I know many of us in here have had to navigate many, many difficult conversations with family, friends, coworkers, etc. Creating this thread in hopes that people will give some insight into how they navigate these.
My formula is to always work from a place of love, to question, and to never allow myself to be pulled into a state of anger. Once things devolve into that path, it makes it harder to move forward. Anger is also caused by fear and insecurity, which we don’t have if we’re speaking from the truth.
What are your thoughts and best practice approaches?
My co-workers and a few friends have fought me for years on this. I keep sharing screen shots and sending information I read here and on Truth and leave it there. It isn't my job or my problem to force others. They learn or they do not. However, I had an icu nurse come through last night. She said she'd been saving lives by sneaking supplements and ivermectin into patients. That being said, for every 20 that like to disagree, there's the one that comes through that brings a light of hope.
Seriously? She actually saved patients like that? This is exactly why I have hope. Once one person gets their hands on a kernel of truth, it’s only a matter of time until the dominoes start to fall. Thanks for sharing!
She rolled through Tuesday night. That is what she said. She said she wasn't playing the scam game and did what she needed to do. Zero fs to give. I thanked her.
I’m at a loss. I have fam still double masking and masking the kids. Literally brainwashed fear. Will not listen to anyone or anything but the fear narrative.
So sad for the kids.
That is sad. Have you attempted any difficult conversations or just keeping your space?
Very sad. Tried early on in the faux pandemic. Pointless.
Had another family member recently try to tell her masks were useless, etc. I got a hysterical phone call afterward with her claiming that something was wrong with so-n-so because they were “being so aggressive” which is highly, highly unlikely.
Honestly, I wonder what the kids think (grade school age) when everybody else is walking around unmasked. I have to wonder how this (mom’s hysterical fear) is/will affect the kids for the rest of their lives.
Unfortunately, those kids will have to work through some serious trauma. Try to be the light of love and courage that I am sure you are when you are around them. Lead by example and show them there is absolutely nothing to fear.
Praying for you and your fam, keep on fighting the good fight
Agreed and t/u.
A wise friend said to me long ago, You have to be ok living in the gray area. Not everything will be resolved with black or white answers. Be comfortable in the gray”
Just because you feel like a resolution is required does not mean that’s what the other party wants
Always first seek God for solutions to troublesome situations. The best answer is always to avoid arguments altogether. Observe and learn who your audience is. If you do this, most arguments can be avoided. Don't think you are going to change someone else's mind or 'educate' someone. It's a big mistake. Hubris and pride dominate the landscape. Concerning coworkers, there's no sense in hanging knives above your head at the place that provides the income you and your family depend on. Politics, religion, sports, etc. are not the tasks and requirements of your employment. Avoid them.
‘Blood is thicker than water’ is short for the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. It means the opposite of how people use it today. Your family is by blood. That blood of your family you share should be representative of the blood of the covenant and the salvation that came from it. Don't let the water of the womb dominate the relationship of family through worldly arguments.
Right. The hard part is is when you know you have a better way, but the delusion is so strong in another that they refuse to consider or even acknowledge your point of view. That’s the most painful part for me at least.
As you mentioned, important we stay grounded in asking God for guidance first and foremost. If we do that, the rest falls into place.
Insightful...
This prophetic word from Diana Larkin spoke to me powerfully about this very issue today. The 2nd half of this word speaks well to this issue.
