I've got Cavalier King Charles spaniels but would love a King Charles Spaniel. They are even harder to get here than Cavaliers . I've searched for years with no luck at finding King Charles or English Toy Spaniel as they're also known.
Thank you for all your advice and kind comments frens. Joys1daughter ,we do have a code word but the first thing he does is takes her phone when he gets in the door. I have gone and bought another Sim card this morning that I will activate in my name and put it in one of my old phones and tell her to hide it so she can msg or ring me or call emergency services on it so if he pinched her phone she has some way of contacting someone. She lives rural which means she's pretty isolated and can't just run next door if she's in trouble. The local abuse agency didn't even show up when they said they would,they're useless.
Aww thank you. I would feel more comfortable if she came here but she says she doesn't want to be a burden. I think she's quite old school in thinking if she can't pay her way then she's a burden to someone ,even if it's just until she gets on her feet. At the moment I'm extremely worried about her mental health. She was shaking and vomiting at the mere thought of him returning the other day ,she's truly terrified of him. In the past I think he's alienated everyone she was friends with which is their usual playbook. They feel isolated and have nobody to turn to. Ive told her I'm not intimidated easily and am quite stubborn and strong which I think finally sunk in the other day when I didn't back down and fired back at him. Money wise I think he's manipulated it so the bank account was only in his name. I've got her to put a caveat over the house already so he can't sell it without that being lifted.
Thank you. I know things will be very hard for her as money hasn't really been a problem in the past ,he's on big money. It's going to take some adjusting that's for sure but I have said she can do it and she'll be better not living in fear all the time ,waiting for him to explode. I think that's a good idea ,sit down and make a budget for her. The doctor she went to for her injuries just wanted to put her on medication and sweep it under the table. No way I told her ,I am happy to help her get through it without all that rubbish. I have said it will be hard adjusting but she'll get used to it. I don't know the situation at the moment as far as monetary support ,I guess that all gets decided in a divorce,at the moment I'm concerned about the immediate. We've organised an emergency payment that will come through next week for her.
I've had an interesting week. A friend found out her husband was cheating a few weeks back and now they're in the process of separating. He works away ,comes home every few weeks. Anyway he turned up at home a couple of days ago. She's terrified of him ,he's an abuser ,knocks her around and generally a mongrel of a bloke. So wed morning I get this text from her number which said I'm not leaving my house. So I'm thinking this isn't her ,it's him ,she never sends me texts like that in the morning,it's always good morning how are you blah blah. So I wrote back well good morning to you too. Same text back Yer I'm not leaving my house ,so I thought nope definitely not her so I write back Hello ( insert his name) nice to 'meet' you,stolen her phone again have you . ( I've never met him as I haven't known this lady that long and he takes her phone when he gets back she's told me). So I get an abusive text back which I was expecting. So I write back ,well are you going to give her her phone back or am I going to send the police for a welfare check? No reply ,half hour goes by still no reply so I drove to the police station and asked could they do a welfare check. Well a little while later she calls me,says the cops just left. I said well you'd either love me or hate me for doing it but I was concerned as I know he bashed her around last time he was back and my gut instinct was right ,he'd hit her again this time. What surprised me was she said I have been the only one in 39 years that has stood up for her and done something like that. She said what did you send him as it was like the twilight zone ,one minute he was ranting and raving at her ,next minute it went deathly quiet. He'd deleted it from her phone so I showed her on mine. So now he cannot just turn up there unannounced,he has to have police present if he goes there to collect anything. Today I spent a little while before work helping her to contact some places so she can get some income as he's cut off access to the bank accounts etc etc.I have told her if need be she can come here and stay. I guess what I'm asking is how else can I support this lady as she's extremely fragile right now. I've made sure she has basic supplies and food for her dogs but can you think of anything else I can do to help her? She has a heart of gold and a lovely person. She doesn't deserve this.
I am so sorry for your family's loss. My mum used to call it the 'year of firsts' after someone passed. First birthday ,first Christmas,first anniversary without them.Its so very hard. I am sending lots of prayers ,hugs and best wishes to you all.
Probably a four wheeler. We don't get snow so a snow plough would be no use to me ,a jet ski - I don't live close to water and can't see it being much fun going in circles around the dam. A Vespa or a Segway it would take me way too long to get anywhere living in the sticks. A dirt bike I'd probably stack it. At the moment a ute would be really handy so maybe I can have that instead.
Got home from work to a newborn calf in the paddock. That was a surprise ,I didn't think she was that close to calving.Not sure if it's a heifer or bull calf yet, it was getting dark when I went looking for her as she didn't come up for her hay and I didn't want to disturb her too much .
I don't know this lady very well ,she comes in to my work occasionally but that doesn't matter ,I'll help anyone with their animals if I can. When it comes to animals I'm a bit of a softie.:) I asked her if she'd tried peanut butter ,she said she just spits them out. One of the funniest things I ever read was about how to give a cat a pill compared to a dog. I don't know if you've ever seen it but it's hilarious.
I hadn't seen it before today.