That is conflating 2 very...actually 3 very different situations.
And making a false equivocation.
Yes, one can come across a mangled person from a car accident and find it off putting
at the same time you can have compassion for that person
They AREN'T THE SAME THING
In your logic means seeing and saying a truth negates the possibility of cutting slack or giving compassion. Bullshit. In the army you see all types of grotesque shit and still love your fellow soldier and further, have the honesty to joke about it later among one another (with the injured soldier and buddies).
Someone born with a birth defect could be off putting and that person can still be loved by the same person. Hell, the smell of a dirty diaper is off putting - that doesn't mean you don't love your baby.
Stop making this bigger than it is. Stop making it about you. And stop virtue signaling.
The meaning of "off putting" is to be repellent or disconcerting. It would apply to situations where someone's chosen demeanor or behavior is contrary to normal etiquette. Whatever was going on with Jones was clearly involuntary. What happens in an accident, of events or of birth, is clearly involuntary, Even in the events you describe, you were not repelled, because you went to aid the person in trouble.
This is only as big as you want it to be, so own up to your own involvement. What "virtue" was I "signaling"? (You don't have to answer. Don't want to make this bigger, you know.)
I have NOTHING to own up to or apologize for, I am not the one with a problem...
...But you do:
****My late spouse had a congenital birth defect in which her right hand was no more than a paw. It was traumatic growing up with that. She had to learn how to do anything dextrous (like writing) with her left hand. Adults were decent enough not to mention it in public. I can only imagine you would find that "off putting."
The fact that you brought up your late spouse's birth defect as an example of something you thought I would find off putting means that YOU conceptualized it as off putting. I may or may not find something I haven't encountered a off putting....but it looks like part of your psyche did.
I am sorry your spouse passed away and I am hopeful he had a great life full of love.
And yet, your emotions are not going to manipulate me on a truly innocuous observation and expression of a personal opinion.
Off putting. Off putting. Off putting.
And since you are so off-put by my opinion I'll allow you to have the last word.
I've got more interesting things to do than to coddle your feelings about my opinion of someone you don't know and who doesn't know you.
That is conflating 2 very...actually 3 very different situations. And making a false equivocation.
They AREN'T THE SAME THING
In your logic means seeing and saying a truth negates the possibility of cutting slack or giving compassion. Bullshit. In the army you see all types of grotesque shit and still love your fellow soldier and further, have the honesty to joke about it later among one another (with the injured soldier and buddies).
Stop making this bigger than it is. Stop making it about you. And stop virtue signaling.
The meaning of "off putting" is to be repellent or disconcerting. It would apply to situations where someone's chosen demeanor or behavior is contrary to normal etiquette. Whatever was going on with Jones was clearly involuntary. What happens in an accident, of events or of birth, is clearly involuntary, Even in the events you describe, you were not repelled, because you went to aid the person in trouble.
This is only as big as you want it to be, so own up to your own involvement. What "virtue" was I "signaling"? (You don't have to answer. Don't want to make this bigger, you know.)
I have NOTHING to own up to or apologize for, I am not the one with a problem...
...But you do:
****My late spouse had a congenital birth defect in which her right hand was no more than a paw. It was traumatic growing up with that. She had to learn how to do anything dextrous (like writing) with her left hand. Adults were decent enough not to mention it in public. I can only imagine you would find that "off putting."
The fact that you brought up your late spouse's birth defect as an example of something you thought I would find off putting means that YOU conceptualized it as off putting. I may or may not find something I haven't encountered a off putting....but it looks like part of your psyche did.
I am sorry your spouse passed away and I am hopeful he had a great life full of love. And yet, your emotions are not going to manipulate me on a truly innocuous observation and expression of a personal opinion.
Off putting. Off putting. Off putting.
And since you are so off-put by my opinion I'll allow you to have the last word.
I've got more interesting things to do than to coddle your feelings about my opinion of someone you don't know and who doesn't know you.
Deuces.