I don't want to control anyone's sexuality and don't know any Christians who do.

God does however give us context for sex. He says it's better to marry than to burn ( burn with desire for sex) it's natural to want sex. Song of Solomon has much to say about sex. God clearly shows sex is intended between men and women. Bible says to procreate, replenish the earth. So where the hell you get you sour b.s. about what Christians think concerning sex? Bible doesn't say you have sex and then kill a baby for sport so you dont have to deal with it. You sound like someone who regrets shit they did. If you are ashamed it's your problem. Because if you do shameful shit I'm not gonna pat u on the back.

Far be it from me to tell anyone whether they should have sex inside or outside of marriage, but then women need to stop whining if they get pregnant, if the baby daddy leaves you and if they get STD’s. Men callously have unprotected sex, and women lie to entrap men. There are very few nice and responsible people out there. Women act like sluts these days, the difference is society still calls them sluts and whores, while promiscuous men are given a pass. There are many men out there who don’t and won’t take responsibility, just like there are plenty of women who won’t. The ones hurt in the process are the children who grow up in poverty, resented by their mothers, or aborted because they are inconvenient. Fine you want to have sex with every Tom, Dick, Harry, Lisa, Susan and Nancy do it, but then both sides take responsibility for their actions. Sounds like you want to have fun, just like the women, but then won’t be responsible. Then like many a man, deny paternity, refuse to pay child support, or don’t want to use birth control. Murdering a child because it is inconvenient is not right. The society that doesn’t value life goes down the tubes. Sex is not a recreational sport. I say both parties that act irresponsibly get what they deserve. By all means go out and have mindless sex with as many stupid, ignorant and irresponsible women as you want brother. I call this using each other. Unfortunately I have seen many young women who freely engaged in sex because they were looking for someone to love them. They then are left with a baby, when they are still young without the emotional, physical and financial support they need and thought they had found. Many a woman equates sex with love. Women and men are wired differently. Men equate sex with feeling good.

I agree part way- but if men expect a virginal wife and then sleep around themselves before marriage, that's a double standard, don't you think?

Since you brought Jesus into this, you make a good point that Jesus was only out to shame one group- The self-righteous. In His day though, there was already a religious structure that shamed people for certain sins, women were shamed for sex with someone who was not their betrothed or husband, men were shamed for being tax - collectors for Rome or being Zealots (and Jesus managed to have these two extremes as disciples :) or even for being a simple publican.

However, He Himself said: "I did not come to destroy the law but to fulfill it." Teachers that say "Jesus fulfilled the law so I don't .." make two errors: Fulfilling the law is not the end of the law, except in the sense that the law relating to sacrifice for sin is completed in Jesus. Second, that all the law is now nullified, Paul and Jesus both said they upheld the law. I agree that we are not to 'tell people how to live their lives' on our own authority. However, IF you accept Jesus' authority, you do not have the privilege of contradicting him on the law of God.

Biology has evolved for men to sleep with multiple women and for women to sleep with one man. Anything different goes against millions of years of evolution.

A man can spread his seed multiple times to multiple women, and historically/evolutionarily speaking, without consequence. A woman needs to be more deliberate because she has to carry the baby for 9 months and evolutionarily speaking, be the one to raise the child. Things get more interesting though, if you've ever read the book, "Sperm Wars". Women have evolved to want to get pregnant by the strong alpha male who may or may not make a poor father/provider, but will want to marry the beta male who will be faithful and a good provider. Obviously a man with a combination of these traits is ideal, but rare.

Obviously modern times have fucked up our natural biology and sociology because of birth control, abortions, family court being so biased towards women, child support, etc.

edit: because the downvoats are funny for speaking facts. Just because our biology is wired a certain way doesn't mean it's good for society. I absolutely believe in monogamy and marriage, but that requires a bit of going against male biology. You can't question that prior to civilization, the alpha male had children with multiple women. That's just the way we were wired. And still are. I haven't read the bible as in depth as I would like but I met a woman once who is as religious as they come and she told me the bible says that there are aspects of men and women that we have to consistently fight against. She told me men are naturally weak and must work to become strong and that women are naturally manipulative and must work to not be so (I can't verify this but I don't see why she would lie to me). There are certain aspects of our biology that we need to fight for the betterment of ourselves and society. But do not confuse this with the aspects of our natural biology that the liberal overlords want us to fight against that is not good for society.