Fwiw I doubt this is permanent. My husband and I went thru something like this. A few really rough years. I went from feeling everything, to feeling nothing, to bouncing back and forth. Spent alot of time thinking he didn't understand me at all. Wanted to leave many times, found interest in others, same things you're describing even with the kids. I hate to be the one, but my personal issues were rooted in a few things: ignoring my faith, taking prescribed head meds, and prior abuse issues unresolved. I think there's hope for you but its gonna be work. If she can get off the head meds, that would be a bonus. Natural solutions. They all take time. It takes a couple yrs to get the head meds out of the system. Prior emotional issues: LOTS OF TALKING. Interest in other ppl: GET IN HER FACE. Show her who you are, what you are. Don't back down. Don't be nasty. But DON'T back down. More than likely, some guy hit on her. She's vulnerable, and it turned her head.
I'm praying for you, sweetheart. This isn't over yet. Stay in her face.
You're right hun...drinking doesn't solve anything, and fwiw there's a reason they call it the devil's juice and "spirits". If you two are always with the kid, then you need to find a sitter. Once a week, once every two weeks, something. "Us time" is so crucial. Real time. Having fun, getting dinner, some activity, but in that time there should be real conversation about "us". Your willingness to change is great. I hope she has that as well. But be mindful not to change everything about yourselves. There was something that kept you together all this time. Something bigger than a kid. Openly talk about your faith. Your goals. What you want the next ten, twenty, fifty years to look like with her, and even just for yourself. When you're on your death bed, what do you want to look back on? I want my memories to have him in them. That's me. And if that's you about her, tell her.
De nada. I don't know how it would be unrelated...just my opinion. The dark forces are involved in all these subjects, marriage and family are the most important on this earth. Personal awakenings, global awakenings. They all matter a whole lot.
You drink every night? Sorry man..but if I was your wife..I'd fake marriage you as well. You gotta wake up and do life better than that. Sorry for the harsh judgment. but you're a grown up and you posted this. handle it.
Fwiw I doubt this is permanent. My husband and I went thru something like this. A few really rough years. I went from feeling everything, to feeling nothing, to bouncing back and forth. Spent alot of time thinking he didn't understand me at all. Wanted to leave many times, found interest in others, same things you're describing even with the kids. I hate to be the one, but my personal issues were rooted in a few things: ignoring my faith, taking prescribed head meds, and prior abuse issues unresolved. I think there's hope for you but its gonna be work. If she can get off the head meds, that would be a bonus. Natural solutions. They all take time. It takes a couple yrs to get the head meds out of the system. Prior emotional issues: LOTS OF TALKING. Interest in other ppl: GET IN HER FACE. Show her who you are, what you are. Don't back down. Don't be nasty. But DON'T back down. More than likely, some guy hit on her. She's vulnerable, and it turned her head. I'm praying for you, sweetheart. This isn't over yet. Stay in her face.
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You're right hun...drinking doesn't solve anything, and fwiw there's a reason they call it the devil's juice and "spirits". If you two are always with the kid, then you need to find a sitter. Once a week, once every two weeks, something. "Us time" is so crucial. Real time. Having fun, getting dinner, some activity, but in that time there should be real conversation about "us". Your willingness to change is great. I hope she has that as well. But be mindful not to change everything about yourselves. There was something that kept you together all this time. Something bigger than a kid. Openly talk about your faith. Your goals. What you want the next ten, twenty, fifty years to look like with her, and even just for yourself. When you're on your death bed, what do you want to look back on? I want my memories to have him in them. That's me. And if that's you about her, tell her.
De nada. I don't know how it would be unrelated...just my opinion. The dark forces are involved in all these subjects, marriage and family are the most important on this earth. Personal awakenings, global awakenings. They all matter a whole lot.
You drink every night? Sorry man..but if I was your wife..I'd fake marriage you as well. You gotta wake up and do life better than that. Sorry for the harsh judgment. but you're a grown up and you posted this. handle it.