Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
Based on its evolving needs and plenty of user feedback, we are trying to bring some order and institute some rules. Please make sure you read these rules and participate in the spirit of this community.
Rules for General Chat
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Be respectful to each other. This is of utmost importance, and comments may be removed if deemed not respectful.
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Feel free to give feedback as these rules are expected to keep evoloving
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Just think of it this way… You’ve done all that you could in the lord and trying to be a friend and loving him. It’s time to move on. He sounds like a narcissist, borderline sociopath. You do not want people like that in your life, and you do not need people like that in your life. He will never admit he’s wrong, and everybody else is the problem. So several ties and move on. Do not under any circumstances have any contact with him unless you feel like he’s going to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and want to mend a relationship that you spent quite a bit of time on. Fun fact; that’s not gonna happen. I’ve had numerous narcissist in my life, they never change. The only person who changed it was me, and I moved on. Rest in the Lord.
Thanks. I appreciate your feedback, as always. He suffers from post-9/11 PTSD. He freaks out in crowds, he freaks out if people touch him. He didn't want to go to a praying church because he said he doesn't want people to lay hands on him and pray for him. There has to be some sort of psychological word for that sort of thing. The first time I ever knew about that condition was from Winona Ryder's character in "A Scanner Darkly" (great movie BTW, and it features Alex Jones to boot). Sociopath describes him. OK, time for DuckDuckGo. Let's see...
Haphephobia (Fear of Being Touched)
Haphephobia is an intense, irrational fear of being touched. It is different from hypersensitivity, which is physical pain associated with being touched. People with haphephobia feel extreme distress over the thought of being touched. This anxiety can lead to physical symptoms like nausea, vomiting or panic attacks.
Yes, that describes him. For a while he went silent due to intense mental illness, divorcing his Muslim wife. He's a scientist and the stupidity of masks and "social distancing" nearly drove him to suicide. At the same time, he's worked on vaccines himself (I've mentioned his knowledge on this forum in the past) and has educated me on the futility of spike proteins in the Covid injections. He's come to the realization that most vaccines are unnecessary, but he still insists that I am a fool for criticizing all vaccines. Well, whatever.
I know he is demonized. He's told me that he has seen shadow people in his home even. His youngest son is demonized too. He's a real mess. I think you are right though. A narcissist.
To be perfectly honest, it sounds like he has autism. That would explain his not wanting to be touched, and his extremes in social situations. Seriously I think he has autism, which could be related to narcissism, because it’s very difficult for somebody who is autistic to think outside of themselves. I’m not saying he’s not a narcissist, I’m just saying, if he is… You should do your best to steer clear from him. Especially if he does not want to accept Jesus Christ has his Lord and Savior, and he is demonized, that’s not something to be messing around with. The best you can do for him, his continue to pray for him at a distance, and ask the Lord to bring him to the end of himself. It’s difficult for people with mental illnesses to come to the end of their selves, because they need to be in control at all times.
YES. Holy crap, YES. Autism. Many of his emails involve entire paragraphs involving repair work necessary on his Jeep (lol). I'd even told him that I don't know shit about crap when it comes to engine repair and that it's a waste of time detailing the process of replacing engine parts to me, yet I still would get textwalls involving that vehicle of his. Furthermore, he has an oversensitivity to the sound of a harmonica. It's like Chewbacca being tortured in Cloud City with him. That's very telling as well. I'll let you know if I ever hear from him again, but he's been silent since the 31st and has not bothered me since then. I'm glad. There were a hundred things I could have responded to in that last email, but you and I know that any time spent responding would be in vain. If he does respond, I will just tell him that I do not have the emotional bandwidth to be his friend. I feel pretty good for now, especially after sharing this experience on here and getting kid feedback from you and others. For now, there's no more "Oh crap, it's him again" moments when I see messages from him in my inbox. I think perhaps if I do get a message from him, I won't respond, especially if it's more confrontation. If it turns into more messages, I'll reply briefly and then block him like BubbleBursts recommended.