My cousin is 14, born a female and now "out" as a ftm transgender. It's honestly a sad story. She knows I'm conservative but we talked about it for a while and why she wants to be a boy.
She said puberty was uncomfortable and she hated getting her period. She's always been athletic so she didn't like that boys got stronger and better at sports than her as she got older. "It feels like no matter how hard I try as a girl I'll never be as good so nothing is worth it." - her words. She said she thought girly stuff was stupid and never really liked it, and that she was afraid of being sexualized as she got older. She said she thinks she's trans because all her friends are boys and she never liked wearing dresses and stuff.
Interestingly enough, she's actually kind of conservative for her age on a lot of issues. She's made fun of Biden before and likes hunting and fishing and stuff. She likes Trump.
Just thought I'd offer a first person account I guess. It's a sad story.
She's a classic Tom Boy.
I was friends with a few Tom Boy's back in my school days in the 1990's and they are all happy mothers with husbands now.
Sad that Tom Boy's aren't accepted any more and aren't told that it's ok to be a bit masculine while still being a female.
I was the same way, too. Always climbed trees, fished, liked camping and being outdoors. Was a Tom Boy who played mostly with my younger brother. But I blossomed into being fully female while late in HS and College.
And my daughter was so much a tom boy and athletic that the boys were in awe of her strength. Even my husband secrectly wondered when she was in 8th grade if she was gonna be gay. I said she's just a tom boy and will outgrow her female awkwardness. And she did!
Tomboy are great moms.
Yes!
totally agree! To top it all off, I matured early (had my first period at 9, then skipped a year and started in earnest at 11) and hated to have to wear those uncomfortable "belts" and try to keep them centered while wearing them! I also developed breasts around age 9 and was extremely embarrassed by them. Absolutely none of my friends had them (or periods) and I was horrified by my own body...:-) Most of my friends in HS were boys and I was never very "girly". BUT the thought never crossed my mind that maybe I was a boy in disguise. Now that we've given those girls the option of being a boy instead... But what if, as trans men later on, they aren't attracted to women like a man would be, so they have to become gay men instead? It's so confusing-moreso than getting thru adolescence as a tom boy!
Yeah, the belts were the worst!
I think Tom Boys are generally accepted by men. They are so much easier to get along with. The pressure against it comes from women.
Yeah, I lamented my female puberty - grew out of it.
You nailed it. The disappearing tom boy meme! So real. Tom boys can make great mothers!
In the Philippines they use Tomboy as the word for Lesbian with no negative connotation.
I was a Tom Boy. I preferred hanging out with boys, fishing, playing baseball, tree climbing, etc.,. I have a cousin (female), the same age, and she liked those things as well. Interestingly, we both have older brothers. We both married, had children and never questioned if we were boys or girls. It was obvious. If we were kids today I'm sure someone would have pushed us into the trans world.