I was divorced, as was my husband. We could join but couldn't participate unless we both got an annulment at $3000+. Almost 50 years ago that was beyond our means. We could, of course divorce again and give up sex, which would have denied my children life. I loved the litergy and loved it at the Episcopal church I attended for 25 years. I have been quite sad over it all.
I dont want to sound harsh. I empathize with your struggle.
So you wanted to join the Church but you werent a believer. Marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic Church. We take the vows very seriously. Marriage isnt a social construct in the Church, it is a vow before God.
Vow - A solemn promise or assertion
Divorce doesnt exist. If you divorce and remarry, Catholics believe that in the eyes of God and Christ you are living in sin, you have broken your solemn promise before God and then tried to make another such promise. Without an annulment, you are not allowed to participate in the Eucharist, another sacrament. Annulment in the Church also isnt just a social construct but requires a declaration that the original marriage had no legal existence.
From wiki:
In the Catholic Church, a declaration of nullity, commonly called an annulment and less commonly a decree of nullity,[1] and in some cases, a Catholic divorce, is an ecclesiastical tribunal determination and judgment that a marriage was invalidly contracted or, less frequently, a judgment that ordination was invalidly conferred.
Maybe the problem isnt with the Church but with your understanding of the Churches beliefs and a Catholics obligations within it. We dont do divorce. A vow is sacred, not to be broken. It is a creeping social perversion and death cult tampering that has led this country to the idea that marriage is disposable. To God and Christ it is not.
That said the Church hierarchy is full of demon worshipping baby eaters who have allowed our clergy to be infiltrated by the same. Bergoglio is a fraud. The anti pope. A construct of the black nobility, just as many Popes before him have been. This has been a long war within the Church. The laity are the ones who suffer.
Archbishop Vigano is a true leader in Christ. There are still men and women of Christ in the Church. My Bishop and my Pastor are both such men.
All of the Christian denominations have thier problems. Those that you mentioned all allow tranny pastors and bishops. All of their charitable institutions, Catholics included, are involved in the human trafficking at our southern border. It is my sincere hope that all these faiths are able to be cleansed of the death cult just as our political, academic, business and media are. I pray for this everyday.
All of that said, I hope you find peace and that your faith continues to lead you towards Christ.
I know this. When I was young, I didn't realize it applied to times before we knew the church. It all hinged on whether we were baptized. Years later I found that the Catholic church didn't recognize mormon baptisms, so we might have swung one annulment. And I know a lot of divorced Catholics.
I had to get an annulment when young because when one partner decides "no kids," that's against the whole marriage purpose. Didn't cost anything, though, so I wonder what that diocese was doing to you. Meantime, do see if you can come in, even if only to support Archbishop Viganò!
Look for a church in your area that defied the lockdown’s, if you can find one it probably doesnt take crap from government or Satan. I would love to go to Artur Pawlowski‘s church in Canada, watching him expel demons from his church was an inspiration to me and millions.
Please do not be offended by my tone, I am just a very direct person. I care about you and that is why I am telling you the truth.
We could join but couldn't participate
Yeah you cant take the Eucharist but you aren't doing that now either, so whats the problem?
You can join and fulfill your obligation to attend mass on Sunday. The obligation is to attend mass and not have sex outside of marriage. You are not currently married to the man you live with according to Catholic law. You know this, dear.
You are going to go to hell for eternity for rejecting the truth. The truth is you are committing adultery and refusing to join the Church because its inconvenient for you. You do not have to shell out a dime to join and stop sinning and I also bet there are resources to help pay for an annulment.
Join the Church
Stop having sex with the man you are committing adultery with
Work on getting that annulment (doesn't mean it will be approved but I assume you know the process)
or don't get the annulment and live chaste the rest of your years like Mary and Joseph did
Then after all of that, you can consume the bread of life, the Eucharist
“if anyone eats this bread, he will live forever” (v.51a)
“unless you eat the flesh of the Son of man and drink his blood” (v.53)
“he who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me” (v.56)
“he who eats me will live because of me” (v.57)
“he who eats this bread [his flesh] will live forever” (v.58)
Please please please reconsider. We are talking about eternity here. Your heavenly Father loves you and wants to make a future for you. As daunting as it first sounds, I promise you IT IS WORTH IT. God will always make a way for you to do the right and just thing.
Please visit a FSSP and talk with a priest there. No way would it cost $3k.
It might be a few hundred bucks for FEES for processing and 1. I'd pay it for you 2. IT IS WORTH EVERY CENT to be in good standing with the Church and therefore the Father, Son and Holy Ghost.
Come to think of it, I think you and I have chatted before on here about this. Please keep in touch and I do really hope I haven't offended you with my direct tone. I just don't want to beat around the bush with such a heavy topic, the consequences are huge.
My in-laws are currently in the same situation you are in. It breaks my heart that they are letting an annulment stand in the way of heaven. We have told them so many times it is worth the price of abstaining from sex for a time. My husband and I had to do it to enter into the Church because we were not sacramentally married when trying to join. We lived chaste until we were married in the Church. I don't want sex outside of marriage to keep me out of heaven. It isn't worth it. Please know you are not alone in this problem and there is a way out. I promise it won't be $3k. Talk with an FSSP priest.
