Its Maddening. I took care of my Mom, now taking care of my Dad.
Mom passed with my evil Karen Demonrat sister secretly claiming power of attorney and squashing the Will. Cost me six figures, and I am to nice to fight that Karen.
Now, Dad is being HUNTED by a Bullshiter Karen, that now has him in her trance. He is seven figures, burned me for an estate, cars, bikes, boats over the past ten years because he is mentally fading away quick. He gave all that shit to me, reniged, just like my sister and Mom.
The thing is, I sold my house seven years ago to take care of ' Dad ' when his wife, my step Mom died. Same month , my real Mom died. Covid hit.
Everybody went nuts. It continues, Narcisistic whack O's. Dad lost his legs, was saved by me three times via 911 emergency, hospital stays and long recovery.
Now, last six months, a Karen caught his eye at the pool, a fake. She is a total Gold DIgger and has my Dad in her tracktor beam. She is playing ' brain injury ' , broken wing, disaster. Needs help , victim routine.
I have been through this shit a million times, its designed to take the rich guy. And this case my Dad.
Help !!! WTF ? He is 82 now under the complete control of a 67 year old gold digger fake piece of garbage that I ABSOLUTELY HATE.
Please help me out here, she is Evil as Evil can be, a Demonrat as is my Dad, Its insane.
She wants a ring, marriage, every single moment, calls ten times a day and my Parkinson Dad is HOOKED. She is going for my inheritance, offers him nothing but lies and the grand " Chase Me !!! ". Now its beyond its arrogance and she pushed it to the limit.
He wants to marry her !
Total nightmare, PLEASE, HELP ME OUT HERE !
GOLD DIGGER HO GOTTA GO, ITS DISGUSTING . . .
ANY IDEAS, EXPERIENCE ?
Sister cost me $ 500K , This will cost me $ 2 Million.
So, Imagine a nice red MAGA ass burned by Demonrats and Karens. . .
I do not know what to DO ??!!! HELP !
Get a power of attorney or some type of conservatorship, as he is mentally disabled. If he is as you describe, you should be able to get it, if you act in time.
And get a barring order against these vultures, keep them away from your father and home.
Your right and Thank You ! , the problem is his doctors love him, $$$ Thats the part I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO GET AROUND $$
The general ' Friends ' , turn stories of me, meaning, he tells fake stories to compromise my authority.
So, Imagine a mutual friend comes over, opens the sliding glass door and asks, where is BAD Kona(Dog ?)
I hear this from afar, and have done Thousands of $ free for her ?
This is a heartbreaker, she is not being ' cool ' , she is being fed lies from my Dad.
Take him to other doctors! Thousands of dollars for foot work? Come on, Kona, you KNOW they are grifting him. If you are the primary care giver tell him you think he could get BETTER medical care somewhere else. As far as your future new stepmother, get in her face and tell her point blank that you have ElderCare looking into this situation and will be backing it up with a trip down to the local police department to let them know how she is gold digging on a dementia patient. Grow a pair, get tough, stand your ground and do not back down. Push FORWARD, go on the offensive because if you play defense long enough you will walk away without an inheritance. Lawyer up and have them give you legal advise and what avenues of recourse you can take. Don't be a shrinking wall flower. Fight, fight, FIGHT! GOD is in your corner....use Him.
One more thing....do a very simple test on him to see if he does have dementia. Place a blank sheet of paper and a pencil in front of him. Ask him to draw the face of a clock. Just use that simple phrase, "Hey, dad, can you draw me the face of a clock?" If he can, then the chances of him having dementia is slim, but if the face of his clock looks odd or incomplete then it is time to take him to a doctor who specializes in that disease.
The Mental part is an agreement, however, as mentioned below, his doctors love him for the $. . . Its insane. They go for a chat, in my Dads mind, yet his foot doctor takes the cash in the thousands.
Its why I am posting this insanity. They all play coy and its bullshit. We are being robbed of our parents, their vitality and mental health for cash. People HUNT FOR THIS AND STEAL YOUR INHERITANCE. INSURANCE POLICY, STOCKS, BANK SAVINGS, ETC. ITS SICK , SICK , SICK !!!
If you take him to the doctor appointments, the doctors should recognize that you are the primary caregiver. You'll need at least one to be your friend, as their money will dry out shortly after he hooks up with a black widow. But you'll need a lawyer soon if you want to take a stand on this. Find someone with elder abuse experience. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
TY, his doctors love him and his $, from medicaide, etc. its maddening. They make it almost social, both lavishing in the time and the Doctor , the payouts. MADDENNG !
First thought pay another woman to lure him away from Demonrat. Meantime call a shark lawyer who specializes in estate planning, That’s all I got for now.
Thank You Very Much for the insight. This means alot to me, because, I never thought I would be in this situation, family down the tube is sickening. Family as Karens and Demonrats is beyond that. They stole from me and dance on me. Because they know I do not stand for the Demonrats they stand for. Brainwashing, can take your heart out and hurt you real good. Expect Cold as ice. My sister was never cold as ice. Now, Dad, after saving his life three times, leaving my Job as a FireMedic, he mocks me, says I never saved his life. Ignores the fact he gave me the estate outright, then sold it. This is madness.
I need help, but this is not the first time, nor the last, they are coming for you people !
A really sharp lawyer will know how to tag her for elder abuse. Calm down. Observe. Write notes. Separate emotional from the logical. You are his son. He is 82. Clearly a cougar is circling him. Stop stewing about the past. Pray. And take decisive legal action. Cool as a cucumber.
Amen, your so spot on, TAKE NOTES, DOCUMENT. That is Spectaculat advice, Thank You. Breathe, yes Breathe. So happy I posted this , I was freaked.
Start today and everything you have said or done, document. Contemporaneous diary/notes are admissible evidence. Date and time stamp entries. Print entries and copy all hospital and dr orders. And find a good lawyer. Ask around. Lawyers are not created equal.
Thank You So much, she plays, " I am mentally impaired, brain damage, etc. " Then plays the role, its so hard to sit by and digest. . . Some, O. K. , we were very accomodating, but then it got to be like demand. Not cool .
You may have lost the window, when you could have gotten POA over your dad to protect him or a quit claim deed to his house in your name. In lieu of those, have a good attorney, and get a doctor to do a psych eval on dad. If he has dementia you could get POA probably. Also contact the senior exploitation ombudsman for your state and take their advice about what you can preemptively do to block sister or golddigger from manipulating your dad. Your situation is not unusual and the world is full of predators... as you are aware. Also, make sure you have medical POA for dad at the very very least.
This is very good advice. POA, is for me, unsure, when or how, especially now. Do you have suggestions. Thank You Very Much For Your Concern and CARE.
ask an attorney if you can get power of health over your dad, and can reimbursement be a part of that power of health as you do the work caring for your dad.
Dysnomia idea upvoted, be as wise as serpents (be wise to their ways and outsmart them)
Changing the phone numbers might be a thing to get subs breathing space too. I agree with buying a friend for him as well, one you control to keep him steady and safe.
Pre-nup! Have a lawyer explain to your Dad WHY he needs and would WANT one.
We gotta somehow make this relevant to a Q forum. Uhm, uhm, I know.
Use Q’s Socratic method to ask your dad questions about the situation carefully crafted to “lure” him back into the light.
Also I’ve listened to many podcasts about a low carbohydrate diet that helps with aging issues. Dimensions, Parkinson’s, metabolic disease. Could help him think more clearly.
I wholeheartedly agree that a carnivore diet aids the brain.. plus might not hurt to give him some ivermectin.
You can force your father to divorce under many POA documents. Get POA.