Hi all,
I know a lot of you are very smart so I wanted to seek your advice. Currently, I'm in my late thirties and come from a good family background. However, I don't have any long-lasting friends and my love life is non-existent. However, I do try to meet people and get along with them, but in the end it never works out.
I've never had a real girlfriend before, although I've tried dating and never got too far. After trying so many times and failing, it's starting to feel like it's not meant to be. I also feel like I don't relate to the general populace. Most are unawake to the realities of the world and are brainwashed by media and popular opinion. I tend to go against the grain and because of that, it's hard for others to relate to me.
I also I have aspirations to do something amazing and believe I have the potential to do that, but I am unsure how to go about that. I don't have anyone to guide me so everything comes from the top of my dome. I'm happy to be alive, but I have a strong desire to do something notable and great. But I'm afraid that desire might not be enough.
What do you suggest I do to live a better life?
Find a hobby you enjoy, become very very good at it, teach it to others
I have been married 3 times so I may have some knowledge to impart. The first I met in church, second at a bar and third and love of my life at work. The first lasted 12 years with the daughter of a minister. I wanted someone to be an ally of us, but she decided she wanted to take sides against the world without regard to us but just status.
The second had many family issues that she used as excuses for her insanity. You must adopt an ideology of zero drama to have a great relationship. Drama is for lefties and always ends badly. Adopt a zero-drama policy and move on immediately. That one lasted 8 years.
You are near the age I met someone I have been with for 20 years now. If either one of you keeps score you have not found your soulmate so move on now. Both of you have to decide if anything about the other will prevent you from being together for ever.
The most important thing you can do is move on if the relationship is not going to get better and not worse. Don't settle for almost because what you are looking for does exist.
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Is the question, "What do you suggest..." an ethical one, or a personal one? It could be answered one of two ways.
The fact that you took the time to post a question anonymously on a fringe board, suggests some things. You share some details about yourself and your life, but not enough to get a really meaningful or detailed answer. If you are indeed, serious, one could assume that you are feeling lonely and a bit unfulfilled. On the other hand, are you looking at a potential future association to propel you towards your desire to "...do something notable and great?" These are usually considered two different things.
If you are, in fact, lonely and unfulfilled, I would look more closely at your self-description of "...I don't have any long-lasting friends..." Why is that? I suspect this might also have some impact upon your difficulty with dating. I know it's difficult to meet conservative, traditional women, but they ARE out there.
I would say, make sure your fears about relationships aren't sabotaging your efforts before the point where relationships get interesting.
Best wishes.
Live life one day at a time. Some days are going to feel better than others. Try to spin things as positively as you can while maintaining your expectations for how things should be. Strive to become the best individual you can be without harming yourself, other people or animals. I am in a similar boat--lack of meaningful relationships and a not so stellar romantic life--so you are not alone in that regard.
My brother passed away when he was 30 years old, just nine days before my 26th birthday. I'll be 36 this year. On top of that my best friend of 20+ years passed away nine days before the ninth anniversary of my brother's passing. (The number nine is pretty significant to me as you can see lol...) October is a hard month, but I will always hold true to myself, trying to live a good life in honor of those who've left too soon.
The craziness is a little more tolerable when you accept life for what it is: one gigantic mystery. It's okay to not have all of the answers. That makes it more interesting in my opinion.
Desire + Action = Results
Yep, went years with bad relationships (or none). In the end I was tired and nothing was working. I decided it was time to turn it over to God so that's what I did. I asked that God send me a lasting relationship. I felt the burden come off of me and I gave up every effort to look. It was only months 'til I met my wife.
Good, long-term friendships are rare so don't focus on finding one too much, just dig deep into the Bible and spend time on outdoor physical activities like hiking, climbing, or maybe kayaking. Just have faith that when the time is right, God will place someone in your life.
If you do dind someone, keep the following in mind (truth be told, this can apply to females AND to males): Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XuI6GTY9eVc
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Learn to be a chocolate chef as a hobby. Take a few classes, learn the art of making chocolate candies, treats and desserts.
Once you get fairly good, and have given gifts of chocolates to a few others around you... you will NEVER have a problem with meeting women ever again. Women will meet YOU. They also won't worry so much about looks, income or personal quirks. You make chocolates... so that automatically checks all the boxes on their wish list.
Also, women will argue with almost any man, but no woman will yell at or run off and leave a chocolate chef. It goes against their nature.
Do that, and have a happy life.
As someone who IS a chocolatier (when I feel like it, I do individual orders and specialty sales, plus holiday time sales), this is a really good idea. Getting really good at making chocolates, with pure chocolate, not compound or confectionary chocolate develops attention to detail, PATIENCE and perseverance, and the understanding that you WILL make mistakes sometimes, but can move on from them. Attributes/skills that are always useful, in many aspects of life. Besides which, pure chocolate (containing cocoa mass and cocoa liquor) is incredibly good for you!
On a side note. I didn’t meet my husband/life partner/best friend until my mid forties, and rarely dated before that. I find that knowing what you don’t want is just as important as knowing what you do. I also agree with CommiesGetTheRope in not settling. As stated, your match exists.
You will find your match. Take chances, and look for the opportunities. Blessings.
...I was going to suggest putting a banana in his pants but your idea refines this concept.....
There's only one thing truly that has ever gave me peace, like profound inexplicable peace.
God's word is my source of peace. My internal strife, insecurities, fears, goals and dreams, all seem to be brought to a central focal point when I'm in His word.
I'm not saying organized religion is your answer, as I've found it doesn't work for me. I'm saying a relationship through God's word is where the secret to life really is.
That's what guides me through those daily highs and lows. I make it my daily routine to get in His word and read, study and yes even listen. It's the only medicine I've found that cures whatever ails me.
My external circumstances didn't change that much as a result. But my attitude, perception and thought process did. That in itself is a miracle.
So I'd suggest you give it a try. Commit yourself to 30 days of reading at least a few chapters each day. It's been said 21 days will create a habit. Anyways give it a shot, who knows you might actually learn something about yourself. Ideally you'll learn something about your Creator and His will for you.
God bless
have faith!
Do you attend church? Have you joined any groups in your area? Gardening, art, hiking, square dance, swing dance, book clubs? Maybe a second job to meet new people. You can't sit at the computer and find a life. You have to work for it but it can be enjoyed.