I've talked to you all about my divorce previously (15 years, wife decided she wanted to leave as soon as she graduated and got her degree after I supported her and worked multiple jobs).
She's officially moving out in two weeks. Then, my lease ends in just five weeks.
Landlord already told me they're going to be selling the home and also raising rent nearly 40% if I wanted to stay. Can't afford it. Have no where to go.
Going to transition to being a 'nomad', selling the remaining few things I own, and just bouncing from airbnb to airbnb along with camping. I figured this would be a good opportunity for me to get out, travel, visit national parks, kayak, camp, fish, see the US and get my mind off everything. It's not stable. But I can't find anything. Everywhere requires "3x income" or some ridiculous score that I don't have.
Anyway. Not sure why I'm posting this here. Guess I just wanted to share with you all since I never did give any updates from my previous posts about "what should I do?"
So, really, for me, the storm is here. And the "build back better" now makes so much sense in my personal life. Weird that now I now have to suddenly build my life back. I've completely lost my identity.
No clue where this road is going to take me. But it's either 'get busy living or get busy dying.'
Say a few prayers for me. God has been good to me recently and has gotten me into the 'acceptance' phase of all this.
Edit: By the way, if anyone wants to give me a follow over on X, I'll be documenting all of my journeys. Hoping to one day get some camera gear and a drone and film everything. Might make some personal podcasts and documenting my testimony. Maybe it'll help someone in the future. https://twitter.com/@thinktankfranks
I remember you and your post.
I wish your wife would go to counseling, learn again what brought you together.
I am sickened what she did to you, after being so selfless, a wonderful husband.
I will pray for you. I hate the thought of you being out there like this, alone.
God will be with you creating your life canvas. More joy for you in life.
Please keep us posted. You're a good man.
I really do appreciate this post.
I wont lie and say that I'm not terrified. I've downloaded all kinds of camping apps... I'm having a really difficult time figuring it all out. I have a roof top tent on order. Sucks, but I'll be sleeping in that and trying to just travel around. I work remote so I'll be just working from the inside of my car with a power station and/or from an airbnb.
Ultimately. I know that God is with me in all of this. I feel Him. I really do. When I pray, I get confirmations. I think He has much more that He needs to show me. It's going to be extremely difficult but I'm sure I'll find some healing in nature.
I do feel just as you said, the lonelieness. I'm very concerned about that ... going from always being with my wife and kids to suddenly - by myself in a car and tent. Especially as someone who suffers from anxiety, I am a little concerned it might give me a heart attack, quite literally. I just continue praying. I figure at the very least, as long as I keep working, I can save money and maybe get a place of my own in a year or so. It's going to be a very long year, though...
Thanks for your comment.
You may pay a lot for an Airbnb. You might think about motels that rent by the week or month, some with kitchenettes. On the positive side, you can work remote which is a blessing. Take comfort in the fact that you did everything you could to support your ex in realizing her dreams, so you have zero regrets. She is the one who used you and she has a lot to answer for. I hope in your travels you find a place that gives you peace,tranquillity and comfort. Please keep us informed how you are doing. God speed, friend.
Honestly, that really doesn’t sound too bad. Use this to understand yourself a bit better, you have a job that doesn’t require you to be locked into a city, and with starlink you can literally be in the middle of nowhere while growing your bank account. You will appreciate this later in life. Stay optimistic!
Yes! And I saw starlink was discounted to $300 right now. I'm praying that discount stays until next Friday so I can pick it up.
Dont know your fiscal position, but a van might be a good way to go for a while. While they dont get as good of gas mileage as a car, you can save significant coin on housing by living in them. Keep them plain jane and you can stealth camp in the cities for free. You can boondock on federal land and a ton of the wallyworld as well as other businesses have free park and camp on their parking lots.
I know it sucks right now, you had invested a lot of time money effort and soul into the relationship, but, try and look at the positive, you didnt have kids. Dont let her see you consumed with the grief. Be confident and take this trip. Go find your next chapter. Plenty of good women out there for you to meet. Enjoy smelling the roses along the way and enjoy the trip. A road trip to me always clears my head, I love dashboard therapy.
My recommendation would be a class B+ and a gym membership for shower access.