Dunno how a lifetime of abuse can leave a person sane. Not saying the guy is 'in'sane, but I was "raised" by narcissists, and know I'll be fucked up for a long time.
Knowing that you cannot change the past and cannot control the future leads to a simple and logical conclusion, you can only control what you do from moment to moment. How you view the world around you and what you decide to do reflects who you want to be. It is a continuous struggle to be who you want to be without letting your past affect how you see the world, but it can be done. I still struggle to avoid being affected by my past, but it is getting easier every day. Maybe it is simply becoming habit or age brings wisdom, but whatever the reason, I am becoming more like who I want to be. The first and most important step is to let go of the past, forgive the trespasses against you and avoid interacting with those that would continue to do so. You can forgive without continuing to allow them into your life.
Dunno how a lifetime of abuse can leave a person sane. Not saying the guy is 'in'sane, but I was "raised" by narcissists, and know I'll be fucked up for a long time.
I have an unnaturally strong faith in God.
Happens all the time. Some people are just luckier than others that way.
Check out videos of SRA (Satanic ritual abuse) survivors. They relate remarkably similar accounts of their maltreatment.
Don't want to sound like a dick, but I'll pass on watching videos on that.
Yeah, it's not easy to compartmentalize
Knowing that you cannot change the past and cannot control the future leads to a simple and logical conclusion, you can only control what you do from moment to moment. How you view the world around you and what you decide to do reflects who you want to be. It is a continuous struggle to be who you want to be without letting your past affect how you see the world, but it can be done. I still struggle to avoid being affected by my past, but it is getting easier every day. Maybe it is simply becoming habit or age brings wisdom, but whatever the reason, I am becoming more like who I want to be. The first and most important step is to let go of the past, forgive the trespasses against you and avoid interacting with those that would continue to do so. You can forgive without continuing to allow them into your life.