My best friend of 30 years lost his wife in mid 2019, so my wife and I took him in and I got him a job where I work as the Director. Once Covid started, he was laid off and has lived here unemployed since March, 2020. To make matters worse he is a bleeding heart liberal and I feel like I cannot even be myself in my own home. He has nobody......Please pray for me, my cup is full and I dont know how much longer God needs me to endure this.
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Maybe help him find a place to volunteer his time?
A food pantry, organizing help for homeless people, driving elderly to medical appointments, etc... .
1). It gives him something positive to do while giving him chances to meet other people.
2). It gets him out of the house more often.I
3). It will help wear him out. Working people have less energy to be a pest.
Exactly. This guy needs direction and purpose. A body in motion stays in motion.
He’s saying to send the leftist somewhere to do something productive.
May God please give you strength to endure this. Similar situations are happening all over. ❤
Acts 20:35 "In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”
Thank you... I needed that. God Bless
Helping someone doesn't mean losing yourself.
sounds like you need to grow a pair...liberals are Godless and unAmerican. why are you allowing this? i bet most on this board lost their liberal "friends" long ago
Friend or not, 30 years of 50 years, in my home it's my rules, don't like it then GTFO, just saying. Our home is our home and any guest has to respect that, friend, parent, sibling, doesn't matter, if it's your home it's your rules, your way.
I lost mine a long long time ago,
I admire the lending a buddy a hand but he has to help himself...
Screw that chump. Tell him he needs to MAGA or GTFO.
Your not helping him at this point by coddling him, you need to sit him down and read a nice long list of all the things he can do remotely from a computer or locally in town and tell him to pick a couple to try out and if he can't do that at least have him work off his share with cleaning/chores around the house/property and fixing things up etc.
At this point you are just enabling him but you already knew that.
Also be yourself and if he has a problem with it the problem may solve itself. Be obnoxiously MAGA and remind him were the door is everytime he complains.
your house your rules.
I will pray for you, friend. You are a very compassionate individual and I am sorry your mate lost his wife.
I reccomend breaking the stagnant air and being blatant; suggest he find a job and pay some of the rent. Tell him its a step you are taking to assist in his recovery, even if its only 200$ a month. It may be enough to encourage him to find his own place or maybe he will just go work. At least you will have a little more private time while he works!
It'd be better to give him a move out date far enough in the future to give him time to save the necessary funds. If you want him to move out more than you want him to pay rent, let him put that money into savings.
Step one Be yourself
Step two Friend buys you bulk aluminum foil and moves out on government cheese. Dicks out whenever in the kitchen sans roommate.
Step three See friend on Vice talking about how you are in that evil homewrecker QAnon terror cult.
Step four Post interview and lest us know you made it big time.
Trust Yourself Again
Thank you! Your words projected wisdom, as have many others.
It sounds to me like your bleeding heart friend is taking advantage of you,that being said be yourself especially in your own home. My advice is go to a lawyer and have them send an eviction notice to him, he'll never move on in life or grow as a person if you allow him to continue doing nothing on your dime. This situation will eventually stress your marriage if it hasn't already. I'll pray for you.
Tell him it’s time to stand in his own feet. Give him 30 days to get a job and move out.
Put maga signs everywhere and play on the television pedogate stuff on Bitchute
Matthew 18:15-17 - Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
You need to be open and honest with him. Its hard to do, when you're afraid of hurting his feelings and possibly losing a friendship. But I don't think a true friend would put you in this type of situation. If he is a friend, he will thank you and do what is right.
Had a friend like that. Long story... We are not friends anymore. I am happier.
You are a good person and will be rewarded richly for this. Give it to Easter - Spring, a great awakening.
What else do we have if we can’t keep each other up when we are down? I have been there and urge you all to keep going!
Thank you to everyone that replied. Good, bad or ugly I asked for advice and you have all reached out. That's what a true community is about. All of your input has resonated with me & I appreciate you. MAGA!!!
if you can watch TV together you should slowly redpill him
I'd start with "Planet of the Humans" and ask him thoughts after movie about the conclusion that depopulation is the only way and about how much of a farce green energy is. it's a Michael Moore movie so your cuck friend should approve
then maybe watch Maafa 21 about how terribly "the undesirables" (e.g., poor black, brown and even white folk i believe) were treated and the lengths the elites went to and still go to in their effort to oppress and ultimately perform genocide. the post movie discussions should be obvious
then maybe watch Out of the Shadows telling your friend that you've been hearing about this documentary about crazy stuff that "supposedly" goes in in Hollywood and just wanted to check it out
... maybe slip in watching V for Vendetta and The Joker
We took in an older couple in 2016 when our neighborhood flooded. We had a small garage apartment. Their beautiful home was a total loss. It never occurred to us that they would enjoy living in our garage. They were with us for three months. It was crazy difficult to find a first floor apartment, with close parking, that would accept their dogs. Most places were full. But I found it! We were there for them till they got their feet on the ground. But you forget how nice it is to fix whatever YOU want for dinner, and to walk around your home in your underware. I can't imagine a YEAR.
Play Fall of the Cabal on every TV in your house 24/7 until he's red-pilled
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I was about to suggest exactly this. Ask him to watch Fall of the Cabal as a favor because you are helping him. Maybe you can either get him to leave because you are so "brainwashed" that he can't live with you or you will redpill him into an ally who might support you in turn.
Wake him up! Sheesh! If he finds your information and truth uncomfortable, he will get a job and leave. I spent lockdown waking relatives stuck at my jouse for 3 months!
This is a hard thing to do. Just drop hints? I am not in the same situation. Bless your soul. I have been praying about this. I am in a group that is un related to anything except the purpose of the group. Yet they are mostly all liberals, and hard core ones. They were part of the riots around the west coast. They know who I am, and what I believe. It's just our group is about supporting each other and motor cycles, nothing else. They could kick me out, yet I have never not given them my support, honesty and out of the way help, that some of them lack to share with myself. Some don't care about politics, so my stance doesn't matter. I do see the tides changing. God speed Fren.
If you decide that enough is enough and ask him to find alternate arrangement for living, please know that it will not make you a bad person. You are NOT responsible for his life and his well being no matter how much a good friend you are.
Pray for Spirits guidance then Listen to God's murmurings (instructions) in your heart when they occur, BE a loving presence and be brave; Trust and follow Spirits guidance through Faith; Be detached from his response as Cognitive Dissonance is likely to occur. Truth with Love can open a frozen heart.
Yes, he was a driver for a lab. Thanks for asking, I have always known him to be responsible. This time has been challenging.
Maybe he should learn to write code or install solar panels.
He needs to find a job and you need your space.