My 25 year old lives with me, and that is fine,I am glad that he does. He helps, he helps me a lot. If he did not live with me I would have to find a boarder for next to no rent to help me keep my place up, we homestead. He went to college for 2 years out of high school, and he ended up losing his loan because he flunked out, or stayed up all night in his dorm and slept through classes. I did not want him to go to college right out of high school, I wanted him to get a job, take time off from establishment education, and find his groove. I knew he was not ready, and, he was a C student, so why go to college? Well , it was his choice and he has paid off most of the loan. I told him if there was something he wanted to learn to do, try some courses after work at a community college. He gets distant and dooming when I ask about his plans for the future, so, I leave him alone about it. He can build computers, do handy man work, work with the disabled, and knows how to care for large animals (loves them and working with them). He wants to stay just where he is. If he has a hankering for city life, he takes trips to Boston for these gaming conventions, goes to Cosplay events, car shows, etc, but loves it at home. He works a 35 hour a week job and hustles moonlighting at odd jobs, is a janitor at our old church, splits and stacks wood for older people, tills gardens in the Spring. We have a saying up here "Moonlight in Vermont or starve". His common sense is not there, lets his car get low on oil, lets his laundry pile up until there's "2 cords of it", will sleep through the alarm unless I get him up, stays up till 4 gaming and then feels like shit in the morning when its time to work. When I was his age, I did not have a lot of common sense either. He has a great work ethic, is kind to elders, does not crave a lot of material things. I think responsibility and common sense come with age, and when I look at his peers that he went to High School with, all I can say is, he is doing great. The future looks like hell for a lot of young adults, who were not born with a silver spoon in their mouths. I think long range plans are not to be expected from a lot of younger people, unless they themselves have them. It seems that no one knows what the future will bring, but he knows that he is at least prepared to keep the homestead running and protected.