Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
Based on its evolving needs and plenty of user feedback, we are trying to bring some order and institute some rules. Please make sure you read these rules and participate in the spirit of this community.
Rules for General Chat
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Be respectful to each other. This is of utmost importance, and comments may be removed if deemed not respectful.
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Avoid long drawn out arguments. This should be a place to relax, not to waste your time needlessly.
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Personal anecdotes, puzzles, cute pics/clips - everything welcome
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Please do not spam at the top level. If you have a lot to post each day, try and post them all together in one top level comment
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Try keep things light. If you are bringing in deep stuff, try not to go overboard.
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Things that are clearly on-topic for this board should be posted as a separate post and not here (except if you are new and still getting the feel of this place)
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If you find people violating these rules, deport them rather than start a argument here.
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Feel free to give feedback as these rules are expected to keep evoloving
In short, imagine this thread to be a local community hall where we all gather and chat daily. Please be respectful to others in the same way
It depends on the reason she dislikes you being around him. Does she just not like him for things he's done, does she see him as a bad influence on you? Does he bring out a side of you that she doesn't like? If so, why? Many questions need to be answered first..
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Is there a reason she feel that way? I ask because I have major issues with my wife's family but even she agrees it is best I not have to deal with them because the distance from them is good even for her
Or is it just hate for sake of hate?
Remind her it's for you, just one day, and she can always offer any discomfort or inconvenience up to God. We Catholics offer suffering up for penance and for intentions on behalf of others that need it. Protestants, I don't know what they call it, a love gift?
Pray for patience, wisdom, and discernment
Tell your wife you love her
Tell your brother you love him
Remember the holidays are meant to be a joyous time and a celebration of all the wonderful things we have in our life
Rinse and repeat
Bitterness and unforgiveness hurts you, not them. From the Bible: forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.
So very true, and very difficult.
I like LiteCola's advice - my expansion on it would be... have a quiet talk with her, alone, tell her that this is your family, you want to see them, and it's just one day, could she please just enjoy herself with the other '15' family members whom she does get along with and just bite her tongue about him for 6 hours or so on that day.
If she has an outside job, I'm sure she forces herself to get along with that 'one guy' at work she cannot stomach in order to keep peace and keep her job. She knows how to act when she needs to - if she keeps tormenting your life over this one event, you're letting her control you and she sees it's working. Life is short. Go and enjoy all of your family. If she cannot disengage from this argument, let her stay home but in no way do you stay away. This is a control play.