Teacher here: 1) coach your kids to never share personal data about your family. 2) Let your child’s teacher know you want to keep assignments from being too personal. 3) Define what personal means for your child and teacher (kids write about themselves because it is a topic they know well.
Background: When I was working in ELA (social studies and math now), I always had children write about themselves, and their memories. Being a (father, Christian,good citizen) I defined personal for children, and explained to parents what the focus of the writing assignments were. I encouraged parents to help their children rehearse good events, as well as defining what should not be shared.
Blush - thank you. I was made by God to be a teacher. I worked many jobs until I started teaching at 40 ish years old( careful not to Dox myself). I am calm when kids are not, I avoid most power struggles, and am blessed to see my students grow every year. I just can’t take responsibility for this, God made me this way :)
Now I must ask - what is the best suggestion you would have for self therapy based upon diet? Being big is something my family has in the genes (Uncle was 700+, Dad was 500, I’m 380).
I do take responsibility for my weight, if I didn’t eat it, it wouldn’t be in my body. With that said I also believe there is something in processed food which is addictive (quitting smoking is way easier than loosing weight). Any links or suggestions are much appreciated.
Eliminate wheat flour 100%. Modern wheat is not the same plant as the wheat we had 100 years ago.
A keto diet will help you lose weight. It will satisfy your hunger, so you won't need to eat as much.
If you're able, exercise some.
Stop carbonated beverages of any kind, soft drinks, beer, champagne. The bubbles blow up your stomach and make you want more food. Drink water or unsweet tea.
Check out the carnivore or keto diet. Basically high protein fat, low carbs. Also cut out the sugar and sugary drinks. Drink water. Also take 1 multi vitamin per day. And up to 5g of vitamin D and C per day.
I totally agree with carnivore. It changed my life. I went from having add. Psoriasis. And arthritis.... to being lean, with minimal add symptoms, clear skin after 23 years of suffering.. and no arthritis pain.... And I lost weight.
In highly recommend you try it for a month. Just don't forget electrolytes
Thank you! I am getting so much great advice! I am happy you are sharing your struggle, and sorry you have it.
Brain damage- lol - I have told my doctor (many times), that it feels like something is broken. I am always ready to eat, and never feel full (I’m either ready to eat, or thing about eating). Brain damage describes it well. There are a lot of ways for me to start. Thank you!
Good for you for changing your family tree and living out your best life!!
I have learned a few things from quitting bad habits like porn/alcohol/smoking. It's about moderation. Don't set out in the beginning to completely eradicate your bad habits as that usually ends in disappointment when you fail. It's much better to learn how your bad habits effect you and what you would look like with/without them. A book that is geared towards alcohol, but will also give you a framework to think about other problems/habits is "The easy way to stop drinking" by Allen Carr. Helped me with a lot of other issues by giving myself a framework for looking at why I did the things that I did.
It's also about small incremental progress that leads to a compounding effect. Changing just a few things leads to a compound effect that changes many other areas. So tackle small reasonable goals first.
You are right about processed food having lots of addictive qualities. Not only that, but it unnecessarily keeps weight on - lots of it water weight. Sodium is a big one to thank for this. A great book to look at is "Lies my doctor told me" by Ken Berry. You are a critical thinker or else you wouldn't be on this forum, so you can read that and do more research on how those things impact your body.
You can absolutely lose weight without exercising. It's all about the food you eat and how your body reacts to processed foods, sugars, sodium, grains, etc. The difference is that you will want to exercise because your energy level increases as you start eating a healthier diet and your body starts burning fat.
Lots of people do a carnivore or keto style eating with lots of success as it gets rid of a lot of the empty carbs that overloads our systems. I do fasting/carnivore for the most part and I really like it, but I am just one voice on the internet. Try out different things to see how your body reacts as mine will be different than yours. Don't do something if it isn't working just to achieve some result.
Good luck and just take things a step at a time an realize you aren't eating a certain way to go on a diet, you are eating a certain way because you love yourself and want to be healthy. Advise yourself as if you are advising your school kids, with as much hope and as much recognition of potential as you see in them.
I am eager to do some reading. Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am going to start treating myself better today (I really like that thought - because I love myself). This is a viewpoint I needed. Thank you again.
fellow teacher here:) never been real big, so cant tell you how to lose, but this is how I maintain a low weight. I try to eat alone as much as possible, and pay attention to every bite. Also read about where your food comes from... a book called Eating Animals really turned me off to commercial meat products and big corporations controlling what we eat.
hard to enjoy fast food knowing how the animals were treated..eat local if possible.
Thank you for the suggestion. I actually don’t eat much meat (Keto will be hard for me). I know, someone who is fat that doesn’t eat much meat (like none since Christmas meal). I’m thinking the wheat could be it. Another user suggested wheat, and I realized I really eat a lot of bread, more so than sweets.
