Will he be mad at me for being with my bf before we marry? We’ve been together for 5 years in a deep committed relationship. We intend to marry. I don’t believe in Gov marriages. What makes me married to my spouse in God’s eyes? He has promised, committed and even gave me a promise ring with vows to me. And has always stayed faithful to me. I feel guilty about it daily and repent about it daily but I keep seeing people say God says it’s okay as long as you intend to marry. Help!
Church marriage was invented by Church to keep some unholy registers at a time when Indulgences were also usual: Didn't Jesus bless the Cana wedding by offering them the best wine, instead of brandishing his whip at them like he did at the temple merchants?
When we were prepairing for our wedding in our parrish, the priest told us we already were married, and the Church’s role just consisted of blessing our Union. So yes, you are married because of your commitment, just make it blessed and official.
Your feelings of apprehension are well founded. I don't want to cause you more consternation as you sound really confused but I would brace yourself for a coming crisis of faith as all the world's organized religions are revealed to have been massively manipulated from antiquity.
Ashlanddog is a champion here and I have much respect for him but seriously, neither he nor anyone else can honestly answer deep questions on the nature of reality for you.
The bottom line is all this is a matter of faith unless you undertake some direct personal mystical experience. No-one knows what God said because the deep state has had so long with these manucripts.
God would not "speak" anything anyway, he would instantly transfer huge conceptual edifices directly into total understanding without something so pedestrian as english. It is all so anthropomorphic. These religions take the human experience and consciousness level and apply it to the God head. The fact that you are feeling guilty all the time is evidence that the deep state propaganda is working to confuse and obfuscate any decently enlightening knowledge of God or our own consciousness and how we fit into the universe.
Just have an open mind and realize that you have been lied to. It is all we can do at this point, but decent, unobfuscated, unmanipulated truth is nearly here.
I believe in some states after living together for so long, you become a “common law wife”. Some folks are forced into this, such as my brother, his girl would lose money from a previous marriage as well as income from the state, plus, I think they have some tax advantage that I don’t know about for sure. Check into the common law wife for your state.
Marriage was necessary to protect the offspring between a man and a woman, to declare the child's lineage as a legal heir, to acquire their father's name. It is a legal contract. Children born out of wedlock were not entitled to any claim or title. I have no idea how God "really" sees it. I trust that God guides us through life with his laws, so, in the first known laws, the Ten Commandments, adultery is a direct refusal of his laws. Have either of you been married before, or still married to another? If not, how could you be seen as committing adultery? If you are preventing conception, how do you feel about using birth control? Some Conservatives think that all birth control outside of the rhythm method is sinful, some do not. God blesses marriage but does not command it, is the general rule of thought. It is a ritual, a legal bond, and it protects the offspring, all good reasons to comply, but in God's eyes? As far as I understand, he condemns lust, fornication, and adultery. abortion and homosexuality. I do not get why two people cannot commit themselves to each other in the eyes of God outside of ritual, but I would pray on it.
God first instituted marriage in Eden, millennia before any government or church institution. If you have a church family, having them participate can be a wonderful thing, and getting legally married isn’t wrong either (the tax break can work in your favor). but biblically speaking neither the church and certainly not the government have to get involved, and neither of them define what marriage is.
Part of the reason for wedding ceremonies is for public accountability: everyone knows you’re making a lifelong commitment. Plus it’s a nice excuse for family and friends to get together and celebrate.
Marriage is a permanent commitment to an exclusive relationship with one other person of the opposite sex. Anything involving same sex or more than two partners is a violation of God’s design.
If you lived with your SO before you got married, but are together now, don’t sweat it. Yes, it isn’t a good or biblical thing to do (acting like you’re married before actually being married), but if you’ve committed to each other, stick with it no matter what.
As for God being mad at you, this is a common misconception. Is the Holy Spirit grieved by our sin? Yes, and that is what brings conviction. At the same time, that is a good thing; conviction of sin is confirmation that you are saved.
But this is not the same thing as God being mad at you. His love is unbreakable and unchanging; nothing can separate a believer from God’s love. Even if God chastens you for sin (or just lets the natural consequences of your decisions play out), that is not anger on His part. He’s not “getting even with you”. Chastening and consequences are so that you can learn and grow to be more like Christ.
If you are a believer, God does not punish you for sin. Christ already paid all of your punishment for all of your sins forever. You are God’s child, and there is nothing in heaven or earth that can change that.
