The vaxxed part would be my biggest concern.
Thirty one years ago, I started dating a liberal girl, from a liberal family ( I was far from being liberal.)
We have been married for 29 years. In some regards,she now is more conservative than I am.
You would be correct, before this plandemic began. I had someone who I loved and for the most part she acknowledged it, who she was prior to now.
One of the reasons I fell in love with her, for a while we stopped contacting each other due to complications.
When 2020 arrived and I got in contact with her again, I am not sure when she took the vaccine. But she seemed off, like as if wasn't the woman I first met.
I didn't seem to understand this much, until a year or so later she started doing these things I never thought she would do herself.
Doing drugs was one part, but her telling me lies about sleeping around with other men was really made wonder things.
For some time I believed this nonsense, when I found out she took the shot multiple times. She was quite boastful to get those shots because it made her feel more "feminine."
Basically as time passed I decided to see if she was really devoted to me, the way how I did it was regrettable but she confessed to me about the lies I was told and from there I cut my connections with her in general.
I had second doubts regarding it, but I cannot feasibly see how we can even remain friends. It's like she's not the same person from when I first met her, I am sure the vaccines did play a huge role in it.
But even if we did date, politics wouldn't be an issue. She seemed to tolerate me speaking about Trump around my friends and her own.
Boris Johnson was her favorite prime minister because he was "funny." so I guess we weren't meant to be.
The Bible even speaks about being equally yoked together, I gone through many things with her that brought me turmoil.
Until God revealed me things I didn't know or entirely understand myself, that's when His Peace revealed to me that I was never supposed to be with her despite what might be said otherwise.
How I am now compared to back then, at one point I wished that I would already have known these things before.
But I wouldn't have learned anything from those experiences, I am glad they happened however due to what I learned overall and etc.
Exactly. Believe me, even if you lay out what she would be getting into if you got together (in my case, it was no kids), she'll use that as an excuse to dump you later. Lay it all out right up front, and let her fall on the sword right away, so it saves you headache later.
Run away as fast as you can before she owns your heart completely and it's too late. Remember, it's a package deal and you get the in-laws, and all of their liberal ways too. ;)
There are tons of great girls out there my friend. If I was a young dude, I'd visit the shooting range a lot. You need the range time anyway and the girls you meet there are awesome. Not to mention, a lot of them wear cowboy boots with shorts and that's just freaking hot. ;)
You’re not being honest with yourself. If you can’t talk about politics “because she wouldn’t be interested” but “it’s a big part of your life” you’re not facing reality. You’ve had a long distance relationship where you hid who you really were to garner her interest. You’re looking for a bad outcome if you don’t come clean.
Try focusing on the Lord, going to church, and reading your Bible. He Will bring the right woman your way. Do not under any circumstances, settle for less, or compromise who you are as a person to be with anybody. Ever. Getting in a long-term relationship with this person, is gonna be the worst thing that you could ever do for yourself. If you want a family, and she’s a VAXxed, she may not even be able to carry children. Just remember what God’s word says… Light and darkness cannot dwell together. Take my advice and move on as quickly as possible. Then you can get on with having a real life with a real woman in the real world. Sorry to be harsh, but I married the wrong person - and I can’t express to you how important it is to not do that. Also, if this person is long distance, is it a real relationship? Really? She could just be Catfishing you.
Which safer instance, you guys got married, and had children. How are you gonna raise them? What type of schools are you gonna send them to? Are you going to teach them about god? Is she gonna be a problem in that area? If she’s that liberal, is she gonna be OK with teaching your kid about LGBT? Until you have answers to even one of those questions, I would not get into a relationship with any woman.
Are you seriously need to be questioning what you’re gonna be doing moving forward. This could be the best, but more likely the worst decision you could ever make for the rest of your life. Do not settle for less.
Do not believe she is the best you'll get. You, my brother, can better yourself and you'll get better. That being said establish boundaries with her. She'll tell you she wants a man with traditional values and all that, but is she willing to be a traditional woman in the relationship? When you establish your boundaries for the relationship see how she reacts. From there you'll know if she'll respect your boundaries or not. From there the decision moving forward should be clear.
Dont do it bro. You really really need to be like minded. TRUST ME. Ive been down that road, and you DO NOT want to start a FAMILY with someone that doesnt come from the same values as you. Move on. There are other sweet, cute college girls. Dont settle on ANYTHING. Avoid a life of regret.
If you want children, her vax status is important. How many times? Do both of you understand what a 73% miscarriage rate among vaxxed women means? How do you both feel about vaxxing future children? Homeschooling? Will she comply with future lockdowns, mask mandates, etc.?
What does she mean by "wife material" which is not the same as "trad wife".
Have you ever met this person face to face? Has she ever asked you to help her pay a bill or an emergency expense?
Realize you are not joining with a woman, you are joining with a family. If you put her in the middle of a tug of war, the result will not be good no matter which direction it goes. I suggest that you first pray for discernment and discuss with your clergy if you are part of a faith community. Settle your soul. Then talk to her. Make decisions together about the potential path forward.