I was divorced, as was my husband. We could join but couldn't participate unless we both got an annulment at $3000+. Almost 50 years ago that was beyond our means. We could, of course divorce again and give up sex, which would have denied my children life. I loved the litergy and loved it at the Episcopal church I attended for 25 years. I have been quite sad over it all.
I dont want to sound harsh. I empathize with your struggle.
So you wanted to join the Church but you werent a believer. Marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic Church. We take the vows very seriously. Marriage isnt a social construct in the Church, it is a vow before God.
Vow - A solemn promise or assertion
Divorce doesnt exist. If you divorce and remarry, Catholics believe that in the eyes of God and Christ you are living in sin, you have broken your solemn promise before God and then tried to make another such promise. Without an annulment, you are not allowed to participate in the Eucharist, another sacrament. Annulment in the Church also isnt just a social construct but requires a declaration that the original marriage had no legal existence.
From wiki:
In the Catholic Church, a declaration of nullity, commonly called an annulment and less commonly a decree of nullity,[1] and in some cases, a Catholic divorce, is an ecclesiastical tribunal determination and judgment that a marriage was invalidly contracted or, less frequently, a judgment that ordination was invalidly conferred.
Maybe the problem isnt with the Church but with your understanding of the Churches beliefs and a Catholics obligations within it. We dont do divorce. A vow is sacred, not to be broken. It is a creeping social perversion and death cult tampering that has led this country to the idea that marriage is disposable. To God and Christ it is not.
That said the Church hierarchy is full of demon worshipping baby eaters who have allowed our clergy to be infiltrated by the same. Bergoglio is a fraud. The anti pope. A construct of the black nobility, just as many Popes before him have been. This has been a long war within the Church. The laity are the ones who suffer.
Archbishop Vigano is a true leader in Christ. There are still men and women of Christ in the Church. My Bishop and my Pastor are both such men.
All of the Christian denominations have thier problems. Those that you mentioned all allow tranny pastors and bishops. All of their charitable institutions, Catholics included, are involved in the human trafficking at our southern border. It is my sincere hope that all these faiths are able to be cleansed of the death cult just as our political, academic, business and media are. I pray for this everyday.
All of that said, I hope you find peace and that your faith continues to lead you towards Christ.
I know this. When I was young, I didn't realize it applied to times before we knew the church. It all hinged on whether we were baptized. Years later I found that the Catholic church didn't recognize mormon baptisms, so we might have swung one annulment. And I know a lot of divorced Catholics.
I had to get an annulment when young because when one partner decides "no kids," that's against the whole marriage purpose. Didn't cost anything, though, so I wonder what that diocese was doing to you. Meantime, do see if you can come in, even if only to support Archbishop Viganò!
Look for a church in your area that defied the lockdown’s, if you can find one it probably doesnt take crap from government or Satan. I would love to go to Artur Pawlowski‘s church in Canada, watching him expel demons from his church was an inspiration to me and millions.
The Catholic church is the one true faith. The Catholic church as a monopoly on truth.
What does your church teach about masturbation and contraception?
Please do not be offended by my tone, I am just a very direct person. I care about you and that is why I am telling you the truth.
Yeah you cant take the Eucharist but you aren't doing that now either, so whats the problem?
You can join and fulfill your obligation to attend mass on Sunday. The obligation is to attend mass and not have sex outside of marriage. You are not currently married to the man you live with according to Catholic law. You know this, dear.
You are going to go to hell for eternity for rejecting the truth. The truth is you are committing adultery and refusing to join the Church because its inconvenient for you. You do not have to shell out a dime to join and stop sinning and I also bet there are resources to help pay for an annulment.
Join the Church
Stop having sex with the man you are committing adultery with
Work on getting that annulment (doesn't mean it will be approved but I assume you know the process)
or don't get the annulment and live chaste the rest of your years like Mary and Joseph did
Then after all of that, you can consume the bread of life, the Eucharist
Please please please reconsider. We are talking about eternity here. Your heavenly Father loves you and wants to make a future for you. As daunting as it first sounds, I promise you IT IS WORTH IT. God will always make a way for you to do the right and just thing.
Also 3000 seems excessive.
https://camdendiocese.org/tribunal/how-much-does-an-annulment-cost/#:~:text=One%20does%20not%20pay%20for%20an%20annulment.&text=These%20non%2Drefundable%20fees%20are,and%20for%20the%20Petitioner's%20benefit.
Please visit a FSSP and talk with a priest there. No way would it cost $3k.
It might be a few hundred bucks for FEES for processing and 1. I'd pay it for you 2. IT IS WORTH EVERY CENT to be in good standing with the Church and therefore the Father, Son and Holy Ghost.
Come to think of it, I think you and I have chatted before on here about this. Please keep in touch and I do really hope I haven't offended you with my direct tone. I just don't want to beat around the bush with such a heavy topic, the consequences are huge.
My in-laws are currently in the same situation you are in. It breaks my heart that they are letting an annulment stand in the way of heaven. We have told them so many times it is worth the price of abstaining from sex for a time. My husband and I had to do it to enter into the Church because we were not sacramentally married when trying to join. We lived chaste until we were married in the Church. I don't want sex outside of marriage to keep me out of heaven. It isn't worth it. Please know you are not alone in this problem and there is a way out. I promise it won't be $3k. Talk with an FSSP priest.