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I've had an interesting week. A friend found out her husband was cheating a few weeks back and now they're in the process of separating. He works away ,comes home every few weeks. Anyway he turned up at home a couple of days ago. She's terrified of him ,he's an abuser ,knocks her around and generally a mongrel of a bloke. So wed morning I get this text from her number which said I'm not leaving my house. So I'm thinking this isn't her ,it's him ,she never sends me texts like that in the morning,it's always good morning how are you blah blah. So I wrote back well good morning to you too. Same text back Yer I'm not leaving my house ,so I thought nope definitely not her so I write back Hello ( insert his name) nice to 'meet' you,stolen her phone again have you . ( I've never met him as I haven't known this lady that long and he takes her phone when he gets back she's told me). So I get an abusive text back which I was expecting. So I write back ,well are you going to give her her phone back or am I going to send the police for a welfare check? No reply ,half hour goes by still no reply so I drove to the police station and asked could they do a welfare check. Well a little while later she calls me,says the cops just left. I said well you'd either love me or hate me for doing it but I was concerned as I know he bashed her around last time he was back and my gut instinct was right ,he'd hit her again this time. What surprised me was she said I have been the only one in 39 years that has stood up for her and done something like that. She said what did you send him as it was like the twilight zone ,one minute he was ranting and raving at her ,next minute it went deathly quiet. He'd deleted it from her phone so I showed her on mine. So now he cannot just turn up there unannounced,he has to have police present if he goes there to collect anything. Today I spent a little while before work helping her to contact some places so she can get some income as he's cut off access to the bank accounts etc etc.I have told her if need be she can come here and stay. I guess what I'm asking is how else can I support this lady as she's extremely fragile right now. I've made sure she has basic supplies and food for her dogs but can you think of anything else I can do to help her? She has a heart of gold and a lovely person. She doesn't deserve this.
Well done and God Bless you for being such a good friend!
Has she filed a restraining order or divorce? See if local abuse agencies can direct her to attorneys that work with them to assist abused and battered women. Decide on a special code word that she can use to text you if she needs help or a key question you can ask her in text so you will know by the prearranged answer if it's really her or if he has her phone.
The best advice I can give you both is to get her divorced and AWAY from him! Tell her NOT to believe him if he cries, apologizes and swears he'll never do it again.
God Bless you both! Watch your back also fren! 🙏
Thank you for all your advice and kind comments frens. Joys1daughter ,we do have a code word but the first thing he does is takes her phone when he gets in the door. I have gone and bought another Sim card this morning that I will activate in my name and put it in one of my old phones and tell her to hide it so she can msg or ring me or call emergency services on it so if he pinched her phone she has some way of contacting someone. She lives rural which means she's pretty isolated and can't just run next door if she's in trouble. The local abuse agency didn't even show up when they said they would,they're useless.
Great idea about using your old phone with a new SIM card!
Are you located in GB? I hate that she is rural. Does he know where you live? Would she consider a divorce? Does she have family members who would support her by taking her in and offering protection.
Sorry for the questions...just trying to assess the situation. Be careful! 🙏
What a great friend you are. Thank you for doing that.
You're a really brave and good person. Maybe she can help w/ some things you're doing and the strength of 2 can give birth to a new business. There is always a blessing in disguise. Be optimistic even in such times and having a friend on your team means stronger and new plans can come to fruition. You two can even take trips together to maga rallies..haha
You are brave, you were a fighter, and you did what was right. Thank you! That’s exactly how I am, I would’ve definitely done the same as you. Just wanted to validate your choices.
To answer your question, she needs Jesus. She needs to be reading her Bible every day, she needs to join a women’s Bible study, and preferably at and nondenominational Bible believing church. May be difficult to do in Europe, I’m assuming you’re in England just by the word bloke.
The only thing that’s going to begin to heal her heart is having a God that loves her unconditionally, and rebuilding her self-esteem through other godly women. It’s amazing how many other women you will find in Bible studies that are going through the same thing that you’ve gone through. They help lift one another up.
Will pray for her.