You're not looking for just a wife. You are looking for a mother for your children. Modern leftism might be tolerable in a partner, but it the mother of your children? What if she wants to cut your son's dick off?
That said, she may be less of a liberal and more of a follower. Many in Trump's ranks once called themselves Democrats. She may have simply not had her views tested and not actually believe all the weird stuff. This would come out through conversation.
Not being Christian is a big deal. You need Christ to help through the struggles of parenthood.
My biggest concern is your lack of self confidence. No, she is not the only woman who will ever look at you. There are plenty out there. The problem is that you don't know your own value.
Long distance relationships suck. When talking on the phone you are less having a relationship with a person and more having a relationship with a phone. If your going to date, it needs to be in person. It's totally different.
I would pay attention to the “mixed feelings” - they may be trying to tell you something. Plus, it sounds like you’re settling for less than your optimal match - that never ends well. Be patient, don’t make any decisions yet - you’ll be glad you waited.
If I were you, I'd jump on Bitchute and check out channels like SigmaPodcast, The Rare Breed Theory, Just Pearly Things, and fail for you. Watch a few hundred (not really; just watch a few) of their videos and look for any signs that they point out, that your girl may have, before you fully commit. I wish they had been around before I wasted ten years being married to a complete nutcase. I would have seen what was coming, and I would have saved myself from the headache and financial strain. Pay special attention to the stuff about women and finding the grass greener elsewhere, and how they'll leave you for simply stupid shit, like "my own happiness" and "he's too nice". My ex is now discovering that the former just isn't true, and she's in therapy trying to find "her happiness", even though she's re-married now to "the man of my dreams".
Even now, with the one I have (not married), I'm considering hitting the road. Many modern women are a disaster in disguise, especially if they're liberal. Be careful, fren.
Handle this the easy way. Tell her everything about what you believe, dont hold anything back. If she is still with you, then maybe it was meant to be.
If she wasn't vaxxed, you would be in a really good situation. Since she took the clot shot, unfortunately should you have sexual relations with her. Whatever poison is within her body would transfer over to you, and I believe you're aware of what that clot shot does to pregnant woman?
The vaxxed part would be my biggest concern. Thirty one years ago, I started dating a liberal girl, from a liberal family ( I was far from being liberal.) We have been married for 29 years. In some regards,she now is more conservative than I am.
You would be correct, before this plandemic began. I had someone who I loved and for the most part she acknowledged it, who she was prior to now.
One of the reasons I fell in love with her, for a while we stopped contacting each other due to complications.
When 2020 arrived and I got in contact with her again, I am not sure when she took the vaccine. But she seemed off, like as if wasn't the woman I first met.
I didn't seem to understand this much, until a year or so later she started doing these things I never thought she would do herself.
Doing drugs was one part, but her telling me lies about sleeping around with other men was really made wonder things.
For some time I believed this nonsense, when I found out she took the shot multiple times. She was quite boastful to get those shots because it made her feel more "feminine."
Basically as time passed I decided to see if she was really devoted to me, the way how I did it was regrettable but she confessed to me about the lies I was told and from there I cut my connections with her in general.
I had second doubts regarding it, but I cannot feasibly see how we can even remain friends. It's like she's not the same person from when I first met her, I am sure the vaccines did play a huge role in it.
But even if we did date, politics wouldn't be an issue. She seemed to tolerate me speaking about Trump around my friends and her own.
Boris Johnson was her favorite prime minister because he was "funny." so I guess we weren't meant to be.
The Bible even speaks about being equally yoked together, I gone through many things with her that brought me turmoil.
Until God revealed me things I didn't know or entirely understand myself, that's when His Peace revealed to me that I was never supposed to be with her despite what might be said otherwise.
How I am now compared to back then, at one point I wished that I would already have known these things before.
But I wouldn't have learned anything from those experiences, I am glad they happened however due to what I learned overall and etc.
This is cringe AF. You can't have a relationship without being brutally honest. She needs to know where you stand. Don't be a pussy.
Exactly. Believe me, even if you lay out what she would be getting into if you got together (in my case, it was no kids), she'll use that as an excuse to dump you later. Lay it all out right up front, and let her fall on the sword right away, so it saves you headache later.
Swiftie…😂 Ukrainian flag… (remember, the “I do”, includes the in-laws)…KEK
Run away as fast as you can before she owns your heart completely and it's too late. Remember, it's a package deal and you get the in-laws, and all of their liberal ways too. ;) There are tons of great girls out there my friend. If I was a young dude, I'd visit the shooting range a lot. You need the range time anyway and the girls you meet there are awesome. Not to mention, a lot of them wear cowboy boots with shorts and that's just freaking hot. ;)
Don't rush into anything. Date for awhile and see if you have a good influence on her. I know it happens.
She's going to be when she gets her draft card
You’re not being honest with yourself. If you can’t talk about politics “because she wouldn’t be interested” but “it’s a big part of your life” you’re not facing reality. You’ve had a long distance relationship where you hid who you really were to garner her interest. You’re looking for a bad outcome if you don’t come clean.
