There's a "trans girl" in my class
🗣️ DISCUSSION 💬
We got assigned partners for a project today and mine is a mtf transgender person. I honestly never met one irl so it's pretty strange to say the least. I guess he's been identifying as a girl since he was 12 and looks pretty close to one now (minus some obvious differences.)
I have no idea how I should navigate this. I don't want to be an asshole or anything but it's kind of awkward. Everyone knows I'm conservative too which is why I probably got assigned him.
Edit: The project is somewhat related to gender so that makes it a bit harder.
It's a pretty intensive project so I'll probably have to come to his house and stuff. It's the biggest grade of the year and a ton of work.
I would never enter a home of a stranger, especially if you knew they are transsexual. In my mind, red flags are raised everywhere concerning this. Do it by zoom. There's no project in all my years that requires being present at someones house. If you have to, you can meet at the school or in a public place. The project work is typically divided up, to which each person researches it from their own end. Then project members compare notes, collate, and fuse together a paper with the final results. Even the conclusion is written by one person with input from others.
What if this person claims you sexually accosted them? And 'bears false witness' against you? These people are committing suicide at a 50% rate. The mental issues are off the chart. Don't put yourself in a needless situation. You posted this on this board for a reason. Your gut is telling you something. Listen to it.
Came here to say 💯 this.
Can you do your work in public places like libraries and coffee shops? Sorry to say but it's always best to err on the side of caution and be around people/witnesses as much as you can. If it ever comes down to "he said, she said", you will lose.
That's kind of embarrassing honestly
Which is worse:
A few hours of potential embarrassment? You said s/he can pass, so odds are no one will notice.
Or.
Being falsely accused of misbehavior? (And losing in the court of school opinion)
In theory, classmates can spread rumors about what you did at his/her home. So wouldn't that be worse than coffee shop embarrassment?
Yeah you're probably right but you know people are gonna call it a date
Never enter a house of a stranger, nor shall you invite others into your house. Basic stranger safety 101.
Insist on meeting in person in a public area, or in zoom. Libraries are invented for such occasions.
NO NO NO. Not required by the school (liability issues).
I am questioning this premise now.