Yeah it straightened me up too, but only a certain percentage of the population responds this way to spankings, and usually with traumatic side effect that people will deny because their parents loved them and don't want to accept that their punishment methods actually were damaging psychologically...
The issue with my generation isn't a lack of spankings, it's a lack of fathers and strong males growing up. Men don't have to hit children to teach them because children aren't animals they are small humans, so we should use the same methods we use with other humans.
"Damaging psychologically"? Yes yes, that's right. Sometimes when walking the hallway at work I'll pass co-workers up that will randomly flinch while cowering and looking up at me like Smeagol from Lord of the Rings. Then as I apprach a bit closer I can hear them say......"no,..no... papa! I didn't take any candy from the forbidden sugar jar! Please..no more spankings papa! Your going to give me psychological damage up until my 40's!"
They usually come to after I gently tap on their shoulder and tell them everything is gonna be ok. I tell them that life is gonna be fine and full of fucking gum drops and hello kitty shit. I tell them how they'll never encounter pain and trauma but if they ever should feel any fear that they should drop a little gum drop in their yapper and they will come back to "Unicornia" where a fucking unicorn will promptly wisk them away into the rainbow but not before giving them a tour of the hello kitty factory where all workers are 18 or older and suicide nets bounce you up like a trampolin into a ball pit made of warm Smores.
Fuk-outa-here Silo! We're talking about spankings not beatings. You need to Amazon yourself some testosterone, a Penthouse and a pack of reds and man the fuck up lol.
Fuk. I can hear Silo now.."Penthouse objectifies woman and you should really start looking and appreciating them for their barf..(whimpers)...blah..(crying)..blah..(lispy words)..blahh..blah.."
Thank you!. Getting my ass whooped saved me A LOT of trouble. Taught me manners and respect. Granted, my dad's old and frail now, so we are polite towards one another, and everyone else. Kek.
I very well could, But I do not see trying to justify that sort of behavior before the Almighty Living God, Father, and Creator. And I ain't looking for a whipping from Jesus our Lord neither.
I was an ornery little shit, too. 😉
My children on the other hand, Lord help me. What have I gotten myself into. 🙄
Fuck off, kids don't need to be slapped into submission to turn out right.
If your parents needed to slap you because you didn't know right from wrong, maybe you should learn where you picked up the behavior that got you spanked.
Right because kids know right from wrong before they know right from wrong.
What in your estimation gives gravity to wrong? We know what gives "right" its meaning but what gives "wrong" it's meaning? Words, a talking to? Na. Words and a talking to are simply the warning sign. If one doesn't heed the warning sign than one does not get another warning sign. What happens in the real world is that one carelessly runs into oncoming traffic. If one were to be lucky enough to survive that screw up than consequences of that screw up have to follow. You don't get to walk life without some sort of consequence to bad actions even if one escapes death.
Part of parenting and yes part of being a good parent (IMO) is loving and part of loving is dealing out punishment even when it also hurts oneself to do so. One doesn't get to "parent" the easy way. Parents don't get to play with kids, take them on vacation, ball games and teach them to learn but then delegate the punishment to "life" or for the world to teach ones kids the lessons that should have been taught by the parent. Parents don't get to simply reap the rewards of the good times without also dealing with the agony of punishing our kids when it needs to be done.
With every spanking a parent gives it not only teaches the lesson but also indirectly teaches the kid that life is sometimes not fun but the job has to be done regardless of one's wants. Spanking is a purely selfless act. It ONLY benefits the child. The parent gets no future rewards for such an action. In fact the parent has to live with that decision in agony for ever. The parent caused pain to someone they love more than their own life. Do you realize, I mean really understand the gravity of such action? Parents take on the burden with no return other than the fact our agony will help the very thing we love more than life itself.
You are not only wrong but lack depth of thought and consequence. Your thoughts and words even deceive you.
If you teach your kid right from wrong then they will know right from wrong
You all can continue your "But kids won't know right from wrong unless you give them pain!!!" but that is factually, and psychologically untrue.
You are all saying that it is simply the correct way, and it is not.
And you harken that parents do it from a place of love, but no parent where it comes from love, talks about it with glee, and like it is something that must be done.