Can you explain "good events?" are you saying that you taught them to rehearse events in the right way without personal information or are you talking about a positive event to orient to positivity. Just to clarify.
I tell my students that the best personal stories are the ones that allow the readers to learn the best things about them, and their families. I try to have them pick good emotion stories, where their writing makes others happy as well. On the caution side, I start by saying I wear sweat pants, and a T shirt when I get home. Many times my clothes are stained because I work around the house, or drop food on them (hence a good reason to change). I never want my children to tell people about my stained clothes because it would make me feel embarrassed. Any story they share should always be stories that do not embarrass family, and friends.
I ask students to read their stories to their parents first; so, they know exactly what is written, and can also help remember more details (and parents can also say... don’t share that). Finally, I let students know that I share their writing with their parents.
Finally - (I worked with 2nd - 4th graders for 6 years), I let students know that it can help to write about things that make them feel sad, but if they are private, they should not bring them, or write them in school. By law, I must report any story where children might be abused. I try hard not to put students in the situation where a story can break their family apart. Truthfully, if I believe a student is being abused, I hand off that issue to the Principle, or the guidance counselor. If abuse is involved, I am not specialized enough to ask the right questions (I have read it is possible to implant memories, as well as put suggestions into a child’s mind.)
Here is my limited experience from working with other teachers - some are nosey, some are looking for danger around every corner, one has an agenda (that I do not agree with); however , most are caring.
Agenda teacher - not much I can do here, but carefully advise parents (not being able to come out and say it), but I say things like ,”she does a good job teaching social issues like ...”. I have also shared with parents what books are being read in the rooms. Enough parents push back on the agenda where I feel less agenda is caught... I hate I can’t do more.
BTW - if a different teacher than your child’s teacher ever talks to you in the hallway, and makes some off the cuff comments that make you wonder, ask more questions. That teacher probably went out of their way to both let you know, and find out if you agree with the agenda...
What insight you have. Your students are truly lucky to have someone teaching them that cares so much. Many teachers these days parrot Marxist talking points and don’t know the impact they are having. Those students may not always appreciate what you are doing right now, but it will always stay with them. “Teach them while they are young and they will surely return to it” (paraphrasing but it is very true)
Teacher here: 1) coach your kids to never share personal data about your family. 2) Let your child’s teacher know you want to keep assignments from being too personal. 3) Define what personal means for your child and teacher (kids write about themselves because it is a topic they know well. Background: When I was working in ELA (social studies and math now), I always had children write about themselves, and their memories. Being a (father, Christian,good citizen) I defined personal for children, and explained to parents what the focus of the writing assignments were. I encouraged parents to help their children rehearse good events, as well as defining what should not be shared.
Blush - thank you. I was made by God to be a teacher. I worked many jobs until I started teaching at 40 ish years old( careful not to Dox myself). I am calm when kids are not, I avoid most power struggles, and am blessed to see my students grow every year. I just can’t take responsibility for this, God made me this way :)
Now I must ask - what is the best suggestion you would have for self therapy based upon diet? Being big is something my family has in the genes (Uncle was 700+, Dad was 500, I’m 380).
I do take responsibility for my weight, if I didn’t eat it, it wouldn’t be in my body. With that said I also believe there is something in processed food which is addictive (quitting smoking is way easier than loosing weight). Any links or suggestions are much appreciated.
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Eliminate wheat flour 100%. Modern wheat is not the same plant as the wheat we had 100 years ago.
A keto diet will help you lose weight. It will satisfy your hunger, so you won't need to eat as much.
If you're able, exercise some.
Stop carbonated beverages of any kind, soft drinks, beer, champagne. The bubbles blow up your stomach and make you want more food. Drink water or unsweet tea.
Thank you for the suggestions. Wheat flour is out from now in. Soda has been out since I read about Fetal stem cells used as flavoring.
Check out the carnivore or keto diet. Basically high protein fat, low carbs. Also cut out the sugar and sugary drinks. Drink water. Also take 1 multi vitamin per day. And up to 5g of vitamin D and C per day.
I will give Keto a try. Do you have a website or cookbook you suggest? Thank you :)
I totally agree with carnivore. It changed my life. I went from having add. Psoriasis. And arthritis.... to being lean, with minimal add symptoms, clear skin after 23 years of suffering.. and no arthritis pain.... And I lost weight. In highly recommend you try it for a month. Just don't forget electrolytes
Thank you! I am getting so much great advice! I am happy you are sharing your struggle, and sorry you have it. Brain damage- lol - I have told my doctor (many times), that it feels like something is broken. I am always ready to eat, and never feel full (I’m either ready to eat, or thing about eating). Brain damage describes it well. There are a lot of ways for me to start. Thank you!
