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The medical system is a damned joke! I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. My dad called me about 8:30, nursing home taking mama to the ER, unresponsive. We got here about 9:30, she had been in the room 30 minutes to an hour. We have seen the nurse about three times and the people taking her to get scans. I’m used to this new way of doing things after being in ER last year, my mom and dad in ER over the last year or so. They did save my life last year but I stayed in the ER from 3:30 PM till 1 AM getting flown to bigger hospital. They never told me I was septic until I got to the larger hospital. Sadly this ER is better than others.
Then you got the nursing home system that’s awful! Maybe one in ten actually cares and does his job. I saw her last weekend and she barely talked. Gave me her diamond bracelet but didn’t talk much. That’s not her to give away her jewelry even to family.
Nursing home did blood work and uti test. Said nothing was wrong. That was last week and this week they say she has uti and pneumonia. The PA was handling it instead of the doctor. Her mental state could be from UTI or from too many years of prescription drug use.
She’s spoken to my daddy a couple times when he talked to her. Isn’t speaking to me. Has a thousand yard stare.
We aren’t the only ones going through this. It’s just a shame. America used to so good in medical care. I know it’s part of the plan. Y’all are the only ones that get this.
Edit: It sounded bad I took her bracelet. I took it because she insisted. It’s in the safe at home and will take it back when she asks. I don’t even like diamonds or jewelry like that.
Caring for an ailing parent is not for the faint of heart. My thoughts and prayers are with your mom, your dad and you, anon, that the Lord give you all strength to deal with this difficult situation knowing that He's there with all of you, come what may. I do hope she recovers fully and gets back to much better health. Just do the best you can to comfort and help her and do so with love in your heart -- there's nothing more anyone can be expected to do. God bless you all, anon.
As far as her jewelry is concerned it's best you take all of it back home and leave it in your safe until she gets back in a safe environment.
Thanks for your kind words and prayers. After sitting in ER from 9:30 - 4 finally got results. She had a UTI apparently at least two weeks. They started antibiotics the day before hospital visit and hadn’t kicked in yet. By the end of the day she started speaking some.
I most definitely need strength! The relationship with my mom has always been strained even when I was a small child. Watch the movie, The Help, I’m the little girl ignored by her mom when the new baby brother comes along. It’s not as bad as the movie, big reason I lived beside my grandparents and great grandma and they made up for it. I do believe my mom loved me back then and does now. I was probably too much like my daddy and that didn’t help. (Don’t back down or take junk from people). I had a great childhood other than that. She worked her but off doing things for us. From the trips, clothes, always had a pool in the summer and so much more. We just didn’t get along and I’ve accepted it now and stopped arguing with her at least a decade or more ago. It’s just not worth it. However she’s not the easiest person to be around. Nothing is ever right. But my daddy gets the complaining more than I do. He drank till I was 18 and she went through a lot with him. Verbal abuse hurts as bad as broken bones.
She hasn’t been home in two years. She doesn’t know it, we went through her jewelry a few months ago. My dad wanted me get what I wanted now. I fully expect her to ask about the bracelet when she gets better. She can get it back. I’d rather her enjoy it than sit in the safe. I know there’s the possibility of someone stealing it, can’t worry about things that might happen. Thanks again 🙂