Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
Based on its evolving needs and plenty of user feedback, we are trying to bring some order and institute some rules. Please make sure you read these rules and participate in the spirit of this community.
Rules for General Chat
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Be respectful to each other. This is of utmost importance, and comments may be removed if deemed not respectful.
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Personal anecdotes, puzzles, cute pics/clips - everything welcome
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If you find people violating these rules, deport them rather than start a argument here.
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Feel free to give feedback as these rules are expected to keep evolving
In short, imagine this thread to be a local community hall where we all gather and chat daily. Please be respectful to others in the same way
Been going to Alcoholics Anonymous and it's starting to grind on my nerves. Bunch of bleating deacons and once you look past the wrinkles and grey hairs you realize these people have suppressed spiritual and mental growth for decades with booze. It's a bunch of sixty year old shells giving the emotional perspective of a twenty year old. I definitely appreciate a small portion of truly wise individuals but they're few and far between.
There's this seventy year old lady there that everyone says is a sweetheart, the other day she needs a ride. She can tell I'm right winged and decides to tell me she's a lesbian and her husband years ago figured it out and outed her to their kids... like I'm supposed to be sympathetic or some shit. She tells me about how he turned into a "bad person" and was terrible towards the end of their marriage before he died.
I go back and my friend is like, "isn't Kathleen a wonderful and sweet woman?". I told him I hate her the most of everyone there and that she's a selfish cunt, he was shocked to say the least. She envied everyone else so much she faked love and created lives with an unsuspecting man. She basically killed her husband and fucked up two children in the head because she couldn't be honest. She's a coward. I'd never marry some fag and adopt kids pretending I'm gay like the other 98% of society if the roles were reversed. I don't care where you stand on homosexuality that's some cold shit to do to someone. That guy could've met someone better and probably wouldn't have turned into a drunk and still be alive without that devastating bitch.
Read the Big Book, inside those rooms, we are trying to stay away from a drink, There are helpful steps, the 4th step is about taking our own inventory, not anyone elses. Why? Because sobriety is a way to be happy and fulfilled without a drink. Raging at others of why or who they are, and resenting someone likeing that person, even if you do not, does not sound like peace of mind to me. There are a million reasons an alcoholic will find to drink, Resentment is the reason for 90% of them. It's not a social club, except that everyone when the sit down, is there because they could not stop messing up their lives with alcohol, There will be people you do not like for reasons that do not bother others. But maybe that person has a way of keeping sober that you might need someday, One Day at A Time
If you haven't met anyone you don't like at a meeting then you aren't going to enough they say. I wouldn't necessarily say it's resentment, I just can't be cordial with some of these folks. My old boss had his kid released from prison and came to work with me, something was off about him so I looked into his charges, he was convicted of raping his sisters for years... 11 and 12 and he was 20 when he got got locked up for 5 years. I couldn't stay working there. I'm not able to overlook certain stuff, it is a character defect and I've asked God to remove it.