Please pray. Please, please pray. For my mental and emotional health. She just very quickly emptied out everything from the closet. My heart is just ... crushed.
Sorry I keep posting about all this stuff on here. I don't know where else to go to get prayer or healing.
Time to man up.
Looks like it's finally real.
Edit: F this. I'm tired of feeling sad about this shit, ya'll. F it. By the way when she did this I didn't even give it an ounce of energy. Which was different. I need to stop putting so much care on all this and let God handle it. Also, I might feel like this cause I just pumped weights for 30 minutes and listened some upbeat rock music. That'll do it.
Edit 2: And F this little u/KrisAngeln who was too afraid to post it publicly and wants to message me saying I'm a nonstarter and a cuck and that he hopes my wife gives my kids a different dad. F you bro for your lack of compassion - cant even post it publicly? I hope you don't go through multiple family suicides like I did. If you did, you'd know what the f*** pain feels like.
Anyway - I agree with a lot of the messages here. Focusing on myself and my kids now. I'm done. This will be my last sob story (I'm not saying I won't ask for prayers, though).
Never think for a moment that this is something you did. NEVER. You are a good man and usually when this sort of thing happens, the spouse tries to point blame at the other. It is nothing you did. It is her. She will have to work it out. She will awaken one day and ask herself why she did what she did. And she will have to answer to God for it. So please, never take the blame for her feelings and actions. She brought this on, not you. Each day that goes by will become a little bit easier for you. You will never forget her as she was a huge part of your life and she will always hold a special place in your heart. But God will comfort you and he will make room in your heart for another that you will love even more. You may not see it right now, but you will be grateful when God sends you that new lady. God bless you my friend. Please try to sleep easy tonight.
Agree. Even my oldest step daughter (20) says "Dad I dont want her to snap out of this in a year and realize the mistake that she made and that she threw everything away and she's miserable and alone."
Thank you. I can't imagine having anyone else in my life. Don't think I'll ever subject this to myself again. Probably be a hermit. Thanks for your prayers.
This happened to my spouse before we met. Unfaithful, emotionally abusive ex with hidden drug problems. She called it a "backwards blessing." Seems like the end of the world at the time. But it ends up being for the best if you trust God through it. We've been married over 31 years now and we're both still very happy. I promise, life can be better than it's ever been with the right person in your life.
I understand. Love hurts.
I spent 10 years with a woman who mentally tortured me, while she worked a married man to leave his wife for her. Fortunately, there were no kids involved. At some point I realised that:
The second I got free from that poor, sick woman - my life got impossibly better. I look back at myself in those horrible years and I cannot believe that I let myself be fooled into the lies about "being a man". I should have walked away earlier, I shouldn't have tried "to make it work". I shouldn't have tried to change myself to meet my miserable partners' demands. I was right not to give her another chance all those times she weeped down the phone at me after I left.
I pray with all my heart that your freedom from this woman in your life, creates the same improvements in your future as it did in mine.
It is important to take care of yourself. Eat healthy, be strict about any consumption of alcohol. Get sleep. If you succumb to poor habits that destroy your health, you are putting on that spouse your total happiness as a human being and slandering the true dignity of your own life. I understand how bad it hurts, I have been there and ended up having a nervous breakdown because I didn’t take care of my health. I think now they call it depression nowadays. Nonetheless, eventually I won over the loss. You can win too.
Totally wrong. When as men do we start accepting responsibility for ourselves as leaders. I can tell by his posts that he was a weak leader and weak man, and that’s not intended as an insult. I too was a weak leader and a weak man in my marriage and it was heading in this direction before I turned it around through sheer force of will and effort. I took accountability for what I didn’t do that allowed it to get to the point it had. Now 10 years later my marriage is more solid than ever.
Does that negate the failure of his wife? Never. But to say it’s not his fault is a lie that is just intended to make him feel better. Hate this comment all you want but yours is more destructive.
Here, I'll whip smack my face for you. Feel better?
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