Yesterday, I went in for my first ultrasound, being a new mom and all, I am excited af to bring another future patriot in this world.
I read the article that Dr. Kim wrote about the Vitamin K shot that actually does more harm than good for newborns. I cross checked it across multiple other sources with some pro vax and some anti vax. I did extensive research.
So guess what I found in the OB What to Expect packet? The very last bullet point listed is that vitamin K shot. Predictable lol.
That paragraph consisted of fear porn about cranial bleeding in newborns, and helps with blood clots, mothers can't supply their kids with enough Vitamin K, etc etc. Basically saying that if you don't give your kid this shot within 6 hours, they could die. You know how often that actually happens? 1.8 out of 100,000 newborns or .0018% (correct me if my math sucks here) of children. In the time span of 6 hours after birth, how do I know that I will even be lucid enough from the anesthesia to even comprehend what is going on with my child? How manipulative is the medical industry that they would do something so underhanded like jabbing my baby without my knowledge? I dont know anybody in any generation before me (mid 20s) that has ever had this shot. Cavemen didn't need this, so why does my kid? I didn't get it either!
So I played dumb (really should have recorded this), and asked the doctor about it and played it off like a sheltered and compliant new mom. She explained that fear porn, regurgitated it honestly. And had the nerve to tell me that anything not in the info packet is misinformation, and other parents get their anti vax research from "misinformation from Tik Tok."
How arrogant are these pharma fed docs that they shove down people's throats that they should be the only source of medical information? Have these motherfuckers not had the wake up call, that people are waking up to the massive malpractice that is the entirety of the health-"care" industry? I know a lot more people unwilling to trust their doctor's advice at face value because bullshit can come from anywhere. Basically tldr, if you question your doctor, you're being influenced by "misinformation." These people are stupid.
I don't personally care for Tik Tok, but i know there is some good info out there.
Also, I might switch hospitals if this bullshit keeps up. Advice would be nice, because i felt very disrespected for wanting to be actually informed of what goes into my precious child's body.
I had a similar experience with my kids at the dentist recently, they wanted to give nitrous for my sons cavity and I declined, they said every procedure uses it and I declined they came back a third and fourth time and said it was necessary. I asked won't they use novocaine and they explained that the novocaine numbs the mouth but they use the nitrous to numb the mind, I said I dont want my Childs mind numbed and she looked at me like I was evil. They eventually called me back to the room where my son was and they said we asked your child and he said he would like the gas, I said he's a child, im the parent and its a hard no. when I left they loaded me up with printed materials about the safety of nitrous oxide. Stand firm and remember the magic words, HARD NO.
Excellent job. They were fighting for their own interests, not your son's.
Now imagine instead the disagreement being over chemically castrating him, and that's the reality some parents are facing.
That would be terrifying. Either we castrate your son or we take your kid away. Fuck them sideways with a chainsaw
The NO was for their benefit and not your child's. First, it is an extra charge to make money - that is a big driver for one size fits all procedures - especially with kids. Offices that have heavy Medicaid reimbursement often will pad their bills with as much extra stuff as they can get away with to increase their profit margins. With the exception of good private insurance, most Medicaid and other insurances do not provide good reimbursement fees. So an office will often try to be creative to increase revenue. Not a good mix when it comes to health care.
Second, NO effects allow them not to have to engage with their patient. Working with children takes time and skill. So just like schools want to drug kids to make them more controllable in order to increase class size, pediatric dentistry does the same thing thereby allowing pediatric case loads to increase - once again, money.
What really disturbs me here is that this office went behind your back to get permission from a child. They can use fear to manipulate a child against your wishes. This is all part of the whole trend we are witnessing that is attempting to separate parents from their children. Why were you not with your child? If an office is still using Covid protocols as an excuse to not allow you in the treatment room, find another office. Some offices have a general policy of not allowing parents in treatment rooms because of the occasional helicopter parent that can really make things difficult - but most parents are just being parents.
After what you have said, I would even have to question whether your son even had a cavity. Unless decay is obvious, like a hole in the tooth, more incipient early decay is a professional opinion. In an office that is financially focused, the decision to wait on a questionable area may be tilted in the direction of moving forward with possible unneeded treatment. Early decalcification before it breaks down into a hole can be healed if the area on the tooth can recalcify.
Ditch fluoride toothpaste. Look for dentifrices that contain calcium hydroxyapatite - the same mineral compound a tooth is made of. doTERRA essential oils makes a clean paste that contains this compound. Do not brush with the paste. Brush with a little baking soda to neutralize the acid and rinse. Then apply a very small amount of the paste and do not rinse - any extra paste spit into the sink is a waste, so do not use much. Do not rinse or eat and drink anything for at least 30 minutes to allow the minerals to uptake on the teeth. Before bed is a great time to do this so the minerals are undisturbed longer. Most dental damage occurs at night - especially with a mouth breather. Most OTC mouthwashes are not only useless and a waste of money, but their effects can be harmful. Don't use them.
Find another pediatric dentist or a good general that can work with kids. People spend more time shopping for a pair of shoes than they do looking for professional care. Set up an appointment to bring your child to a provider as a first visit and interview them. Your first warning sign is whether they will take the time to answer your questions, or whether they are impatient and indignant that you would even challenge them. This is huge. your current office has demonstrated that your rights as a parent are of no concern to them. Being present allows you also to see how the provider and the staff interact with your child. Once again, any reluctance on their part to allow you to be there is never a good sign.
Thanks for sharing and good luck navigating this minefield called parenthood. It is dangerous out there.
Very informative, thanks for sharing
I haven't heard too much negativity about nitrous oxide, but dentists now have a plethora of options for numbing including topical gel before the usual numbing shots, which really helps as long as you can deal with the burning sensation with the topical.
I am pretty well terrified of anesthesia, knowing what it does, how it feels and how toeing life and death is a simple mistake or neglect away, so I'd take nitrous over that any time.
My problem with nitrous is how claustrophobic it makes me feel, but know this:
As long as you get a good dentist with good numbing practice and a care for their patients' comfort, you're doing the right thing by your kids and making them tougher for it.
I have always felt it's better to face it head on than to lose any form of agency.
Did a multiple wisdom tooth impaction removal surgery without anesthesia or gas, and refused the prescribed opioids afterwards.
Lucidity is very important to me.
"don't want my Child's mind numbed" lmao
HARD NO.
Well played !