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I'm dying out here fellas. Just really going through it right now. Long story short, my ex left me for another guy a while back and left our child here with me
It's been long enough that I feel I should be over it by now, but it's hard watching the little one struggle. She still talks about her mom. She's only seen her once since she left, about six months ago. Mom doesn't even call or ask about her, really
Sorry to bring the mood down, frens, just had to get it off my chest :(
Wife is a total jerk. Kid deserves everything you have to give. Everything. Your ex is a lowlife.
Sincerely, mom and grandmom
May God keep you strong. Your daughter has an awesome Dad! Make it the best you can. I pray with a lot of love for you both. And for the mom who lost her way.
Horrible to think about having to go through this with a kid
I went through this without a kid, it was already hell. I am so sorry fren
The sun rises again though. Hopefully you find the way
Sorry you went through that!
Prayers for you and your child. God knows how hard life is for you right and He is right there for you. I hope you know Him and know how He cares for you and your child. He will do amazing things for you, when You give Him your problems. In the meantime, I pray for supply for you——supply of energy, strength, problems solved, friends to help, and most of all healing. ❤️🙏
Have you attempted to contact the mother? Despite the difference as you have, you should be doing everything possible to bring those two together. I know it’s going to be tough, but you’re gonna have to be the bigger man. If you have, then I apologize for the suggestion, just trying to work towards your daughter having a mother.
Also, in the meantime, I suggest you find a Bible, believing church, and attend, at least once a week with your daughter so she can have Sunday school. Something like a non-denominational Calvary Chapel, where they teach the Bible, chapter by chapter and verse by verse. Read your Bible daily. Just one psalm and one proverb. Meditate on these things. Join a men’s Bible study, that’s where you’re going to find the most support of all. Also, you will find men that are married that have families that would be willing to have your daughter over for a play date, and give her a surrogate type of mother figure. Do whatever you can to get other women in her life, godly women. This will fill the gap for now, at least.
Yeah I've tried as hard as humanly possible to make things work. I reach out at least a few times a week but I get mixed responses most of the time
It's probably worth noting that the last time she seen her, I had to facilitate everything. She moved 10 hours away, with a guy who doesn't have a license. The guy had to pay his friend to come pick her up while I was at work. He's not working because he has "back problems" (we're all early 20s, he's fine) and he gets a government check
She says she regrets leaving and misses her etc, but her actions speak far louder than her words here. Thank you for your advice, it's greatly appreciated!
Great, well knowing that you’ve done everything that you possibly can, continue in prayer. Please follow my other advice. It will change your life, and the life of your daughter in a big way. Not only does she need you and her mother, she needs God, more than both of you. I know you may not understand that now, but God will be the one to get her through all her tough times now, and in the future. Be a godly father, and example of that to her. That will change both of your life forever.
We're a part of a really great little church. A close family friend teaches the Sunday school there, and once my daughter is potty trained completely, she's going to start attending!