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My brother shared this with me, at a time when after, more than 2 decades in other countries, I came home and began trying to find out who my father was and what I was to him. We hadn't lived together since I was 13. I didn't really know my dad as an adult, because I was living in other countries, trying to make a difference for humanity.
At around age 43, I began a 10 year journey of trying to understand my dad. My dad had had a traumatic childhood, and so much of him was a closed book to me.
My brother shared this music with me at a time when I began realizing my dad wouldn't open up to me and that I had to do the opening up. (I had essentially skipped about 2 decades of 'western' music while living elsewhere).
FYI, I found my dad, and came to love him profoundly, before he passed on.
Sharing this for anons out there who are still trying to reconcile with who their mum or dad truly is, and to learn to love them despite all past history, including the pain of recent years.
In the living years
Mike and the Mechanics
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hr64MxYpgk
Thank you for sharing this. I lost my dad at a young age. 2.5 yrs old. I saw him get killed. It's totally affected my whole life. (46). Mom passed 10 yrs ago! Thank you! Now, I try and tell my son, ( as mental as I am, lol) how important it is, to spend time with his dad and I. Good post.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for bravely sharing this. There can be chasms between us and our dads even when we're almost next door. I've been moved in the last couple of years to add to prayers for the Lord to help families reconcile and reunite because sudden things are happening a lot now and we need to be together no matter what. (Fraternal hug) God bless you and your family.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
I lost my father when I was very young. Missing out on the connections, the moments, the discussions, the arguments, the guidance, the fellowship...is painful enough.
If it were a result of my own choices I don't know that I could bear it.
Hey Tread. I'd like to recommend a book that I have found to be really powerful in changing some of my internal world in the last 2 years.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26026054-it-didn-t-start-with-you
I'm not suggesting you have problems as described in the blurb (I don't know), but I found this book to be an amazing instrument of healing. It really opened up some things for me, in relation to my whole family and lineage.
Worth the investment.
Thanks Frac. Looks like a fascinating and potentially helpful read. I have my struggles. At least as many as the next guy...
From the blurb it sounds like epigenetic memory (or something similar) is a focus of the book. That's a concept I find very intriguing.
Yep, it's got to do with epigenetics. Really helped me to put together some of my own internal experiences but in the context of my family and lineage.
I'm fond of saying, there are two Great Awakenings, the internal one and the external one. While the world (including us) is waking up to the reality of things externally, anons and everyone else in the Great Awakening have to also realize that the internal awakening is pivotal and key.
Adore this song,it contains some powerful messages.
Thanks for posting.
I'm just completing my memoirs. The book begins "This is for my kids in case they ever wonder why the f... did dad...?"
Excellent move.
intergenerational knowledge is even more important than intergenerational wealth.