I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
Perhaps set a hard date on which you’ll go for divorce if your efforts to wake her haven’t succeeded - especially if she’s gone further left/asleep. Edit: oh no the god fearing folk are downvoting at the mention of divorce.
Marriage is not a short-term contract. It's a lifelong link for extremely important reasons.
I can't believe I just read someone whine about their life partner on a research board...🤢
Pray for new fire in your marriage and God will give it to you. Do you think He wants to separate you two? Of course not!!!
Ouch. You're right.
I've seen many get divorced for utterly selfish reasons. It always starts with disrespect in the relationship. Give what you want to get, fren.
Not downvoting you. But divorce is supposed to be a last resort, and it takes more than petty disagreement to reach that point.
Supposed by whom?
Not sure why you got downvoted. This is a woman who has sex with her husband's friends (if it happened once, it happened thrice) - not wife material. I don't care how long ago OP thinks this was. Time to cut your losses and enjoy your life.
Because God. It’s axiomatic and there can be no debate. Heathens shall be downvoted.
God never asked the government to get involved in marriage. The institution has been corrupted by human hand. There's nothing "sacred" about the modern marriage - it's a perversion of what the creator intended.
OP got involved with someone before his brain was fully developed, a woman who clearly has no respect for him, and it's not right for others to shame him for having thoughts of leaving. At 52, we should be primarily concerned with taking care of ourselves and those who are deserving of our love. Not wasting time on some lunatic who will never develop empathy.
Right.