Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
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Been going to Alcoholics Anonymous and it's starting to grind on my nerves. Bunch of bleating deacons and once you look past the wrinkles and grey hairs you realize these people have suppressed spiritual and mental growth for decades with booze. It's a bunch of sixty year old shells giving the emotional perspective of a twenty year old. I definitely appreciate a small portion of truly wise individuals but they're few and far between.
There's this seventy year old lady there that everyone says is a sweetheart, the other day she needs a ride. She can tell I'm right winged and decides to tell me she's a lesbian and her husband years ago figured it out and outed her to their kids... like I'm supposed to be sympathetic or some shit. She tells me about how he turned into a "bad person" and was terrible towards the end of their marriage before he died.
I go back and my friend is like, "isn't Kathleen a wonderful and sweet woman?". I told him I hate her the most of everyone there and that she's a selfish cunt, he was shocked to say the least. She envied everyone else so much she faked love and created lives with an unsuspecting man. She basically killed her husband and fucked up two children in the head because she couldn't be honest. She's a coward. I'd never marry some fag and adopt kids pretending I'm gay like the other 98% of society if the roles were reversed. I don't care where you stand on homosexuality that's some cold shit to do to someone. That guy could've met someone better and probably wouldn't have turned into a drunk and still be alive without that devastating bitch.
I'm sorry to hear you have had bad experiences with the meetings. I to did not find the meetings helpful, though I know many that do. I'm sure each meeting is different and anytime you get addicts together...there are gonna be a lot that are dealing with there own demons.
Have you thought about joining a local church. The 12 steps do have some biblical support...though they don't ground it in Christ...so it falls short in many ways.
The important thing is to "control the things you can control" which doesn't include how others act...only how we respond to there actions. Love you fren. Feel free to reach out if you ever need a fren to talk to or need prayer. Love you
I've met some really great people there too but I just don't think it's healthy for me to be around some of the people there. I realize that I'm going to have health issues from alcohol and want to be a better son, business owner, friend etc. so I quit drinking. I wish I had some of you as friends in real life. It feels like I'm lumped in with some truly awful people and I'm glad they're getting help but I didn't ruin other people's lives, I was a good person even drunk I'm just better off without it. It's wrong for me to judge but I don't want to be around shitty people regardless of their sobriety.
I can't be around people who ditched their kids, beat their spouse, cheated, lied, stole... I'm guilty of dodging responsibility and spending too much time getting drunk with my dog and fishing... led girls on because I was drunk and horny....
Wow fren awesome heartfelt stuff right here. Thanks for being open.
What is the reason you feel you can't be around people with certain faults/sins?
Someday I trust we will all be able to meet. Praying on that very thing often.
Fren that's awesome that you wanted to be a better person. Keep at it.
I think I get what Luminescent is saying. At least, I think so. Some people are just so toxic, it's dangerous to be around them. And I feel no obligation to do so. If God wants me to be around them, He'll prompt me and give me the strength. Not everybody is worth our time. Some are just demons in disguise.