It's not really that they need it, it's just a way for them to feel like they are in control. Childhood abandonment and neglect usually leads to hoarding. It's a lifelong fetal position of insecurity that never goes away. Hoarding makes big empty spaces more managable for someone who has just enough esteem for taking basic care of themself.
My dad’s parents were killed by a drunk driver when he was 12. He hoards and it took me so long to realize the connection. He also lost everything they owned because his parents didn’t have a will.
That's truly horrible. I can't imagine the pain he endured. I'm glad he was able to pick himself back up and fight through the darkness. The fact you are here is indicative he did a pretty good job as a dad.
I know I can’t imagine! I have 2 sons. My dad had a brother and my two boys remind me of him and his brother in that they’re little shits. But it breaks my heart to think of what my dad went through as a pretty young boy. I see my two boys and I pray nothing happens to me while they’re young. He didn’t have his father to teach him crucial things. He has his faults but by and large he’s a wonderful man who did the best he could raising us. He’s actually the first one of us to discover Q. He found YouTube videos back in Dec of 2017, so super early on in the movement. So he also started hoarding food now!
Interesting. I do not hoard and I have a lot neglect, abandonment, and so on. I am not an expert but I am one who been thru it. I left everything behind. I had just enough money to buy a one way plane ticket to the other side of the country.
That might be a key I suppose. In the Bible Jesus tells those to in a way do that and follow Him.
For ever the kids only saw bare walls in the house. My wife is the same way. She too left everything behind. At the moment we found going to an estate sale and buy what someone else designed worked out for getting some stuff on the wall. The key is finding an estate sale that had someone with the same taste as you.
Everyone has different ways to cope. You are obviously very strong. You also found your way to possibly the most supportive community on the internet (here). Leaving everything behind takes bravery and as I once heard it, God rewards those who are brave.
Thank you. I do appreciate it. I am on the eve of my surgery tomorrow and reading posts and stuff keeps me from thinking about the inevitable tomorrow.
Bravery at times does sound good, I do not think I am brave. I have always loved people and want to help people. When I was young my dream was to search for kidnapped kids-i have experienced being kidnapped too.
That dream never manifested. With what I see in that world now it might be a world with a short life expectancy. I would not bend the knee to evil if I had authority over a child being hurt and many would call that a risk.
Thank you for the- kind words. God is the greatest. I have everything I asked for. Maybe not at the time I wanted it but that goes with it.
It's not really that they need it, it's just a way for them to feel like they are in control. Childhood abandonment and neglect usually leads to hoarding. It's a lifelong fetal position of insecurity that never goes away. Hoarding makes big empty spaces more managable for someone who has just enough esteem for taking basic care of themself.
My dad’s parents were killed by a drunk driver when he was 12. He hoards and it took me so long to realize the connection. He also lost everything they owned because his parents didn’t have a will.
That's truly horrible. I can't imagine the pain he endured. I'm glad he was able to pick himself back up and fight through the darkness. The fact you are here is indicative he did a pretty good job as a dad.
I know I can’t imagine! I have 2 sons. My dad had a brother and my two boys remind me of him and his brother in that they’re little shits. But it breaks my heart to think of what my dad went through as a pretty young boy. I see my two boys and I pray nothing happens to me while they’re young. He didn’t have his father to teach him crucial things. He has his faults but by and large he’s a wonderful man who did the best he could raising us. He’s actually the first one of us to discover Q. He found YouTube videos back in Dec of 2017, so super early on in the movement. So he also started hoarding food now!
Interesting. I do not hoard and I have a lot neglect, abandonment, and so on. I am not an expert but I am one who been thru it. I left everything behind. I had just enough money to buy a one way plane ticket to the other side of the country.
That might be a key I suppose. In the Bible Jesus tells those to in a way do that and follow Him.
For ever the kids only saw bare walls in the house. My wife is the same way. She too left everything behind. At the moment we found going to an estate sale and buy what someone else designed worked out for getting some stuff on the wall. The key is finding an estate sale that had someone with the same taste as you.
Everyone has different ways to cope. You are obviously very strong. You also found your way to possibly the most supportive community on the internet (here). Leaving everything behind takes bravery and as I once heard it, God rewards those who are brave.
Thank you. I do appreciate it. I am on the eve of my surgery tomorrow and reading posts and stuff keeps me from thinking about the inevitable tomorrow.
Bravery at times does sound good, I do not think I am brave. I have always loved people and want to help people. When I was young my dream was to search for kidnapped kids-i have experienced being kidnapped too.
That dream never manifested. With what I see in that world now it might be a world with a short life expectancy. I would not bend the knee to evil if I had authority over a child being hurt and many would call that a risk.
Thank you for the- kind words. God is the greatest. I have everything I asked for. Maybe not at the time I wanted it but that goes with it.