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It's all well and good to say that, but until you have experienced three grandparents with dementia it is a much easier said than done proposition
I did it for both of my parents -- mostly by myself. It can be done. Both of them had dementia with a host of other problems. My father was diabetic and lost part of a leg. I dealt with this and more. Yes, it was hard, but I don't regret a minute of it, as they got to spend their last days at home where they wanted to be.
Impressive. Hats off to you and yours. My family also is on the side of letting them die at home rather than nursing homes, but dementia/alzheimers is the deal breaker. That is when they get moved into good professional facilities. So hard to care for them when they have alzheimers. If we ever find out alzheimers is something our govt was behind? Off with their heads.
Well, let me tell you something. My mother-in-law, who was of sound mind, was the first to go into a nursing home when she became wheelchair-bound. Her family made this decision. It was actually just as much work for the family as if she'd been at home. If she had to go to the hospital, we had to pay a fee everyday to hold her room. Since it was expensive to do this, we had to go with a truck and clear out her room of all her belongings, then lug it all back when she got out of the hospital. We had to do this a number of times. Since having them do her laundry was another added expense (where most of the time other residents ended up wearing her clothes, as a result) the family had to start doing her laundry. They charged an arm and a leg for Depends, so we ended up buying them ourselves at Sam's Club. We made countless trips back and forth doing this for a couple of years. They chose a nursing home that was central to most of the family, but it wasn't necessarily the closest to anyone.
Really, in the long haul, it would have been easier in many respects to have kept her at home.
exactly....you are not going to get one on one care...you are going to get whatever the staff can get to......keeping them home would be better with one caveat....many elderly can be very stubborn and prideful and demanding.....oh yes, elderly can be very difficult to handle....
What if you don't have a home? What if they didn't have a home?
Say you have a small one room apartment. What do you do?
Not only is that extremely ruinous to any further progress, both financially and socially, it is extremely stressful.
This isn't exactly some fringe situation either. Housing prices are getting ridiculous, with Blackrock further jacking the prices up. Taxes are insane. So on.
You are lucky that the state didn't intervene and force you to put them in a home "for their own good." It happens, and in California, spousal separation is mandatory when one has dementia and the other doesn't. I believe the mandatory spousal separation is cruel.
Visiting nurses came in frequently to check on my parents. They were a godsend. They helped me get whatever I needed to take care of them, along with monitoring their health. They always told me I was doing a good job, so I had no fears of the state intervening. In fact, it never even crossed my mind that they would try.
It is hard emotionally and physically caring for dementia and Alzheimer’s family members. You will have no regrets, knowing you did everything to make their last days comfortable.
Did you also have a full-time job that required you to be away from home?
When it first started, yes. When it became necessary to do full-time care, no. My spouse and I both worked for many years and were careful with our money, which allowed me to give my parents the care they required. (I have no siblings.)
My grandfather was an ex POW. got pulled over and detained by cops 6 hrs away while driving and would not give them anything but name rank and serial #. It went downhill from there.
We tried nurse visits, etc but he ended up in a high security dementia facility after he made a dummy from his clothes and tried to escape the regular nursing home after lights out.
I wish we could have done more for him but there was zero cooperation on his part and little recognition that he viewed us as any different from the Nazi camp guards.
Love the spirit of your grandfather.
My father-in-law thought he was the President, and all workers in the facility were his cabinet. He couldn't understand why they weren't responding to his call to "scramble the warships"!
Biden thinks he's the president too. Sometimes. Sometimes he thinks he's Corn Pop.
Kek
Lol yes it was good to see but you can imagine why he was a problem for us to take care of and had to go the route he did sadly
That's what anybody should do when stopped by an occupying army.
Yep. Reverted right back to his training.
State police were cool tho. They called my dad at like 1 or 2 in the AM. "Are you related to this man?" "Yes." Explained situation and kept him there til dad got there. He was just sitting on a chair, hunched over like a little kid.
He looked at dad and said "oh, you're with the fuckers now?" Dad said it was the first time he ever heard him swear.
The cop in charge understood, he was going thru same thing with his dad. So there are good ones out there. He had even lost his wallet and damaged his car on this trip but no citations or anything were issued. All in all a very human bunch at that station that day/night.
most likely caused by vaccines or other poisons offered us by our captors.
Could also have been all the exposure to aluminum etc during the war. We have his POW cup, where they would give him his spoonful of watery soup. It was an old tin can, and he had attached barbed wire to it as a handle. At some point he gave away the spoon, which was worn flat from trying to get every last drop. I have often wondered being as old as it is and from German origin if it's not soldered with lead, as the joints are very visible unlike modern tins. Had started life as one of their fake milk tins or "klim cans" as the POW slang went
Yes, I understand.
The Cabal doesn't allow for families that take care of seniors to have enough money to do it oftentimes. I'm not sure how much they compensate a relative caregiver but its a small amount.
Often people resort to trying to find an affordable live-in caregiver. The trouble with that is affordable and fair to the live in doesn't work.
He hosed the non family live in or visiting situation by constantly thinking they were stealing. When they finally took his driver's license, which was an act of God bc he even had the Dr fooled, we found notes on his phone book where he had tried renting cars.
He had destroyed his with enough reportable accidents that insurance would no longer cover as well as some unreported accidents I'd rather not speculate on.
He would come home from a drive with trim missing, once with the webbing of a lawn chair stuck in the front rim. No idea what happened and I'd rather not know. He's been gone 16 years now.