Years ago, my older sister revealed to me that she had 'almost been raped/sexually assaulted numerous times', when she was younger. I enquired as to the circumstances.
Caveat: I am also female and was on my own and working late in the same city for much longer than she was and made a point to NEVER put myself in risky places or situations if I could help it. As she described the various times, she realized that all of these attempts happened when she made poor choices. Here are some of what she admitted to:
Went to businesses in known crime-ridden areas after dark when she could have gone during the daytime. She also stupidly parked her car (unlocked) in the dark, unlit back lot instead of the front by a street light.
Went back stage to a performer's dressing room (when invited by a crew member) by herself and didn't understand when he locked the door and put his hands on her that she was in trouble. He then told her he was going to rape her. (He was hugely muscular and she is a small woman).
Went to bars with her girlfriends and got drunk and couldn't remember how she got home.
Went out with random groups of new agers/hippie-type people to the forested areas and camped out for days with complete strangers, all of them getting high on various drugs.
Grocery shopped late at night and parked her car between 2 other cars in the dark part of the lot and was not looking around defensively as she walked out, her arms full of groceries.
Failed to keep her car mechanically serviced (she could afford it) and she broke down in a lonely, bad area by herself.
So I blame her for these situations? Yes. She knew better. She was educated. But she was reckless, impulsive and yes, stupid. She also made poor choices in her life in other ways. The truth will set you free.
Thanks for the comment. Yea, those are poor choices and I see your point of view here.
My original comment was directed less against actions/circumstances and more toward the idea that people will say things like "well she was dressed like a whore so she deserved it" which I call BS on.
I think I misunderstood the point you were making but I get it now. I stand by it though that the way a person is dressed, or if they make decisions like you stated above, doesn't warrant rape or murder. I know you are not saying that poor decisions make assault ok but rather if you go swimming with sharks don't be upset if ya lose an arm to a shark bite.
You did excuse sick behaviour by claiming, blaming your sister for poor choices. Imagine having to constantly monitor your whereabouts and actions because you know society is full of sick farks......you also have men within pages like this sharing the news of sick farks.....and then also taking the piss for women who choose the bear. The farking hypocrites in this page 🥱 🤢
I am a woman, too. And the behavior of avoidance and prevention and 'monitoring' is EXACTLY what we have to do AT ALL TIMES. You clearly have no idea what it is like to work and live in a large city as a petite female who is relatively attractive. Especially, if you have to work at a job that you have to arrive or leave after dark and return to a dark home or apartment. AT ALL TIMES you must be vigilant. Geez!
There are good men and women - and there are bad men and women. You have to be able to discern who is who. And when in doubt, be protective of yourself.
This same sister with her obliviousness and barely considered choices has made many other mistakes from this same lack of awareness or reckless and self-focused mindset causing herself and her immediate family much grief.
I will not go into them, but the instances are extensive. Let us say, in time she proved to all of us that she was not to be depended on, she was not to be trusted, she always claimed 'I forgot!' when she dropped the ball on something important, she broke promises and she always let us down, sometimes causing financial or physical harm to others.
Hers is a specific mindset that seems to never realize how one person's behavior can affect all around them, causing consequences that are far reaching.
Years ago, my older sister revealed to me that she had 'almost been raped/sexually assaulted numerous times', when she was younger. I enquired as to the circumstances.
Caveat: I am also female and was on my own and working late in the same city for much longer than she was and made a point to NEVER put myself in risky places or situations if I could help it. As she described the various times, she realized that all of these attempts happened when she made poor choices. Here are some of what she admitted to:
So I blame her for these situations? Yes. She knew better. She was educated. But she was reckless, impulsive and yes, stupid. She also made poor choices in her life in other ways. The truth will set you free.
Thanks for the comment. Yea, those are poor choices and I see your point of view here.
My original comment was directed less against actions/circumstances and more toward the idea that people will say things like "well she was dressed like a whore so she deserved it" which I call BS on.
I think I misunderstood the point you were making but I get it now. I stand by it though that the way a person is dressed, or if they make decisions like you stated above, doesn't warrant rape or murder. I know you are not saying that poor decisions make assault ok but rather if you go swimming with sharks don't be upset if ya lose an arm to a shark bite.
So since you highlight a bunch of 💩 what's your defence for kids abused by grandpa, uncle, family members friend? I mean stop excusing sick 💩
That is a completely different scenario. Good Lord! And how do you suggest I am excusing sick behavior? I'm not.
You did excuse sick behaviour by claiming, blaming your sister for poor choices. Imagine having to constantly monitor your whereabouts and actions because you know society is full of sick farks......you also have men within pages like this sharing the news of sick farks.....and then also taking the piss for women who choose the bear. The farking hypocrites in this page 🥱 🤢
I did not excuse sick behavior. You see,
I am a woman, too. And the behavior of avoidance and prevention and 'monitoring' is EXACTLY what we have to do AT ALL TIMES. You clearly have no idea what it is like to work and live in a large city as a petite female who is relatively attractive. Especially, if you have to work at a job that you have to arrive or leave after dark and return to a dark home or apartment. AT ALL TIMES you must be vigilant. Geez!
There are good men and women - and there are bad men and women. You have to be able to discern who is who. And when in doubt, be protective of yourself.
This same sister with her obliviousness and barely considered choices has made many other mistakes from this same lack of awareness or reckless and self-focused mindset causing herself and her immediate family much grief.
I will not go into them, but the instances are extensive. Let us say, in time she proved to all of us that she was not to be depended on, she was not to be trusted, she always claimed 'I forgot!' when she dropped the ball on something important, she broke promises and she always let us down, sometimes causing financial or physical harm to others.
Hers is a specific mindset that seems to never realize how one person's behavior can affect all around them, causing consequences that are far reaching.