Dear Friend, please read the entire context of the below posted verse from Corinthians. Paul the Apostle gives insight how this is. This is not a condemnation verse, it is a directional verse. The world at large is largely hell-bound because they throw aside God's wisdom.
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
1 Corinthians 7:9 KJV)
"Cannot contain" having physical desires that demand relief. Thus the instruction is to marry. It is God's method of placing stability and holiness in the relationship.
The epistle to the Hebrews is starkly clear:
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV)
Amplified Bible: Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4 AMP)
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
5 years is a long damn time. What's taking so long? When you know you know. If you don't know yet, that's an answer too even if it's not the one you wanted.
Finances. Covid hit us hard. Been trying to recover for 4 years and I haven’t even been able to move out of my parents house yet because of the mess Covid has made. That’s why we haven’t done it 😔 I want to do it right, with a really nice beautiful wedding so we are saving for it. All I can hope is My Father approves of our relationship and knows we are trying to do the right thing and marry as soon as possible.
What scares me is "we intend to marry". What is stopping you? Go to your church and publicly make vows to God.
Why do this to each other? You shouldn't have to repent daily. Don't " intend to get married" do or don't. Stop wasting your soul with unfulfilled hopes.
And no, it's not ok as long as you intend to marry. That's modern BS. Everyone who dates intends to marry, otherwise why would you date?
You don't need a big ceremony and reception. You don't even need a wedding dress. Just stop doing this the yourselves and go make real vows to God before your community.
God's love is unconditional. Salvation is by grace. When God forgives he 'forgets'. As a true believer his holy spirit will guide you to show your love for Him by your actions. Since salvation is eternal I do not believe one can lose their salvation. You may feel convicted of your sin, but know your are forgiven by His holy grace. He paid the price for that on the cross.
God is real.
His Son Jesus died for our sins and was resurrected on the third day for our justification.
The Holy Spirit is here to guide your soul to truth.
Faith + 0 = Salvation.
https://www.blueletterbible.org/Comm/mcgee_j_vernon/eBooks/faith-plus-zero-equals-salvation.cfm
Will he be mad at me for being with my bf before we marry? We’ve been together for 5 years in a deep committed relationship. We intend to marry. I don’t believe in Gov marriages. What makes me married to my spouse in God’s eyes? He has promised, committed and even gave me a promise ring with vows to me. And has always stayed faithful to me. I feel guilty about it daily and repent about it daily but I keep seeing people say God says it’s okay as long as you intend to marry. Help!
...the road to Hell is paved with good intentions...
I think your heart knows the answer to your question.
May God lead you and shelter you.
Church marriage was invented by Church to keep some unholy registers at a time when Indulgences were also usual: Didn't Jesus bless the Cana wedding by offering them the best wine, instead of brandishing his whip at them like he did at the temple merchants?
Not commenting whether it‘s a sin or not. Only raising a thought:
If you‘re allready commited to each other, and live like a married couple: what keeps you from actually marrying?
Don‘t answer me, the question is for you, as is the answer.
When we were prepairing for our wedding in our parrish, the priest told us we already were married, and the Church’s role just consisted of blessing our Union. So yes, you are married because of your commitment, just make it blessed and official.
Having sex was considered “married”.
Your feelings of apprehension are well founded. I don't want to cause you more consternation as you sound really confused but I would brace yourself for a coming crisis of faith as all the world's organized religions are revealed to have been massively manipulated from antiquity.
Ashlanddog is a champion here and I have much respect for him but seriously, neither he nor anyone else can honestly answer deep questions on the nature of reality for you.
The bottom line is all this is a matter of faith unless you undertake some direct personal mystical experience. No-one knows what God said because the deep state has had so long with these manucripts.
God would not "speak" anything anyway, he would instantly transfer huge conceptual edifices directly into total understanding without something so pedestrian as english. It is all so anthropomorphic. These religions take the human experience and consciousness level and apply it to the God head. The fact that you are feeling guilty all the time is evidence that the deep state propaganda is working to confuse and obfuscate any decently enlightening knowledge of God or our own consciousness and how we fit into the universe.
Just have an open mind and realize that you have been lied to. It is all we can do at this point, but decent, unobfuscated, unmanipulated truth is nearly here.
I believe in some states after living together for so long, you become a “common law wife”. Some folks are forced into this, such as my brother, his girl would lose money from a previous marriage as well as income from the state, plus, I think they have some tax advantage that I don’t know about for sure. Check into the common law wife for your state.