Good for you for changing your family tree and living out your best life!!
I have learned a few things from quitting bad habits like porn/alcohol/smoking. It's about moderation. Don't set out in the beginning to completely eradicate your bad habits as that usually ends in disappointment when you fail. It's much better to learn how your bad habits effect you and what you would look like with/without them. A book that is geared towards alcohol, but will also give you a framework to think about other problems/habits is "The easy way to stop drinking" by Allen Carr. Helped me with a lot of other issues by giving myself a framework for looking at why I did the things that I did.
It's also about small incremental progress that leads to a compounding effect. Changing just a few things leads to a compound effect that changes many other areas. So tackle small reasonable goals first.
You are right about processed food having lots of addictive qualities. Not only that, but it unnecessarily keeps weight on - lots of it water weight. Sodium is a big one to thank for this. A great book to look at is "Lies my doctor told me" by Ken Berry. You are a critical thinker or else you wouldn't be on this forum, so you can read that and do more research on how those things impact your body.
You can absolutely lose weight without exercising. It's all about the food you eat and how your body reacts to processed foods, sugars, sodium, grains, etc. The difference is that you will want to exercise because your energy level increases as you start eating a healthier diet and your body starts burning fat.
Lots of people do a carnivore or keto style eating with lots of success as it gets rid of a lot of the empty carbs that overloads our systems. I do fasting/carnivore for the most part and I really like it, but I am just one voice on the internet. Try out different things to see how your body reacts as mine will be different than yours. Don't do something if it isn't working just to achieve some result.
Good luck and just take things a step at a time an realize you aren't eating a certain way to go on a diet, you are eating a certain way because you love yourself and want to be healthy. Advise yourself as if you are advising your school kids, with as much hope and as much recognition of potential as you see in them.
I am eager to do some reading. Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am going to start treating myself better today (I really like that thought - because I love myself). This is a viewpoint I needed. Thank you again.
fellow teacher here:) never been real big, so cant tell you how to lose, but this is how I maintain a low weight. I try to eat alone as much as possible, and pay attention to every bite. Also read about where your food comes from... a book called Eating Animals really turned me off to commercial meat products and big corporations controlling what we eat. hard to enjoy fast food knowing how the animals were treated..eat local if possible.
Thank you for the suggestion. I actually don’t eat much meat (Keto will be hard for me). I know, someone who is fat that doesn’t eat much meat (like none since Christmas meal). I’m thinking the wheat could be it. Another user suggested wheat, and I realized I really eat a lot of bread, more so than sweets.
Can you explain "good events?" are you saying that you taught them to rehearse events in the right way without personal information or are you talking about a positive event to orient to positivity. Just to clarify.
I tell my students that the best personal stories are the ones that allow the readers to learn the best things about them, and their families. I try to have them pick good emotion stories, where their writing makes others happy as well. On the caution side, I start by saying I wear sweat pants, and a T shirt when I get home. Many times my clothes are stained because I work around the house, or drop food on them (hence a good reason to change). I never want my children to tell people about my stained clothes because it would make me feel embarrassed. Any story they share should always be stories that do not embarrass family, and friends.
I ask students to read their stories to their parents first; so, they know exactly what is written, and can also help remember more details (and parents can also say... don’t share that). Finally, I let students know that I share their writing with their parents.
Finally - (I worked with 2nd - 4th graders for 6 years), I let students know that it can help to write about things that make them feel sad, but if they are private, they should not bring them, or write them in school. By law, I must report any story where children might be abused. I try hard not to put students in the situation where a story can break their family apart. Truthfully, if I believe a student is being abused, I hand off that issue to the Principle, or the guidance counselor. If abuse is involved, I am not specialized enough to ask the right questions (I have read it is possible to implant memories, as well as put suggestions into a child’s mind.)
Here is my limited experience from working with other teachers - some are nosey, some are looking for danger around every corner, one has an agenda (that I do not agree with); however , most are caring.
Agenda teacher - not much I can do here, but carefully advise parents (not being able to come out and say it), but I say things like ,”she does a good job teaching social issues like ...”. I have also shared with parents what books are being read in the rooms. Enough parents push back on the agenda where I feel less agenda is caught... I hate I can’t do more. BTW - if a different teacher than your child’s teacher ever talks to you in the hallway, and makes some off the cuff comments that make you wonder, ask more questions. That teacher probably went out of their way to both let you know, and find out if you agree with the agenda...
What insight you have. Your students are truly lucky to have someone teaching them that cares so much. Many teachers these days parrot Marxist talking points and don’t know the impact they are having. Those students may not always appreciate what you are doing right now, but it will always stay with them. “Teach them while they are young and they will surely return to it” (paraphrasing but it is very true)