What I admire most about Trump is his supreme confidence whenever he's around people. No matter who he's with or what situation he's in, he's always confident. I want to have that kind of confidence for myself.
I also want to have good social skills so that I can express my personality and form relationships. I'm not the best at this but it's something I want to get better at.
Does anyone know of any books or teachers that can help me build confidence and social skills?
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Norman Vincent Peale.
https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/10/donald-trump-2016-norman-vincent-peale-213220/
Dale Carnegie
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And read Trumps own books.
Yes, Norman Vincent Peale was a very key figure in Trump's childhood development. For some reason this is under-played. But should not be.
I thought Dale Carnegie wrote that book
You’re right. I mixed two recommendations together. Norman Vincent Peale is “The Power of Positive Thinking.”
"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle: A guide to spiritual enlightenment and living in the present moment.
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius,
The Enchiridon by Epictetus,
...and last but certainly not least...
'Think and Grow Rich' by Napoleon Hill
...I read this one about once a year...
Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
Also worth noting that confidence is often earned. You build confidence by winning and keeping the promises you make to yourself over and over again. It's a tough life that not many people really want, hence why so few people are actually that successful.
I'd recommend the following adjustments:
1.. Always pick the option you're most proud of, even when an alternative seems easier. Who are you at your best? Be that person when no one's looking.
2.. Doing the right thing should never be an exception. Change your identity to accommodate the practical changes you want to make in your life. If you want confidence, put yourself in stressful situations and come out on top. Do it because you're the kind of person who succeeds in those situations.
3.. Correct your self-talk. Never think anything bad about yourself. If you observe things you aren't proud of, quietly change them and let that be that. Self criticism should be constructive, not destructive.
4.. Change your body language. Put your chest out and smile. Be open, warm and present in the moment and truly feel like you belong wherever you are. People will subconsciously notice and accept you if you accept yourself.
5.. Change your own narrative. You can take the same exact life and tell the story of a winner or a loser by emphasizing different parts of the same exact chain of events. Why let yourself be a loser? You can just as easily interpret your life in a way that gives you power.
Start by creating the right mindset. “The power of positive thinking.” Written by Trump’s preacher.
The other part of this- reading is great, but only a part of the equation- practice. Put yourself in social situations where you feel slightly uncomfortable. Meet new people. Attend events, volunteer for.public speaking opportunitiea etc. Get out there, and keep getting out there. Keep doing that (and with some technique from the reading) and you'll get to where you want to be.
This 100%, The old saying goes practice practice practice. I suffered pretty severe social anxiety but a buddy convinced me it was 99% in my own head. He forced me to start going out every weekend to bars,social events,concerts etc and while uncomfortable at the start, slowly my social anxiety faded into the background. In retrospect, I now realize the fear and anxiety was my own making. I still get pangs of it every now and then but am 100x better just by "toughing it out" and repetition. Also be yourself, god created YOU and you have nothing to apologize for. I would avoid the books and self help as they are crutches to truly developing yourself.