I just need some prayers for my marriage. Just had a loud long fight with my wife. Some stuff came out that cant be put back in. We have 3 kids masked in school for 1.5 years. I am nearing my precipice. I dont know what to do, she is stuck in the go with the flow it will end soon. I know it wont. Our problems go back further than covid, I can see the societal brainwashimg effecr her, I have pointed out instamces, there is no listening just emotions.
She is Christian, but I dont know how much she looks to God for answers. I pray daily, many days multiple times.
I dont know I am rambling just dont know where to go with this, too many details to discuss, married for over 20 years. Please pray for my family.
Tell her you are at your breaking point when it comes to what you'll let them do to your children.
Ask her what her breaking point is.
Ask her exactly what it will take until she cannot abide by them abusing her children any longer.
Don't demand an answer immediately. Let her think about it for a couple days.
Stop telling her what you know.
Ask more questions. The only way to break programming is to get them thinking again. The only way to make someone think is to ask questions.
When they teach apes sign language, there are 6 words that they can never formulate.
Who, What, When, Where, How and Why.
Those are necessary to construct sentences that permit conversation; you cannot converse without them.
I'll say a prayer for you and your children. They are the ones being attacked here, not you nor your wife. It's always about the kids.
God bless.
thank you, yes it is only about the kids to me. I have tried to ask her what her breaking point is. problem is it always changes. When this first started she said she was with me on not letting them go to school in masks.
But I agree I need to ask questions and give her think about them
After you have given her both some time to speak her mind, and time to formulate some questions of her own, ask her about dreams and hopes for the children. We mommas want to do what's right by them. Also, If you can convince her to at least pray with you about it and not do anything behind your back, you will have won at least half (if not more!) of the battle. There is much good advice here, but DagnyDocket's and test_pattern's stood out to me. Helping her find that red line may take some gentle information dropping, (like the masks sent to the lab info I posted below), but wait until she is both open and receptive.
Prayers for you all. Not sure on kids’ ages or how much they dislike the masks, but if there is passion around that issue perhaps have the kids talk to her directly asking for her to champion for them, too. Or if they feel let down that she’s not. Not to put them in the middle but to be real - parents are the advocates and hearing from your child something that bothers or hurts them may get her attention in a way you never can. GL.