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The JAB is not the relevant issue here. This same dilemma happens in all types of situations. The JAB is just this particular case.
While you have no OBLIGATION, you can assist by offering maybe 1 or 2 of your days. You have no OBLIGATION to give away everything. Taking the "high road" is always a good thing. Your only issue now, is to NOT commit the sin of pride. Maybe offer all the same amount.
You did not require them to take the JAB. (That would be a moral dilemma.) You did not recommend the JAB. (That would also be a moral dilemma.) You did not mislead them about the JAB. (That would also be a moral dilemma.)
You can tell a kid to not put his hand in the fire, but eventually, he will. You job then is to comfort and heal. You can't feel guilty for the kid putting his hand in the fire in the first place.
You're an innocent bystander in this case. Be nice, offer some but you don't have any obligation to sink your own boat. They will be be grateful to receive anything you offer.
This is NOT simple. Many of us do/will have this same issue. We all must decide how to handle this type of issue.
For myself, I decided to be nice, offer whatever I'm comfortable with, but as I said above, you have no requirement to take on their burden. Comfort and heal.
Ask God to help you understand.
thank you