We're in the shit hole known as Brooklyn, NY. She got the "mandate" from her job, and instead of talking about what to do, she's folding like a cheap suit and is gonna get the goddamn shot.
Hell, she was all gung-ho initially when she got the memo. I told her don't give it, let them fire you then you sue them and win and you can retire (because she's already 67). But no, without even talking to me about any dangers, she's decided she's going to get it.
I've been sick of her retarded, narcissistic, idiotic bullshit for 30 years. I swear, she sometimes seems like she has the IQ of a fucking rock.
But goddamnit, why the fuck can't she just talk to me about it?
You clearly have experience in this. I can tell by what you wrote. You can try to be authentic and clear with my in-laws all day long; but at the end of the day their narcissistic family system is to rule. They will weigh their next countermeasure as if we are in a long drawn out game of war. It got to a point where I could recognize who was pulling the strings between each of them depending on the passive aggressive behavior. What's really sad is that only a couple of years into the marriage they had done so many terrible things that it felt like my ability to feel any affection for them was burnt out and I was constantly cynical and on guard--- watching and analyzing. In the long run what I have left to grieve is how many resources they burnt up (with me having to deal with their bullshit and the trauma that they put my husband through causing him to go through addiction and recovery... not to mention the toll it took on me)........ and the fact that I think I actually started viewing other people more suspiciously and cynically... always watching to see when people's angle or their true face would show. That's definitely what I need to work to heal--- to be able to genuinely think that other people can be sincere and loving again.