I get shut down constantly by most of my family and it grieves me deeply. I’m grateful that my husband has been awakened. He used to say I was crazy and mocked me. But God massively got ahold of his heart, opened his eyes and set him free. We are now believing God together for the rest of our family. We share as God leads us but are learning to do our part and then leave it in God’s hands to awaken and open their eyes to the truth. This word ministered to me deeply today:
March 30, 2023
STRENGTHEN THE THINGS THAT REMAIN
“As you walk with Me through a way you have NEVER BEEN BEFORE, you will have more PEACE and more STRENGTH if you LEAVE BEHIND DEAD WORKS and LAY DOWN BURDENS I never asked you to carry. DEAD WORKS and unnecessary BURDENS only WEIGH you DOWN, SAP your STRENGTH, and open places for FEAR to enter into your thoughts and your heart. DEAD WORKS come out of the heart and mind of MAN. They have the APPEARANCE of GOOD, but they are NOT INSPIRED or EMPOWERED by My Spirit. Much of the Church HONORS the DEAD WORKS of man, but they eventually result in BURNOUT, and they bear LITTLE FRUIT. Ask My Spirit to SHOW YOU where there are DEAD WORKS in your own life because you do not want to carry them into this NEW SEASON where PARTNERING with My GLORY and FLOWING with the Spirit of LIFE will bring the POWER and GRACE of Heaven to earth. Partnering with My GLORY will bring GREAT FRUITFULNESS into your life, and you will leave behind the STRIVING and EXHAUSTION of DEAD WORKS. The same goes for CARRYING BURDENS I never asked you to shoulder. Many of you are CARRYING around the WEIGHT of your UNSAVED or STILL ASLEEP loved ones. This WEIGHT is EXHAUSTING, and every time you see a LACK of progress, you become FEARFUL and DOUBT TORMENTS your mind. I WILL CARRY THE BURDEN OF YOUR LOVED ONES, and My Spirit will CARRY THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BRINGING THEM INTO THE KINGDOM and for AWAKENING THOSE STILL ASLEEP to the darkness and lies surrounding them. I AM STRONG enough to CARRY this BURDEN—you are not. You will experience great FREEDOM when you hand over your loved ones hearts to Me. Remember that I love them even more than you do, and I have a PLAN to SAVE, REDEEM, and AWAKEN them. Your part is to pray that I will OPEN their eyes and their hearts and then you LEAVE THE RESULTS TO ME. You will no longer be TOSSED ABOUT and ANGUISHED over their actions or responses because you know they are in My CAPABLE HANDS. STRENGTHEN those things in you that lead to INTIMACY and REALLY KNOWING ME. Come HANG OUT with Me—I so ENJOY your presence, and I will IMPART My life and help you to STRENGTHEN WHAT REMAINS of Me in your life.”
Diana Larkin, A Watchman’s Journal
https://dianalarkin.blogspot.com/2023/03/march-30-2023-strengthen-things-that.html?m=1
Woah. This was a great, enlightening read and exactly what I think I needed today. Is this individual a prophet? Who do they speak on behalf of?
I’m so glad it encouraged you. It blessed me a lot too! She is a prophet, a follower of Jesus Christ.
Only ask questions. Never make assertions.
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Anger at family is meaningless and goes nowhere. Anger itself blinds one and crowds out logic and thought and inhibits proper action. Anger is ugly and worthless. Resolve is better.
How do you resolve when you are constantly ridiculed as an ignorant conspiracy theorist, gaslit etc? When everything you say is thrown back at you? Asking for a friend.
Mine won’t even read the information I send them (sauce that they requested). All are jabbed and RHINO’s. Sad really…can’t wait to get over the precipice - and say told you so. 😝
I think many are now very afraid.
Yup. This is where I’m at. Been called every name in the book, most recently was told I need psychiatric help. It really makes you start to question your own sanity when things like that are said to you.
I think if we work from a place of love and faith it helps ground us.
I don’t argue with loved ones and friends about what is happening. I’ve found it to be effective to point out things that interest the person I’m talking to. If you bombard everyone with everything going on, most folks will just think you’re nuts but when it’s just one thing you bring up that you know they’ll be interested in, they’ll research it themselves. When they see it’s true, they’re ready for the next pill of awakening. Never let it turn to arguments, you’ll get nowhere.
This is the most difficult part. It’s hard to tell where the limit is at times in what is flying too close to the sun. Sometimes you have to get burned to figure it out. Can be a painful, but also enlightening experience.
I am glad to say in our family we have just about one of everything and we have just resolved to love and accept each other as family...each taking responsibility for their own decisions in life. Sometimes, in order to be accepted with your views, you have to be willing to accept others with their views...we don't agree on many things... but we don't argue...I try to personally influence...but not always successfully....unconditional love is God's example and it works...sometimes I (prayerfully) have to love with God's love...some people are hard to love...
Great advice! I mentioned this in another thread, but I think this is best called “surrendering” to God’s will. Basically accepting the things you can’t change and doing our best to be a positive influencer. Awesome insight!
Ur a better tweety than I am. My precipice was reached a while back. And managing my frustration levels and the stupid is often difficult these days.
Apparently, I have some work to do. 😊
You know...I think age helps... I just reached a certain age where I was more accepting of the things I can't change...but I get how difficult family can be...and I truly feel for families that can't get past their differences...it can be very hard.
Well, I’m older then dirt but this seems to be a lesson I have to relearn occasionally. 😂
Blessings to you and fam.