How are you doing? You have been in my thoughts a lot. I lost my daughter, and I do understand the pain you're going through. It's pain that hurts every cell of your being. The only way to get through this is through God and Jesus Christ. It's your cross and you must carry it. A few months is the beginning. It's been 27 years and I am not over it, but with God's help, the sun shines again and I have had great joy. If I knew at the begining the pain I would have to face, even then, I wouldn't give up a minute of the privilege and honor of being her mother.
Open yourself up and you will know. Watch for butterflies and birds and coincidences that are too many to be mere coincidence. Pray. God knows what path you're on and He will help you. You must walk through the pain to come out the other side. And be patient. It took me 20 years to go through her closet and dresser. Your daughters want you to live and to find love and joy. BTW, I know angels are real.
Thank you for checking in. It means a lot. Today was a very hard day. I have noticed a lot more butterflies around and that was one thing they loved. I feel like God is telling me this is going to take a long time and the same as you say, be patient. My wife lost her father when she was young and she's stronger than me in this, but she is still very hurt too. I feel like I'm living in retrograde. It's hard to listen to music or really enjoy anything because I feel guilt when I do. I just think of them and how they loved us so unconditionally and how they didn't deserve to go. I hope i am not distressing you in talking about this. But I am very glad you thought of me.
Darlin, don't worry about distressing me. If I could, I would hug you and your wife....and be aware that many marriages fail after losing a child because we grieve differently. I became active in Compassionate friends, but my husband couldn't face that. Just be aware and seek help. You are facing one of the hardest challenges God asks anyone to face. Ask for help. You can't do this one alone. God bless you, fren.
Oh, and those coincidences I spoke of? I don't share much personal stuff here, but last night, after your response above, I felt a very strong prompting to share some of what I have learned, which comes from the most private and protected place in my heart. Your angels made me do it. On very bad days, you need a hug and your angels will make sure you get one.
How are you doing? You have been in my thoughts a lot. I lost my daughter, and I do understand the pain you're going through. It's pain that hurts every cell of your being. The only way to get through this is through God and Jesus Christ. It's your cross and you must carry it. A few months is the beginning. It's been 27 years and I am not over it, but with God's help, the sun shines again and I have had great joy. If I knew at the begining the pain I would have to face, even then, I wouldn't give up a minute of the privilege and honor of being her mother.
Open yourself up and you will know. Watch for butterflies and birds and coincidences that are too many to be mere coincidence. Pray. God knows what path you're on and He will help you. You must walk through the pain to come out the other side. And be patient. It took me 20 years to go through her closet and dresser. Your daughters want you to live and to find love and joy. BTW, I know angels are real.
Thank you for checking in. It means a lot. Today was a very hard day. I have noticed a lot more butterflies around and that was one thing they loved. I feel like God is telling me this is going to take a long time and the same as you say, be patient. My wife lost her father when she was young and she's stronger than me in this, but she is still very hurt too. I feel like I'm living in retrograde. It's hard to listen to music or really enjoy anything because I feel guilt when I do. I just think of them and how they loved us so unconditionally and how they didn't deserve to go. I hope i am not distressing you in talking about this. But I am very glad you thought of me.
Darlin, don't worry about distressing me. If I could, I would hug you and your wife....and be aware that many marriages fail after losing a child because we grieve differently. I became active in Compassionate friends, but my husband couldn't face that. Just be aware and seek help. You are facing one of the hardest challenges God asks anyone to face. Ask for help. You can't do this one alone. God bless you, fren.
Oh, and those coincidences I spoke of? I don't share much personal stuff here, but last night, after your response above, I felt a very strong prompting to share some of what I have learned, which comes from the most private and protected place in my heart. Your angels made me do it. On very bad days, you need a hug and your angels will make sure you get one.