It is not a selfless act. Parents slap their kids as the easy way to teach them right from wrong, instead of putting the effort in the hard way, being a good example for your child in all situations, never letting your bad side show, never letting your temper flare.
The future reward, is the parents get to go around and say "My kid is good because we got whoopings when we were younger, and they got whoppings too." The reward for the parent, is teaching their child the same way their parents taught them, and feeling moral over it, like you.
I would love you to show me, all these commenters in "agony" after slapping their child, but the fact of the matter they aren't, and they are smug about it.
You are all simply coping with how either you were parented, or how you parent, and you people simply can not stand, anyone suggesting that slapping children isn't the correct parenting tactic.
I've been around children who grew up slapped, and children who werent, and I will tell you that it is 100% the parents and the people who raise the children and nothing else that dictates their behavior, and Yes that includes sending them to public school to be raised by "Teachers" and whatever "students" are around.
Again, think about where you picked up your bad behavior you got slapped from, was it your parents or the shitty kids at your school?
So many people downvoting you and upvoting those talking about the abuse they received like it was this great normal thing.
They are coping so hard, because they are jealous they weren't treated like kids today..
You are 100% right that it is damaging psychologically, and they are deflecting so hard, and coping that beatings are what turned them into good people, and not good roll models.
My brother is a wonderful child, who has never been beat, and is the sweetest thing in the world. He cries horribly when he's in trouble, because he knows he did wrong and feels guilt. We did not need to slap that into him.
He has had strong male role models in his life, and had people around him with good morals, that is all that is needed to raise a kid right.
You lost me at "coping so hard..", "deflecting so hard.." and "coping that beatings.."
Come back to us StanceDancing. Your words wreak of too much time on the 'LibNet'. The fact that your on this forum gives hope that your still salvageable. Don't fuck it up. Come back to the light StanceDancing. Fight the dying of the light! Come back damnit!
Yeah it straightened me up too, but only a certain percentage of the population responds this way to spankings, and usually with traumatic side effect that people will deny because their parents loved them and don't want to accept that their punishment methods actually were damaging psychologically...
The issue with my generation isn't a lack of spankings, it's a lack of fathers and strong males growing up. Men don't have to hit children to teach them because children aren't animals they are small humans, so we should use the same methods we use with other humans.
"Damaging psychologically"? Yes yes, that's right. Sometimes when walking the hallway at work I'll pass co-workers up that will randomly flinch while cowering and looking up at me like Smeagol from Lord of the Rings. Then as I apprach a bit closer I can hear them say......"no,..no... papa! I didn't take any candy from the forbidden sugar jar! Please..no more spankings papa! Your going to give me psychological damage up until my 40's!"
They usually come to after I gently tap on their shoulder and tell them everything is gonna be ok. I tell them that life is gonna be fine and full of fucking gum drops and hello kitty shit. I tell them how they'll never encounter pain and trauma but if they ever should feel any fear that they should drop a little gum drop in their yapper and they will come back to "Unicornia" where a fucking unicorn will promptly wisk them away into the rainbow but not before giving them a tour of the hello kitty factory where all workers are 18 or older and suicide nets bounce you up like a trampolin into a ball pit made of warm Smores.
Fuk-outa-here Silo! We're talking about spankings not beatings. You need to Amazon yourself some testosterone, a Penthouse and a pack of reds and man the fuck up lol.
Fuk. I can hear Silo now.."Penthouse objectifies woman and you should really start looking and appreciating them for their barf..(whimpers)...blah..(crying)..blah..(lispy words)..blahh..blah.."
Thank you!. Getting my ass whooped saved me A LOT of trouble. Taught me manners and respect. Granted, my dad's old and frail now, so we are polite towards one another, and everyone else. Kek.
Yeah, because now he's old and you could be the one doing the spanking.
I very well could, But I do not see trying to justify that sort of behavior before the Almighty Living God, Father, and Creator. And I ain't looking for a whipping from Jesus our Lord neither.
I was an ornery little shit, too. 😉
My children on the other hand, Lord help me. What have I gotten myself into. 🙄
Did you have narcissistic parents? If not, be grateful.
The problem isn’t with the narcissist parents. It’s with the fragile snowflake kids.
Did you have narcissistic parents? Do you know anyone that has narcissistic parents?
