, and forbearance, that might be a basis for hope. But nothing less.
"Families being torn apart"...I agree. We have spent Christmas Eve for 40+ years at my husband's sister's home. It has always been an enjoyable family time. However, her son and his wife have 2 small children, and no one may come unless they are vaxed, otherwise we must be "masked" for the entire evening. My husband already told his sister we would "pass" on coming this year. (Last year didn't happen bc of the pandemic). She was a bit upset with him bc it's "for the safety of the children"! Neither of us will attend any place where we have to be masked to visit family or friends. I'm glad he stood up to her. I'm sure she will blame me for us not coming. LOL Don't really care....
I find it so sad when both sides of this issue honestly think they have the moral high ground and are unwilling to make reasonable compromises. This is an issue that is dividing families into clear camps complete with all the tribal talking points associated with the various positions - right where they want us. As long as everyone is thinking the other guy is the problem, we are not focusing on the real villains in this story. If we are going to beat this evil we are going to have to attempt to find some common ground we can agree on instead of insisting on the other guy giving up their strongly held beliefs - no matter how misguided they may be. This holiday season has been rough for many people. I pray that although the old memories may not be maintained in the manner we have become accustomed to, but that we make new memories worthy to passed down and that will last into the future. Merry Christmas.
Unfortunately, this speaks of a much deeper problem in your marriage in that your husband went behind your back instead of making such an important decision together - if a decision could even be reached if both of you have diverse attitudes and opinions over vaxxines and the plandemic. Can two walk together lest they be in agreement? We are in days now where our society is going to be divided between the vaxxed and the unvaxxed - not just for philosophical reasons, but for medical reasons and survival. Families are already torn apart over this issue that both sides see as a imminent threat to their lives and the lives of their loved ones and I do not see it getting any better for the near future short of complete exposure of the corruption underpinning the plandemic. Try to repair the breach as best you can and try to understand the reasons why your husband felt it necessary to do this without you - his actions were probably motivated by thinking he was violating your trust in exchange for the best interests of his child.
That is not encouraging. What it implies is that you have a husband who thinks the best interest of his child will be served by violating your trust. Think about that carefully. How can that be possible, in the long run? What kind of "best interest" would that be? It turns out to be jabbed with potential death or disability from an experimental therapy whose effects are, by definition, unknown---when your child is in a category that has the least to fear from this "disease."
I am not saying that the validity of the choice this husband made was a good or sound one - that is another discussion. My position here is that this husband was more than likely convinced in his own mind that he was doing what he thought what was best for his child, despite what his wife's position was on the matter. No matter how misinformed or misguided his decision may have been, he had to have been strongly motivated by his own convictions in order to do something like this behind his wife's back without her knowledge. That is my point.
What has been done, has been done. Now the problem is what this couple is going to do moving forward. If this wife can speak with her husband about why he did what he did, which was clearly a gross violation of trust, they are not going to be able to move forward together. If they are going to keep this marriage intact, for the sake of each other and their child, they are going to have to come to some kind of understanding or they will be doomed. That is my only point. The fact that this husband acted against the wishes of his wife, the mother of their child, speaks to some serious problems in the marriage that this incident has brought to the surface. The plandemic has pushed many families to the brink - just what the evil has been striving for. The family is the bedrock of our society. Destroy the family and the society is destroyed. It breaks my heart to hear of the struggles many families are having - especially at this time of year. May God grant them wisdom to navigate the difficult days ahead.
The pandemic is putting us under strain, and under strain there is less energy to sustain a false pretense. The husband showed his true colors. He already made vows to his wife when he was married. How can he now resort to vows again? This marriage is shattered by what he did. You are just trying to be hopeful when there is no hope. Hope to put the marriage back together again? Just like what it was---before he broke it? He would break it again. Who would want to go through a second experience?
Now, if he were to approach his wife in great contrition, remorse, and repentance, seeking remediation, and pleading for forgiveness, charity, and forbearance, that might be a basis for hope. But nothing less.
"Families being torn apart"...I agree. We have spent Christmas Eve for 40+ years at my husband's sister's home. It has always been an enjoyable family time. However, her son and his wife have 2 small children, and no one may come unless they are vaxed, otherwise we must be "masked" for the entire evening. My husband already told his sister we would "pass" on coming this year. (Last year didn't happen bc of the pandemic). She was a bit upset with him bc it's "for the safety of the children"! Neither of us will attend any place where we have to be masked to visit family or friends. I'm glad he stood up to her. I'm sure she will blame me for us not coming. LOL Don't really care....
I find it so sad when both sides of this issue honestly think they have the moral high ground and are unwilling to make reasonable compromises. This is an issue that is dividing families into clear camps complete with all the tribal talking points associated with the various positions - right where they want us. As long as everyone is thinking the other guy is the problem, we are not focusing on the real villains in this story. If we are going to beat this evil we are going to have to attempt to find some common ground we can agree on instead of insisting on the other guy giving up their strongly held beliefs - no matter how misguided they may be. This holiday season has been rough for many people. I pray that although the old memories may not be maintained in the manner we have become accustomed to, but that we make new memories worthy to passed down and that will last into the future. Merry Christmas.