Marriage was necessary to protect the offspring between a man and a woman, to declare the child's lineage as a legal heir, to acquire their father's name. It is a legal contract. Children born out of wedlock were not entitled to any claim or title. I have no idea how God "really" sees it. I trust that God guides us through life with his laws, so, in the first known laws, the Ten Commandments, adultery is a direct refusal of his laws. Have either of you been married before, or still married to another? If not, how could you be seen as committing adultery? If you are preventing conception, how do you feel about using birth control? Some Conservatives think that all birth control outside of the rhythm method is sinful, some do not. God blesses marriage but does not command it, is the general rule of thought. It is a ritual, a legal bond, and it protects the offspring, all good reasons to comply, but in God's eyes? As far as I understand, he condemns lust, fornication, and adultery. abortion and homosexuality. I do not get why two people cannot commit themselves to each other in the eyes of God outside of ritual, but I would pray on it.
“It’s just a piece of paper”- that legally binds you to another. Do it the right way- get married.
God first instituted marriage in Eden, millennia before any government or church institution. If you have a church family, having them participate can be a wonderful thing, and getting legally married isn’t wrong either (the tax break can work in your favor). but biblically speaking neither the church and certainly not the government have to get involved, and neither of them define what marriage is.
Part of the reason for wedding ceremonies is for public accountability: everyone knows you’re making a lifelong commitment. Plus it’s a nice excuse for family and friends to get together and celebrate.
Marriage is a permanent commitment to an exclusive relationship with one other person of the opposite sex. Anything involving same sex or more than two partners is a violation of God’s design.
If you lived with your SO before you got married, but are together now, don’t sweat it. Yes, it isn’t a good or biblical thing to do (acting like you’re married before actually being married), but if you’ve committed to each other, stick with it no matter what.
As for God being mad at you, this is a common misconception. Is the Holy Spirit grieved by our sin? Yes, and that is what brings conviction. At the same time, that is a good thing; conviction of sin is confirmation that you are saved.
But this is not the same thing as God being mad at you. His love is unbreakable and unchanging; nothing can separate a believer from God’s love. Even if God chastens you for sin (or just lets the natural consequences of your decisions play out), that is not anger on His part. He’s not “getting even with you”. Chastening and consequences are so that you can learn and grow to be more like Christ.
If you are a believer, God does not punish you for sin. Christ already paid all of your punishment for all of your sins forever. You are God’s child, and there is nothing in heaven or earth that can change that.
Dear Friend, please read the entire context of the below posted verse from Corinthians. Paul the Apostle gives insight how this is. This is not a condemnation verse, it is a directional verse. The world at large is largely hell-bound because they throw aside God's wisdom.
"Cannot contain" having physical desires that demand relief. Thus the instruction is to marry. It is God's method of placing stability and holiness in the relationship.
The epistle to the Hebrews is starkly clear:
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
The Heavenly Father loves all his children and hopes you repent and reform and go to the light of Jesus Christ.
Simple solution is to get married.
5 years is a long damn time. What's taking so long? When you know you know. If you don't know yet, that's an answer too even if it's not the one you wanted.
Shit or get off the pot.
Finances. Covid hit us hard. Been trying to recover for 4 years and I haven’t even been able to move out of my parents house yet because of the mess Covid has made. That’s why we haven’t done it 😔 I want to do it right, with a really nice beautiful wedding so we are saving for it. All I can hope is My Father approves of our relationship and knows we are trying to do the right thing and marry as soon as possible.
What scares me is "we intend to marry". What is stopping you? Go to your church and publicly make vows to God.
Why do this to each other? You shouldn't have to repent daily. Don't " intend to get married" do or don't. Stop wasting your soul with unfulfilled hopes.
And no, it's not ok as long as you intend to marry. That's modern BS. Everyone who dates intends to marry, otherwise why would you date?
You don't need a big ceremony and reception. You don't even need a wedding dress. Just stop doing this the yourselves and go make real vows to God before your community.
Repentance exists. You can recognize your sins, cease them, and repent. He has an entire way to get back to Him.
God's love is unconditional. Salvation is by grace. When God forgives he 'forgets'. As a true believer his holy spirit will guide you to show your love for Him by your actions. Since salvation is eternal I do not believe one can lose their salvation. You may feel convicted of your sin, but know your are forgiven by His holy grace. He paid the price for that on the cross.