Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
Based on its evolving needs and plenty of user feedback, we are trying to bring some order and institute some rules. Please make sure you read these rules and participate in the spirit of this community.
Rules for General Chat
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Be respectful to each other. This is of utmost importance, and comments may be removed if deemed not respectful.
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Avoid long drawn out arguments. This should be a place to relax, not to waste your time needlessly.
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Personal anecdotes, puzzles, cute pics/clips - everything welcome
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Please do not spam at the top level. If you have a lot to post each day, try and post them all together in one top level comment
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Try keep things light. If you are bringing in deep stuff, try not to go overboard.
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Things that are clearly on-topic for this board should be posted as a separate post and not here (except if you are new and still getting the feel of this place)
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If you find people violating these rules, deport them rather than start a argument here.
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Feel free to give feedback as these rules are expected to keep evolving
In short, imagine this thread to be a local community hall where we all gather and chat daily. Please be respectful to others in the same way
I don't give a shit why she drinks, I don't want to be around a bunch of pride supporting people that turn a blind eye to such obvious sin and evil just because they're sober. It's not fair for you to judge me and I her but here we are. I'm just hoping for a decent church or a better group of people at a different club. I'm not Jesus but if I was I'd be kicking over tables and whip people, I don't want to hang around murderers and adulterers. My aunt used to go to church and pretend she was this wonderful woman, people thought she was a nice sweet woman too but I watched her let her own children go hungry and whip them with electrical cords.
I am facing my problems, dealing with evil is easier when I'm drunk because I don't notice how horrible some people are. I didn't say I was an alcoholic, you did.
Luckily Jesus doesn't feel this way. If you aren't able to yet show them grace then it's probably best to be real with yourself and try to stay away from them until God can soften that part of your heart. This way you aren't laying judgement that doesn't belong to you.
I completely understand your frustration with people though and have been through that myself
Thank you, this helps. I pray for guidance every morning, I'm probably just being shown a lesson God knows I'm ready for now.
I would agree with you. I had a lesson to learn years ago (one of many). A guy I dated was emotionally abusive (imagine that!) But I kept going back because there were parts of him I really liked (camping, hiking, working on things, travel). I came to realize the lesson was for me to learn how to let other people's s**t roll off me. Stay calm, don't do back to them what they did to me, don't let other people push my buttons, don't let other people control me or my time. Don't take his inventory. Learn how to walk away when it gets too bad to handle, before getting angry. Take a break. Being around him helped me recognize, examine, and finally disable several of my hot buttons. As time passed, it seemed God put more grounded and functional people in my life. Today is good, and the toxic people are no longer in my life.
Of course my fren. Thanks for being vulnerable with us and sharing your honest and true feelings. It helps no one to keep them bottled up. At least this way frens can help support you. Above all though...keep giving it to Jesus. It's awesome you pray for guidance. Keep letting Jesus chisel away at the parts that need it. It's a life process. Will be sure to pray for you as well.
Prayer helps but I keep it pretty simple, just wake up and say please and then say thank you before bed. I'm a simple creature, God knows what I am and what I need.