Planning on wife and kids, how do you plan to raise them? Liberal or conservative?
☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️This.
Try focusing on the Lord, going to church, and reading your Bible. He Will bring the right woman your way. Do not under any circumstances, settle for less, or compromise who you are as a person to be with anybody. Ever. Getting in a long-term relationship with this person, is gonna be the worst thing that you could ever do for yourself. If you want a family, and she’s a VAXxed, she may not even be able to carry children. Just remember what God’s word says… Light and darkness cannot dwell together. Take my advice and move on as quickly as possible. Then you can get on with having a real life with a real woman in the real world. Sorry to be harsh, but I married the wrong person - and I can’t express to you how important it is to not do that. Also, if this person is long distance, is it a real relationship? Really? She could just be Catfishing you.
Which safer instance, you guys got married, and had children. How are you gonna raise them? What type of schools are you gonna send them to? Are you going to teach them about god? Is she gonna be a problem in that area? If she’s that liberal, is she gonna be OK with teaching your kid about LGBT? Until you have answers to even one of those questions, I would not get into a relationship with any woman.
Are you seriously need to be questioning what you’re gonna be doing moving forward. This could be the best, but more likely the worst decision you could ever make for the rest of your life. Do not settle for less.
walk away
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Do not believe she is the best you'll get. You, my brother, can better yourself and you'll get better. That being said establish boundaries with her. She'll tell you she wants a man with traditional values and all that, but is she willing to be a traditional woman in the relationship? When you establish your boundaries for the relationship see how she reacts. From there you'll know if she'll respect your boundaries or not. From there the decision moving forward should be clear.
Dont do it bro. You really really need to be like minded. TRUST ME. Ive been down that road, and you DO NOT want to start a FAMILY with someone that doesnt come from the same values as you. Move on. There are other sweet, cute college girls. Dont settle on ANYTHING. Avoid a life of regret.
If you want children, her vax status is important. How many times? Do both of you understand what a 73% miscarriage rate among vaxxed women means? How do you both feel about vaxxing future children? Homeschooling? Will she comply with future lockdowns, mask mandates, etc.?
What does she mean by "wife material" which is not the same as "trad wife".
Have you ever met this person face to face? Has she ever asked you to help her pay a bill or an emergency expense?
Realize you are not joining with a woman, you are joining with a family. If you put her in the middle of a tug of war, the result will not be good no matter which direction it goes. I suggest that you first pray for discernment and discuss with your clergy if you are part of a faith community. Settle your soul. Then talk to her. Make decisions together about the potential path forward.
You're not looking for just a wife. You are looking for a mother for your children. Modern leftism might be tolerable in a partner, but it the mother of your children? What if she wants to cut your son's dick off?
That said, she may be less of a liberal and more of a follower. Many in Trump's ranks once called themselves Democrats. She may have simply not had her views tested and not actually believe all the weird stuff. This would come out through conversation.
Not being Christian is a big deal. You need Christ to help through the struggles of parenthood.
My biggest concern is your lack of self confidence. No, she is not the only woman who will ever look at you. There are plenty out there. The problem is that you don't know your own value.
Long distance relationships suck. When talking on the phone you are less having a relationship with a person and more having a relationship with a phone. If your going to date, it needs to be in person. It's totally different.
I would pay attention to the “mixed feelings” - they may be trying to tell you something. Plus, it sounds like you’re settling for less than your optimal match - that never ends well. Be patient, don’t make any decisions yet - you’ll be glad you waited.
Let me tell you something from a women's point of view.
They will tell you anything to get what they want and once they have it you'll see the true woman.
If I were you, I'd jump on Bitchute and check out channels like SigmaPodcast, The Rare Breed Theory, Just Pearly Things, and fail for you. Watch a few hundred (not really; just watch a few) of their videos and look for any signs that they point out, that your girl may have, before you fully commit. I wish they had been around before I wasted ten years being married to a complete nutcase. I would have seen what was coming, and I would have saved myself from the headache and financial strain. Pay special attention to the stuff about women and finding the grass greener elsewhere, and how they'll leave you for simply stupid shit, like "my own happiness" and "he's too nice". My ex is now discovering that the former just isn't true, and she's in therapy trying to find "her happiness", even though she's re-married now to "the man of my dreams".
Even now, with the one I have (not married), I'm considering hitting the road. Many modern women are a disaster in disguise, especially if they're liberal. Be careful, fren.
RUN RUN RUN
Handle this the easy way. Tell her everything about what you believe, dont hold anything back. If she is still with you, then maybe it was meant to be.
If she wasn't vaxxed, you would be in a really good situation. Since she took the clot shot, unfortunately should you have sexual relations with her. Whatever poison is within her body would transfer over to you, and I believe you're aware of what that clot shot does to pregnant woman?
Ask her about her body count. Above three - Run!
So she says.
Keep her!!!!
If he lives far enough from the in-laws. He can change her. If not, you are correct- RUN!
anything is possible with God
My husband just said if you have to ask that's your answer right there.
Does she have a penis ?
I wonder if being a “Kelcie” is a thing? 🤔