My dear Frens,
Catherine and Bernard were married in the early 90s, just as they both were fresh out of their respective universities.
Bernard always was the most religiously exalted of both but, despite a few crises, they managed to keep their relation up and running until now. They have 5 kids and a grandkid was born sometime last year. Thomas, their second son, is my Godson. He’s a very nice and bright young man with a shining professional future. He’s the one who panickingly contacted me about this matter:
During the last summer, Bernard and Catherine went to visit Benin, a western African country where Catherine got seduced by a younger local.
Catherine, whom Thomas decribes as a cringe 15-year old brat, now declares she’s about to dump Bernard and settle with her lover either in Africa or in France. That young man, whose name I don’t know, is already the father of two young kids, which says something about his capacity for engagement as a husband and father, but also suggests, like many of his fellow people, that this might not be about Love, but rather about resettlement.
Thomas told me neither he or his 4 siblings are looking forward to even meet the young«Romeo», and, even if their father gave them a hard time, they gladly side with him.
I beg you to join me in prayers so Catherine opens her eyes and modestly admit she’s been «bewitched» by the prospect of a younger ardent lover. I pray Bernard forgive her and also adjusts his own self so they can remain together as a happy couple until death do them part.🙏🏻
May Catherine be able to see clearly and plan effectively for the future.
That describes a difficult situation, beyond my ability to imagine a reconciliation.
But for God, nothing is impossible. I join in your prayer that God help the family as only He can for the best outcome for all. 🙏
Sounds like my friend who has spent $10000. On someone who he believes is a celebrity and wants to escape all of the notoriety to run away with him. She needs to have a come to Jesus moment. He should keep doing whatever is right in his mind. Give it up to God. If she gave up on her obsession today, there is still the underlying problem.
God has a way of putting people into our lives that might not help our own situation, but it helps someone who's viewing it from afar. Let's hope Bernard has a lot of love and unstanding for his wife's behavior. They both will have a lot of soul searching to do if he has her back and she wants to come back. God has a way of making things right, if both parties want that same goal.
Open her eyes to see God’s truth!!!!
I think Bernard should cut his losses. I was married to an adulteress wife and I can tell you, you may forgive in your heart but you will never forget the betrayal of someone that broke their vows. Usually two sides to the story but the marriage is over as far as love and trust go. IMHO I will pray for God's will be done in this situation.
No doubt, why would I want him to take her back? Let God's will be done. Bernard may have just received a great blessing to see who he was married to. She may have been playing the field all along
Prayers are on the way. People can be blinded by "love' and a smooth tongue! Then because they are told what they want to hear, they feel the other person adores them. In this case, he is using her for resettlement. Once he gets out of the country, his personality will change. He will be done with her. I pray that God opens her eyes so she sees the truth.
You never mentioned how either Catherine or the 'other man' are financially supporting themselves. If neither of them are independently wealthy, this whole thing may peter out in short order. Then, the decision is Bernard's to make on whether the marriage continues.
Catherine is a speech therapist, she’s the one earning a bit. Bernard is continually depressed and doesn’t seem to want to find a work.
The other guy is 40 and still in Benin.