Fuck off, kids don't need to be slapped into submission to turn out right.
If your parents needed to slap you because you didn't know right from wrong, maybe you should learn where you picked up the behavior that got you spanked.
Right because kids know right from wrong before they know right from wrong.
What in your estimation gives gravity to wrong? We know what gives "right" its meaning but what gives "wrong" it's meaning? Words, a talking to? Na. Words and a talking to are simply the warning sign. If one doesn't heed the warning sign than one does not get another warning sign. What happens in the real world is that one carelessly runs into oncoming traffic. If one were to be lucky enough to survive that screw up than consequences of that screw up have to follow. You don't get to walk life without some sort of consequence to bad actions even if one escapes death.
Part of parenting and yes part of being a good parent (IMO) is loving and part of loving is dealing out punishment even when it also hurts oneself to do so. One doesn't get to "parent" the easy way. Parents don't get to play with kids, take them on vacation, ball games and teach them to learn but then delegate the punishment to "life" or for the world to teach ones kids the lessons that should have been taught by the parent. Parents don't get to simply reap the rewards of the good times without also dealing with the agony of punishing our kids when it needs to be done.
With every spanking a parent gives it not only teaches the lesson but also indirectly teaches the kid that life is sometimes not fun but the job has to be done regardless of one's wants. Spanking is a purely selfless act. It ONLY benefits the child. The parent gets no future rewards for such an action. In fact the parent has to live with that decision in agony for ever. The parent caused pain to someone they love more than their own life. Do you realize, I mean really understand the gravity of such action? Parents take on the burden with no return other than the fact our agony will help the very thing we love more than life itself.
You are not only wrong but lack depth of thought and consequence. Your thoughts and words even deceive you.
If you teach your kid right from wrong then they will know right from wrong
You all can continue your "But kids won't know right from wrong unless you give them pain!!!" but that is factually, and psychologically untrue.
You are all saying that it is simply the correct way, and it is not.
And you harken that parents do it from a place of love, but no parent where it comes from love, talks about it with glee, and like it is something that must be done.
It is not a selfless act. Parents slap their kids as the easy way to teach them right from wrong, instead of putting the effort in the hard way, being a good example for your child in all situations, never letting your bad side show, never letting your temper flare.
The future reward, is the parents get to go around and say "My kid is good because we got whoopings when we were younger, and they got whoppings too." The reward for the parent, is teaching their child the same way their parents taught them, and feeling moral over it, like you.
I would love you to show me, all these commenters in "agony" after slapping their child, but the fact of the matter they aren't, and they are smug about it.
You are all simply coping with how either you were parented, or how you parent, and you people simply can not stand, anyone suggesting that slapping children isn't the correct parenting tactic.
I've been around children who grew up slapped, and children who werent, and I will tell you that it is 100% the parents and the people who raise the children and nothing else that dictates their behavior, and Yes that includes sending them to public school to be raised by "Teachers" and whatever "students" are around.
Again, think about where you picked up your bad behavior you got slapped from, was it your parents or the shitty kids at your school?
I can recognize when someone is talking about their own narcissistic "parents." I unfortunately know exactly what the deal is, fren.
So many people downvoting you and upvoting those talking about the abuse they received like it was this great normal thing.
They are coping so hard, because they are jealous they weren't treated like kids today..
You are 100% right that it is damaging psychologically, and they are deflecting so hard, and coping that beatings are what turned them into good people, and not good roll models.
My brother is a wonderful child, who has never been beat, and is the sweetest thing in the world. He cries horribly when he's in trouble, because he knows he did wrong and feels guilt. We did not need to slap that into him.
He has had strong male role models in his life, and had people around him with good morals, that is all that is needed to raise a kid right.
You lost me at "coping so hard..", "deflecting so hard.." and "coping that beatings.."
Come back to us StanceDancing. Your words wreak of too much time on the 'LibNet'. The fact that your on this forum gives hope that your still salvageable. Don't fuck it up. Come back to the light StanceDancing. Fight the dying of the light! Come back damnit!
I'm surprised you came back after getting SPANKED so hard for your comments.
Sorry, couldn't resist. (Yeah, maybe it doesn't work for you... that's okay fren)
Violence is the only language some people understand. Thats why cops carry guns.